there is a vast amount of posts and threads about Calvinsim and all that stuff if anyone does a search of the forums. Here is an interesting post.....from 2020 no less....
The most quoted verse in Calvinsim is without question John 6.44 .
44No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
Such a major part of reformed theology hangs on this one verse .
But : 1) We hear no mention of ' drawing' in the epistles .Nothing about a necessary drawing of the Father ,in the way the reformers use John 6.44 .
And 2) The verse nor the surrounding verses say nothing about those that drawn, IF they all do believe when they come . it simply says they CAN come if they are drawn .
3) This is before the cross . Why is this used for the church age? Jesus had not died for the sins of the world yet , no resurection , no Acts 2 and no giving of the Holy Spirit.
4) John 12 And I,if I be lifted up from the earth, WILL DRAW all men unto me.
5) There are no verses after the cross that say the Father draws anyone , nor the Holy Spirit .
How can we even explain John 6:44 without the verse following it. Jesus is clear when he says in John 6:45 that “it is written in the Prophets, and they shall be all taught of God. Every man therefore that has heard and has learned of the father comes unto him." In other words, it is written, everyone shall be taught of God but it is only those who have heard and learned of God will the father draw to him. This places a personal responsibility on man to seek, learn and know God and acknowledge Him as God in order to be called or drawn.
For us to know God, we must be acquainted with His word. And to be acquainted with His word, we must first hear His word. Romans 10: 14 - 15, 17 says, "how shall they believe on Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher? And how shall they preach except they are sent? As it is written, how beautiful are the feet of them that preach the gospel of peace and bring glad tidings of good things. So then, faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God". When the Word is heard, faith is invigorated in the life of the person who hears the word. The bible says the just shall live by faith. And Jesus tells us no one comes to the Father except by me ---- because he is the Word of God {in person} and we cannot say we know God without first knowing his Word, neither can we say we abide in God without abiding in his Word.
The question of Irresistible grace is sweet to the ears, but, we must answer the question --- which comes first -- Faith or the gift of the holy Spirit? If faith then, the explanation of irresistible grace is flawed. I am yet to see in the scripture where the holy Spirit is received without first hearing the word
Is it every man that hears the Word that believes. No, as Jesus explained in the parable of the Sower.