Is there a chance to find a partner at my age of 42
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Yes, you still have a chance. You can find a partner/love at any age, but if you want children you better start now. You have a much higher chance with women in their 30s now, rather than 20s. Once men hit 40, it is much more difficult to get a woman in her 20s. This is because men in their 40s are seen as "too old". But, you still have a lot of options with women in their 30s.
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Just out of curiosity, are/were your parents happily married for a lifetime? If so, what is/was their secret to a happy, lasting marriage?
And if not, were you raised by your single mother or father?
Or neither?
I'm just interested in what led you to such a broad, sweeping, and extremely negative conclusion.
(By the way, I'm single and don't have any kids. As for my mental state, well, I never hide the fact that I've had a lifelong struggle with depression, so if you count that as being "riddled with mental illness," maybe I still fit into at least one part of your stereotype after all.)
And if not, were you raised by your single mother or father?
Or neither?
I'm just interested in what led you to such a broad, sweeping, and extremely negative conclusion.
(By the way, I'm single and don't have any kids. As for my mental state, well, I never hide the fact that I've had a lifelong struggle with depression, so if you count that as being "riddled with mental illness," maybe I still fit into at least one part of your stereotype after all.)
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In the older generations, guys ask multiple women out and one says yes. They keep asking until someone says yes. I think that is part of the confidence building process that happens early on, and rejection doesn't cause a sting later on in life. I don't know anything about you, but generally it is accepted that guys get a lot of rejections it is part of being a guy. For guys, it is not as much about looks/being "ugly" but confidence.
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My apologies somehow I missed you had replied. If my grandmother was alive I would be getting a hand to the back of my head for bad manners.
I ever say anything that seems like it is not bad, I am plagiarizing. Sure all I had said prior was something I read out of Cosmo or Redbook.
My personal advice would have been something like.......Hey bro go all third grade. Find a gal ya like and walk up behind her and just give her hair a good yank.
If she turns around and laughs at ya and smacks you on your arm playful and says you are a nut what are we back in grade school. Ask that girl for her number.
If she turns around and says have you lost your mind. Then suddenly your cheek stings from where she has slapped you. You notice she is pulling out her phone. You have to act quick. Apologize as sincere as you ever have. Heck through in some flattery. Maybe something like I am so sorry thought you were my friend Tiffany. She rivals the Mona Lisa for pure beauty. I thought she was alone in that regard.
I am mistaken though as heaven found the time to take it's paintbrush and paint beauty again upon the canvas. So my deep apologies I was not aware that there are two of you upon this earth. The more the stretch on the flattery the better.
You have to be real quick with your apology and flattery bro. Cause she is only dialing 3 numbers.....911 and if she completes the call the law will be on it's way. So that is more my advice which anything I suggest is always buyer beware and try at your own risk
Seriously, sorry I had missed you had replied.
I ever say anything that seems like it is not bad, I am plagiarizing. Sure all I had said prior was something I read out of Cosmo or Redbook.
My personal advice would have been something like.......Hey bro go all third grade. Find a gal ya like and walk up behind her and just give her hair a good yank.
If she turns around and laughs at ya and smacks you on your arm playful and says you are a nut what are we back in grade school. Ask that girl for her number.
If she turns around and says have you lost your mind. Then suddenly your cheek stings from where she has slapped you. You notice she is pulling out her phone. You have to act quick. Apologize as sincere as you ever have. Heck through in some flattery. Maybe something like I am so sorry thought you were my friend Tiffany. She rivals the Mona Lisa for pure beauty. I thought she was alone in that regard.
I am mistaken though as heaven found the time to take it's paintbrush and paint beauty again upon the canvas. So my deep apologies I was not aware that there are two of you upon this earth. The more the stretch on the flattery the better.
You have to be real quick with your apology and flattery bro. Cause she is only dialing 3 numbers.....911 and if she completes the call the law will be on it's way. So that is more my advice which anything I suggest is always buyer beware and try at your own risk
Seriously, sorry I had missed you had replied.
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Where DID you get these facts? Have you ever tried the magic glasses?
Magic glasses are something you get when you get old. Some call them reading glasses. They are magic though: Put them on and you instantly become invisible to younger women.
Try asking girls of different ages what kind of guy they are looking for. See how many of them say 50.
Magic glasses are something you get when you get old. Some call them reading glasses. They are magic though: Put them on and you instantly become invisible to younger women.
Try asking girls of different ages what kind of guy they are looking for. See how many of them say 50.
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Where DID you get these facts? Have you ever tried the magic glasses?
Magic glasses are something you get when you get old. Some call them reading glasses. They are magic though: Put them on and you instantly become invisible to younger women.
Try asking girls of different ages what kind of guy they are looking for. See how many of them say 50.
Magic glasses are something you get when you get old. Some call them reading glasses. They are magic though: Put them on and you instantly become invisible to younger women.
Try asking girls of different ages what kind of guy they are looking for. See how many of them say 50.
https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2018/08/online-dating-out-of-your-league/567083/
The study was also referenced in this link.
https://www.sleepsxstrength.com/at-...-it-might-be-unpopular-but-heres-the-science/
It takes into account various data and criteria which stability plays a large factor in how they come to their conclusion. My main thing I wanted to get across to him is life is not over for a guy who is 42 and studies and statistical data can back it.
