Looking lustfully at woman

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How so? Perhaps inside of marriage, but I'm not seeing that outside of marriage.

ALL romantic relationships have some degree of sexual attraction. They have to. Don't tell me married folks suddenly become sexually attracted to each other when they say "I do." That attraction was there LONG before that, whether it was acted upon or not.
 
ALL romantic relationships have some degree of sexual attraction. They have to. Don't tell me married folks suddenly become sexually attracted to each other when they say "I do." That attraction was there LONG before that, whether it was acted upon or not.

I see your point, I would consider that 'physical attraction' rather than 'sexual attraction'. And I think those 2 concepts are different.
 
I see your point, I would consider that 'physical attraction' rather than 'sexual attraction'. And I think those 2 concepts are different.

Hmm... interesting. I kind of see them as the same thing - after all, why else would you be physically attracted to someone (not just appreciative of their looks) if not for a sexual nature? What would you consider the difference to be, and at what point in a relationship does it change from physical to sexual, and how does that happen?
 
Hmm... interesting. I kind of see them as the same thing - after all, why else would you be physically attracted to someone (not just appreciative of their looks) if not for a sexual nature? What would you consider the difference to be, and at what point in a relationship does it change from physical to sexual, and how does that happen?

A person can by physically involved without being sexually involved. If that makes sense; e.g. a couple can hold hands, and hug, etc but that's not sexual. Sexual anything is usually about self gratification, and I think that is the difference between the two. I think in the confines of marriage physical attraction evolves (for the lack of a better term) into sexual attraction. But before marriage I think a person is playing with fire.
 
A person can by physically involved without being sexually involved. If that makes sense; e.g. a couple can hold hands, and hug, etc but that's not sexual. Sexual anything is usually about self gratification, and I think that is the difference between the two. I think in the confines of marriage physical attraction evolves (for the lack of a better term) into sexual attraction. But before marriage I think a person is playing with fire.

I guess the definitions are the issue. I just don't think that the hand-holding, kissing, hugging, etc in that manner (i.e. romantic) are ever non-sexual in nature, at least to a small extent.
 
Nicely put. But I think everyone is kind of confusing lust and attraction... Albeit there is a fine line.

your right. no matter what, you will be attracted to pretty women, thats how it is....but thinking of having sex with them, now thats lust
 
It's hard. I'm glad I'm not a guy, but I have enough brothers, and male students to know that it's difficult, but God does not allow us to be tempted beyond what we can bare in His strength. He will ALWAYS provide a way out. The bible tells us what to think about. Trust me, I'm not here to judge. I am far from mastering it. But always remember this: Looking is NOT a sin. Looking AGAIN is! It's the last that is more likely to stir those thoughts. It's the later that makes them more difficult to get rid of.