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As a man, this has been a struggle. There are quite a few different females that I find attractive. But I want to talk specifically about two. i want to share a little bit about how i evolved. And what my conclusion is.
Before puberty, i liked thin girls with long blond hair. i sorta had a "girlfriend" in kindergarten that fit that description. Of course we were not a true couple. But as far as we were concerned at the time, we liked each other. But since I didn't pass kindergarten and had to take a year of readiness, I was held back a grade. She went on, and we never spoke again!
During puberty things began to change. I became most attracted to busty women. My interest in hair color gradually changed from blond to brunette. Then after some years went by, I noticed that on some days, I began liking super tall women. So this strange thing of one day liking the busty kind and then the tall lanky kind, didn't make me feel very well.
So I started asking myself. If I was presented with one of each, which one would i pick? I think the answer is, i would pick the one I got along with the best.
The sad reality about outward beauty, is it doesn't last. A relationship is built on what the two people are on the inside, and not on the outside. Yet, as long as Men have hormones. It's hard to reason with them. The human body doesn't care about morality.
I'm reminded of what God said to Samuel. Men looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart.
1 Samuel 16
Samuel Anoints David
16 The Lord said to Samuel, “How long will you mourn for Saul, since I have rejected him as king over Israel? Fill your horn with oil and be on your way; I am sending you to Jesse of Bethlehem. I have chosen one of his sons to be king.”
2 But Samuel said, “How can I go? If Saul hears about it, he will kill me.”
The Lord said, “Take a heifer with you and say, ‘I have come to sacrifice to the Lord.’ 3 Invite Jesse to the sacrifice, and I will show you what to do. You are to anoint for me the one I indicate.”
4 Samuel did what the Lord said. When he arrived at Bethlehem, the elders of the town trembled when they met him. They asked, “Do you come in peace?”
5 Samuel replied, “Yes, in peace; I have come to sacrifice to the Lord. Consecrate yourselves and come to the sacrifice with me.” Then he consecrated Jesse and his sons and invited them to the sacrifice.
6 When they arrived, Samuel saw Eliab and thought, “Surely the Lord’s anointed stands here before the Lord.”
7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
8 Then Jesse called Abinadab and had him pass in front of Samuel. But Samuel said, “The Lord has not chosen this one either.” 9 Jesse then had Shammah pass by, but Samuel said, “Nor has the Lord chosen this one.” 10 Jesse had seven of his sons pass before Samuel, but Samuel said to him, “The Lord has not chosen these.” 11 So he asked Jesse, “Are these all the sons you have?”
“There is still the youngest,” Jesse answered. “He is tending the sheep.”
Samuel said, “Send for him; we will not sit down until he arrives.”
12 So he sent for him and had him brought in. He was glowing with health and had a fine appearance and handsome features.
Then the Lord said, “Rise and anoint him; this is the one.”
13 So Samuel took the horn of oil and anointed him in the presence of his brothers, and from that day on the Spirit of the Lord came powerfully upon David. Samuel then went to Ramah.
Before puberty, i liked thin girls with long blond hair. i sorta had a "girlfriend" in kindergarten that fit that description. Of course we were not a true couple. But as far as we were concerned at the time, we liked each other. But since I didn't pass kindergarten and had to take a year of readiness, I was held back a grade. She went on, and we never spoke again!
During puberty things began to change. I became most attracted to busty women. My interest in hair color gradually changed from blond to brunette. Then after some years went by, I noticed that on some days, I began liking super tall women. So this strange thing of one day liking the busty kind and then the tall lanky kind, didn't make me feel very well.
So I started asking myself. If I was presented with one of each, which one would i pick? I think the answer is, i would pick the one I got along with the best.
The sad reality about outward beauty, is it doesn't last. A relationship is built on what the two people are on the inside, and not on the outside. Yet, as long as Men have hormones. It's hard to reason with them. The human body doesn't care about morality.
I'm reminded of what God said to Samuel. Men looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart.
1 Samuel 16
Samuel Anoints David
16 The Lord said to Samuel, “How long will you mourn for Saul, since I have rejected him as king over Israel? Fill your horn with oil and be on your way; I am sending you to Jesse of Bethlehem. I have chosen one of his sons to be king.”
2 But Samuel said, “How can I go? If Saul hears about it, he will kill me.”
The Lord said, “Take a heifer with you and say, ‘I have come to sacrifice to the Lord.’ 3 Invite Jesse to the sacrifice, and I will show you what to do. You are to anoint for me the one I indicate.”
4 Samuel did what the Lord said. When he arrived at Bethlehem, the elders of the town trembled when they met him. They asked, “Do you come in peace?”
5 Samuel replied, “Yes, in peace; I have come to sacrifice to the Lord. Consecrate yourselves and come to the sacrifice with me.” Then he consecrated Jesse and his sons and invited them to the sacrifice.
6 When they arrived, Samuel saw Eliab and thought, “Surely the Lord’s anointed stands here before the Lord.”
7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
8 Then Jesse called Abinadab and had him pass in front of Samuel. But Samuel said, “The Lord has not chosen this one either.” 9 Jesse then had Shammah pass by, but Samuel said, “Nor has the Lord chosen this one.” 10 Jesse had seven of his sons pass before Samuel, but Samuel said to him, “The Lord has not chosen these.” 11 So he asked Jesse, “Are these all the sons you have?”
“There is still the youngest,” Jesse answered. “He is tending the sheep.”
Samuel said, “Send for him; we will not sit down until he arrives.”
12 So he sent for him and had him brought in. He was glowing with health and had a fine appearance and handsome features.
Then the Lord said, “Rise and anoint him; this is the one.”
13 So Samuel took the horn of oil and anointed him in the presence of his brothers, and from that day on the Spirit of the Lord came powerfully upon David. Samuel then went to Ramah.
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