I am noticing an attitude among those who believe that God is responsible for our love life's.
As if we don't get a choice in who we love or not. God either makes us love someone or not.
Or that we will find a spouse irresistible...and therefore not responsible for loving them.
That's kinda nuts. Just saying....
God can answer prayer, direct, etc. when it comes to marriage as He does for other things in life.
A 13-year-old boy I went to Christian school said something like 'If God doesn't want me to go with her, why is he giving me these feelings?" as if God were responsible for his feelings. Boys and girls usually get those feelings from looking at each other and thinking about each other, IMO. I did not know enough when I was 13 myself to respond well to his question.
There was a preacher who was asked what he would do if he found that he no longer loved his wife. He said he'd get down on his knees and pray and repent until he did.
Some American's ideas of what it means to be 'in love' and the importance of these feelings are out of whack. Our marriages and relationships should not rest on some of these feelings. We are supposed to love our neighbors, too, but we do not get bent out of shape if they don't give us an emotional high and make it where it is hard to eat dinner because of the butterflies in the stomach.