Ok, full disclaimer, I'm married. But I saw this post on my FB feed and it's getting a lot of feedback. So here is the article,
https://thefederalist.com/2021/05/0...der-a-husband-like-you-can-a-starbucks-drink/
Now when I was single I spent a lot of years traveling and really didn't think about everything I wanted in a man, other than being a Christian. It was a back burner thing for me. But within this article is a link to an article another woman posted "Single Ladies List." Now from the perspective of a married lady I had a chuckle that this. And I thought it's no wonder men are so confused about what women want, I think they are confused themselves. The list is huge, but I want to try and post some and start a discussion, for both sides, about expectations in marriage. I look forward to seeing the answers. Here we go...
Boo must be:
1. -Expressive of love and devotion and affirmation of me
2. -Emotionally expressive, romantic, demonstrative in gifts and gestures
3. -Fun to be around
4.-Confident but not arrogant or cocky or unhealthily charming/too flirtatious
5. -Not afraid to pursue me, or if he is, he still does diligently
6. -Quirky, non-boring sense of humor
7. -Present, not distracted
8. -Easy to be around
9. -Curiosity about me, to study and know and understand and best love me, an interest in where I’ve come from and what makes me me
10. -Unafraid to affirm and show affection
11. -Great listener
12. -Is clear about his priority of me
13. -Sensitive and aware
14. -Not an approval addict , -Not an attention addict
15. -Notices and pays attention to little things: dates, anniversaries, details, places that are significant to us and me and him
16. -Values my words and contributions to conversation
17.-Pays attention to me when with friends, wants to serve and be near
18.-Sentimental and soft-hearted
19.-Rugged and appreciates nature and beauty
20.-Writes notes and communicates love regularly
21. -Whimsical and cares about living a great story together
22, -Loves children, old people, friends, family, lingering
23. -Regularly shows me affection in various ways and reminds me he’s thinking of me
24. -Supportive always, even in disagreement
25. -Cares deeply about my wounds
26. -Nurtures, loves and promotes my voice literally and figuratively
27. -Recognizes and respects my physical limitations with great love and sympathy
28.-Cares about and prioritizes and sacrifices for my needs
29. --Cares about my experiences with romance, loss, sense of curse, feelings of worthlessness, knows and tends to wounds
30. -Hunger to understand my background influences and experiences
31. -Not patriarchal
32. -Great with money
33. -Willing/adventurous eater -Loves exploring -Loves eating out, enjoys little luxuries -Plans vacations and trips with and for me
34. -Loves to cook with me and for me
Ok, this even all her list, but these are some of the interesting things she posted. I'd like to hear your opinions on this.
This is what you see on Tinder profiles and such...
Women with long lists of things they want from a man...
And men with lists of things they have...
80% of women are demanding a man who is 6 foot but 80% are shorter than 6 foot
Rarely do we see a woman bringing something to the relationship in these profiles
And so i wonder to myself, if a woman is so fussy with so many little things what is she really going to be like when we get to know one another.
If she hasn't even thought about having to sacrifice anything for a relationship than she is a typical pre-Madonna that will only cause pain. Its all "me me me". "I deserve A, B and C"... Why do u deserve more than anyone else?
It can be the princess syndrome... A girls daddy spoils her when she is a girl.
"daddy i want this" And its done. "daddy i want that" And its done
When she grows up thats what she then expects from a man
"i want this" "i want that"
It can be the feminist indoctrination at school
Either way it matters little now... The collapse of the west is upon us and like with past civilizations there has been many similarities. The rise of feminism, the deviation of sexual roles, the destruction of moral values, the abandonment of God