It's unlikely, to be honest, if you do not get a woman 20 years younger than you.
Women aged 30 or older who are not married tend to be divorced (sometimes multiple times) or come from previous relationships, often with children, and most of these women are damaged and mentally unstable (many of them have psychological issues, depressions and addictions) and are incapable of loving another person (they even hate themselves, so how in the world could they love a man?). The divorce rate is much higher in second than in first marriages (which is already high too) and increases even further the higher the count you add.
In my country, it is traditionally said that if a woman is older than 25 and not yet married, then she is crazy.
Women aged 30 or older who are not married tend to be divorced (sometimes multiple times) or come from previous relationships, often with children, and most of these women are damaged and mentally unstable (many of them have psychological issues, depressions and addictions) and are incapable of loving another person (they even hate themselves, so how in the world could they love a man?). The divorce rate is much higher in second than in first marriages (which is already high too) and increases even further the higher the count you add.
In my country, it is traditionally said that if a woman is older than 25 and not yet married, then she is crazy.
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I think the older you are, the more baggage. That's just part of life. So yes, a 25 year old has less baggage than a 35 year old woman. That's one reason why women don't want to marry an older man either - more baggage. He is likely to have more baggage, taking out his issues with past woman on the current woman. In the past, women sought older men (like a man in his mid-30s for a late teen girl/early 20s) because he's had 10-15 years to establish himself. That's when a guy became "marriageable", when he is able to support a family. Rarely would a guy wait to his 40s to get married. About women being older and unmarried, I know how you feel as I wonder the same about older guys who are unmarried. There are actually a few older guys at my work who are unmarried, whom I actually believe are a good "catch" (combination of personality, job, looks for their age, etc.). I just assume they have never met "the one" or have been heartbroken in their past, but I don't have negative feels about them.
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I am sure you can still find someone to marry... 42 is still young for me...you look confident (though u said you are shy) no vices, working and quite a decent looking man.
And There's one I noticed lol you said you are a romantic soul 😅 I feel like many women will love that ☺
So, in my opinion you will and you can still find a decent woman. I am 100.05 % sure about it 👍
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Hi Mario,
I noticed in your profile that you listed your status as "separated."
May I suggest that one of the most important things you'll need to do if you're considering dating is to get whatever your current situation is sorted out first and have some time to yourself. Here in the USA, at least, "separated" means "still legally married," and for obvious reasons, Christians cannot date anyone who is married, as this is adultery.
I have heard of instances in which one spouse files for divorce but the other refuses to sign or agree to it, even though the couple has been living apart for years (and even have different partners,) so I know every situation is different, but the single most important thing you can do is try to take care of your current status as best you can so that you can have a clean slate and conscience as you move forward. You also want to make sure that anyone interested in dating you can have a clean conscience about it as well.
I'm not saying any of this in judgment because I am also divorced, and I believe that every situation is between that person and God. Some may be cleared to remarry; others may not -- the first step is figuring out is if God is giving you the ok or not once you've gotten past your divorce.
And once you get all that taken care of, be prepared to answer questions from anyone who may be interested. Any person who is serious about you is going to want to know the reasons, conditions, and Biblical standing behind your divorce, and it will be important to be able to answer their questions honestly without being bogged down in the past. No one wants, or deserves a rebound relationship (whether you or her or both of you,) nor should they have to pay for the baggage we've suffered in the past (but it's so much easier said than done, I know.)
Either way, I hope you get everything figured out with your ex first and allow God time to heal your heart.
I wish you all the best, and hope you will keep us posted!
I noticed in your profile that you listed your status as "separated."
May I suggest that one of the most important things you'll need to do if you're considering dating is to get whatever your current situation is sorted out first and have some time to yourself. Here in the USA, at least, "separated" means "still legally married," and for obvious reasons, Christians cannot date anyone who is married, as this is adultery.
I have heard of instances in which one spouse files for divorce but the other refuses to sign or agree to it, even though the couple has been living apart for years (and even have different partners,) so I know every situation is different, but the single most important thing you can do is try to take care of your current status as best you can so that you can have a clean slate and conscience as you move forward. You also want to make sure that anyone interested in dating you can have a clean conscience about it as well.
I'm not saying any of this in judgment because I am also divorced, and I believe that every situation is between that person and God. Some may be cleared to remarry; others may not -- the first step is figuring out is if God is giving you the ok or not once you've gotten past your divorce.
And once you get all that taken care of, be prepared to answer questions from anyone who may be interested. Any person who is serious about you is going to want to know the reasons, conditions, and Biblical standing behind your divorce, and it will be important to be able to answer their questions honestly without being bogged down in the past. No one wants, or deserves a rebound relationship (whether you or her or both of you,) nor should they have to pay for the baggage we've suffered in the past (but it's so much easier said than done, I know.)
Either way, I hope you get everything figured out with your ex first and allow God time to heal your heart.
I wish you all the best, and hope you will keep us posted!
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