So, if you have kids, a wife, mother and dad and they just happen not to be "elect"(as you perceive elect to mean), you're ok with that?
Does God love your parents, wife and kids like you do?
Does God love your enemies? (the ones who are lost non-elect sinners)
If God does not love your lost enemies then He requires you to do something He can't or won't.
Matthew 5:44 But I say unto you,
Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;...............................
45That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven:...............
Basically, what it's saying, is "to be like God is, love your enemies". So, if God doesn't really love all those lost people who aren't going to Heaven, then He just lied. And we know that ain't so.