Now you're on to what I was saying. God is our parent and our groom, not our tyrant. That's why he hates Idolatry and blasphemy. It's the same as adultery's against him. He wants us to repent and come home because he loved us before he created us. He desires us to love him, freely, not forcefully. That's what free will is for and does if we have the capacity. We were disobedient before Jesus was born. He was born to take the punishment that we deserve. He wasn't forced to, in fact he didn't even oppose it. He chose to do it out of love for us, out of his free will. It works both ways. Or it dosn't work at all!
Love is the first gift of the Holy Spirit. Before tongues, prophecy or healing. Love comes first.
He never said if you obey me you love me. Case closed.