Is there a chance to find a partner at my age of 42

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Lynx

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You're going to make me explain it...

Since we know you are an incel, we are now aware of your basic set of assumptions on which you operate. You assume you are cursed by fate. You assume women always choose a man based on materialistic or advancement potential values. You assume a woman is lying if she says anything that contradicts your assumptions. You assume a man is playing along with what he thinks a woman wants if he says anything that contradicts your assumptions.

Basically there's nothing we can do for you because you won't believe a word we say. But you sure need help because you think everything is against you.

Good luck with life.
 
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You're going to make me explain it...

Since we know you are an incel, we are now aware of your basic set of assumptions on which you operate. You assume you are cursed by fate. You assume women always choose a man based on materialistic or advancement potential values. You assume a woman is lying if she says anything that contradicts your assumptions. You assume a man is playing along with what he thinks a woman wants if he says anything that contradicts your assumptions.

Basically there's nothing we can do for you because you won't believe a word we say. But you sure need help because you think everything is against you.

Good luck with life.
good luck 2 u 2
 

tourist

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Curious, how would you define an "ugly" guy?

Generally speaking, both men and women are drawn towards people whom they consider attractive. Thankfully beauty is in the eye of the beholder. A lot goes into what is considered attractive, such as personality, confidence, intelligence, and to a degree looks. It is the whole package.
That's how I look at beauty too. A beautiful inside transcends into beauty on the outside.
 

proverbs35

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id consider myself part of the community i have like 50k posts on .is, does forced loneliness and involuntary celibacy devalue anything i said?
Actually, it does. This is a Christian forum. The majority of the members here have at least a basic Biblical/Christian worldview. The incel worldview is not based on rightly dividing (correctly handling) the word of truth per 2 Tim 2:15. The incel worldview is rooted in emotions like anger, violence, verbally abusive language and etc.

Anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
James 1:19-20

The incel worldview is at odds with the Biblical/Christian worldview.
 
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Actually, it does. This is a Christian forum. The majority of the members here have at least a basic Biblical/Christian worldview. The incel worldview is not based on rightly dividing (correctly handling) the word of truth per 2 Tim 2:15. The incel worldview is rooted in emotions like anger, violence, verbally abusive language and etc.

Anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
James 1:19-20

The incel worldview is at odds with the Biblical/Christian worldview.
the "incel worldview" is something made up by IT users and the media, incels are apolitical aemotional etc, its not a view on the world its just digging deeper into why women tend to be extremely picky and that will leave out low tier men.
some but not all are fine with being virgins or are fine towards women.
so what's your point i am a virgin man so i cant be here ?
 

FairWinds

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Whining isn't sexy. Do something constructive. If you can't get women oh well. Go do something with your life that makes you happy.

P.S. this goes to self labeled ugly guy not the original poster of the thread
 
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Whining isn't sexy. Do something constructive. If you can't get women oh well. Go do something with your life that makes you happy.

P.S. this goes to self labeled ugly guy not the original poster of the thread
quote me next time and any personality trait isnt sexy, i have a life i do alot of things throughout my day.
 

proverbs35

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the "incel worldview" is something made up by IT users and the media, incels are apolitical aemotional etc, its not a view on the world its just digging deeper into why women tend to be extremely picky and that will leave out low tier men.
some but not all are fine with being virgins or are fine towards women.
so what's your point i am a virgin man so i cant be here ?
The incel worldview is not something merely made up by IT users and the media. The incel worldview is being researched by psychologists, Dept. of Homeland Security and institutions of higher learning like Florida State University and Georgia State University.

Source:
https://news.gsu.edu/2019/06/26/fed...o-growing-male-supremacist-subculture-online/

https://news.fsu.edu/news/2021/10/1...terrorism-with-an-eye-on-violence-prevention/

Incels are not a-emotional. A-emotional is not a word. Spell checker doesn't even recognize it. Humans (male and female) are emotional beings because that is the way God designed us. There are plenty of examples of that in the Bible.

Incels are emotional. One of the primary characteristics of the incel worldview is anger. I mentioned that before. The Bible has a whole lot to say about the pitfalls of anger. I may list some of those verses later.

I do not determine your ability to be on this forum. That is not up me. The CC moderators determine who can or cannot be a member of this forum based on what they post.

To be clear ...
I am not responding to you in an attempt to change your mind or worldview. That's God's business. You will not change my mind about incels either.

I am responding in order to raise awareness about incels and the homeland security/national security threat that incels pose. Some here may not be aware.
 

seoulsearch

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id consider myself part of the community i have like 50k posts on .is, does forced loneliness and involuntary celibacy devalue anything i said?

You're not alone in that if you get to know some of the posters here, they will tell you that they are living involuntary celibacy, too (as in, they can't find anyone compatible or willing to marry them.)

I definitely understand forced loneliness -- I think most everyone does, as it's often brought on by life circumstances. I have situations in my own life that also keep me isolated, which is why I spent a lot of time on the forum.

But coming here and announcing that you think women are whores and mentally ill, then trying to "prove" anyone who disagrees with you is "lying" isn't exactly going to win friends and break you out of the cycle of loneliness.

While I would agree that if this is how you really feel, it's best to be honest about it and not put on a front you'd think people would want to hear, but believing as you do will also keep you trapped in a self-fulfilling prophecy of loneliness, because most people here will not want to get close to someone who hates the world -- or at least, the female part of it.
 
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NO chance at all. None. Zip. Sometimes you just have to face the facts! lol O.k., I'm kidding.

I think Rush Limbaugh said it best, life begins at age 40. By age 40, you know who you are, and you are probably not gonna change to much at this age from a personality perspective. Also, you probably a little better off financially speaking, than compared to where you were at in your 20's.

