I hear you. But in thread after thread, posting after posting, you do not ever lay down precise argument carried to its logical end. You either ignore your opponent's argument, and/or post verse that do not contain wording commensurate with your claims. Each scripture is designed and put in place by a Mastermind to make a point that can be used to explain other points. All this though remains true to the immediate context and the broader context. It is a masterpeice of puzzle-building and puzzle solving. Man can only do one thing. Read it carefully through, with prayer, and stick to the rules of that language in which it was written. The rest must light from the Writer.
And my experience is that if you are true to what is said, you receive more light. The minute you formulate your own theory you get a warning. This warning is that if you follow the argument to its logical end you get into a mire of contradiction and absurdities. If you do not back off and retrace your steps, and you still force something clearly wrong, God starts to shut off the light. This is what happened to Israel at His First Coming. Our Lord Jesus hurt no one, spoke graciously, healed and enlivened, and fulfilled a multitude of prophecies. Yet the Jews still called Him into question. So our Lord taught only in Parables. He turned off the light for those who ignored the truth of the matter.
Each of us starts on journey in God's Word. It is unavoidable that the average human mind will hold certain concepts. But just as the learning process is as a child, for a profession, and in life, we must adapt our thinking to what is reality - NOT make our own reality. I admit that the level of teaching in the average Local Assembly is low. In Hebrews 5 going into Chapter 6, six things are mentioned as BASICS of our Christian Faith, and that we should leave them behind and move onto maturity. But if you test all the posters on this Forum, you will find 80% unsure of these six things. What does that tell us? It tells us that the level of teaching is very low in general. And this inadequate level of teaching leaves the average Christian mind in vacuum which, because nature abhors a vacuum, will fill itself with other things.
The correct way to deal with an argument that differs from yours, is to analyze it and decide, (i) does it have merit, (ii) did it make a mistake as to God's exact Word, (iii) where it is wrong, and (iv) what is the correct understanding. If it has merit it must be considered. It it went wrong this must able to be pointed out. And, after all, the correct thing must be shown. Just because it is new, or you haven't heard it before, does not make it automatically wrong. It must be investigated.