The bigger question is, why do want a partner? You have gotten this far without one, so why risk your financial, emotional, and mental well being for a sake of a relationship? Marriage has about 50% divorce rate, when woman typically start 80% of the divorces. Things to think about.

One last bit, if you do start a relationship with a woman in her child bearing age, she will most likely want to start a family, so I hope you are ready to have far less personal time, freedom, and disposable money, if that is the case.

With all that said, the best of luck to you in your que$t of a partner.
Hello Kinda,

I agree, you are right for everything in this statement. Yes, there is possibility for divorce of death, I accept it. But it can not stop us like humans to try to be happy, to love and to give. We are not here on Earth for forever.
Personally, for me the money are just a tool. Tool for ability of better education for example or to create and leave something behind. No more and no less. I will be happy to share my resources and together we will be able to achieve more. With two words, I do believe in the good part in us humans.
 
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I am sure you can still find someone to marry... 42 is still young for me...you look confident (though u said you are shy) no vices, working and quite a decent looking man.

And There's one I noticed lol you said you are a romantic soul 😅 I feel like many women will love that ☺


So, in my opinion you will and you can still find a decent woman. I am 100.05 % sure about it 👍
Thank you Kireina for this nice words! If you are able to see me now, I am smiling. Yes, I am romantic, for good or bad, but is is what it is. I like to bring a rose without reason, or just a few warm words. Or just an invitation for going out, to drew some cake. I am this type of person. From the other side, I am engineer. I like the home automation, as much as possible. So we will have more free time for us. Someone said about being married with kids will take more time and money. I do partly agree. There is always options for the automation to reduce the bills. Without moving our fingers once we install and program the system.
 

Lynx

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Engineer who likes automation...

Got a backup generator for if the power goes out? Or are you more into solar power? Just nerd-curious.
 
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The incel worldview is not something merely made up by IT users and the media. The incel worldview is being researched by psychologists, Dept. of Homeland Security and institutions of higher learning like Florida State University and Georgia State University.

Source:
https://news.gsu.edu/2019/06/26/fed...o-growing-male-supremacist-subculture-online/

https://news.fsu.edu/news/2021/10/1...terrorism-with-an-eye-on-violence-prevention/

Incels are not a-emotional. A-emotional is not a word. Spell checker doesn't even recognize it. Humans (male and female) are emotional beings because that is the way God designed us. There are plenty of examples of that in the Bible.

Incels are emotional. One of the primary characteristics of the incel worldview is anger. I mentioned that before. The Bible has a whole lot to say about the pitfalls of anger. I may list some of those verses later.

I do not determine your ability to be on this forum. That is not up me. The CC moderators determine who can or cannot be a member of this forum based on what they post.

To be clear ...
I am not responding to you in an attempt to change your mind or worldview. That's God's business. You will not change my mind about incels either.

I am responding in order to raise awareness about incels and the homeland security/national security threat that incels pose. Some here may not be aware.
by aemotional i mean not a set emotion for the whole group i know its not a word but you understood it, when i said the incel world view was made up buy IT users and the media dont send links to the mainstream media talking about incels, and if they were correct i would have slaughtered women by now.
 
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Engineer who likes automation...

Got a backup generator for if the power goes out? Or are you more into solar power? Just nerd-curious.
I like the simple solutions. mod the fridge, oven, house heating/cooing, a little bit the car. Yes, solar is good too. I am regular man, not too smart.
 

Lynx

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Hey man it all comes down to looks and that's about it if you have had a hard time getting girls when you were younger then the chances look very very slim, contrary to the popular opinion personality,confidence and other invisible traits mean nothing to women. I understand how you feel i am an adult and I've never even had a kiss due to my extremely poor looks. I doubt you are as bad off as me but id try the real world rather than online even though they are the same shyness is a death sentence in dating try get over it i am a shy guy too its hard but you have to really really try.

But in my opinion women are a bit of a distraction most of them are whores with kids with absent fathers, and they themselves are riddled with mental illness.
I'm going to ask a question somebody else asked you, but you never answered: Why are you here?

Your first post was a pity party. Poor me, I can't get a girl because all women are too materialistic and I'm too ugly.

When we didn't buy that, because we know women who are much better than you think they are, you spent a lot of time defending your assumptions about women.

Right now this is a time suck for you. You're not going to get a lot of people here to agree with you about any of the things you have said so far.

So why are you here?
 
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I'm going to ask a question somebody else asked you, but you never answered: Why are you here?

Your first post was a pity party. Poor me, I can't get a girl because all women are too materialistic and I'm too ugly.

When we didn't buy that, because we know women who are much better than you think they are, you spent a lot of time defending your assumptions about women.

Right now this is a time suck for you. You're not going to get a lot of people here to agree with you about any of the things you have said so far.

So why are you here?
i am not here for anyone to agree with me i understand no one wants to exposed to reality, i saw a thread then i posted that's it i can tell you guys are quite nasty and just all around asses, so ill go i know where i am not wanted and one of you probably a foid will cry to the mods about me.
 

Lynx

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i am not here for anyone to agree with me i understand no one wants to exposed to reality, i saw a thread then i posted that's it i can tell you guys are quite nasty and just all around asses, so ill go i know where i am not wanted and one of you probably a foid will cry to the mods about me.
If you'd stick around (but drop the poor-me attitude) you'd find out we're pretty nice people.

If you keep on with the poor-me attitude you're going to get a lot of disagreement.

If you just bail out now you'll never find out that we're pretty nice people.

Your call of course. Your life, your choice. I just don't see the point in you continuing to argue about how much you deserve a pity party.