Yes it is a challenge, but not impossible. That's why only few find the narrow gate that leads to life.
Are you saying that we have free will once we're saved?
Also, you still haven't answered y question in post #41:
"Do you think that "free willers" are wrong because we say "we chose God"? Does that seem to you like we are "doing something" to get saved?
I haven't read the whole thread, but I am Reformed. I will answer this question if possible.
Either we are dead before Christ saves us, and HE makes us new creatures in Christ, or we are what? Half dead? 25% dead? Good people naturally? (Which contradicts Romans 3:23 "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,") If you are dead in your sins, how can you choose Christ? read this passage:
"1 And although y
ou were dead in your offenses and sins, 2 in which you formerly lived according to this world’s present path, according to the ruler of the domain of the air, the ruler of the spirit that is now energizing the sons of disobedience, 3 among whom all of us also formerly lived out our lives in the cravings of our flesh, indulging the desires of the flesh and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath even as the rest…
4 But God, being rich in mercy, because of his great love with which he loved us, 5
even though we were dead in offenses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you are saved!— 6 and he raised us up together with him and seated us together with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, 7 to demonstrate in the coming ages the surpassing wealth of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. 8 For by grace you are saved through faith, and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God;" Eph 2:1-8
Salvation is so much more than a personal decision changing you from dead to alive. I don't know about you, but I didn't have the power to change my life from dead, to alive in Christ. Only God has the power to make that kind of change.
I think that sometimes people who make a decision for Christ, God has wooed them, and brought them to a point for him to save them. So, did the sinner's prayer save them, or was God using this time to sovereignly save them? I believe it was God. Humans are not given the privilege of saving themselves!
I was involved with counselling and follow up with the Billy Graham Crusade in Vancouver in 1984. I watched thousands go to the front and say a sinner's prayer and sign a card saying they were saved. For follow up, I was on a team of 10 people, where we each had to phone 10 people. The idea was to help them follow up, get them in a church or Bible study.
I was very embarrassed, that none of the 10 people I phoned was interested in follow up. So did their decision save them? I don't think so! But even worse, the 100 people in our group we contacted, not one person wanted to follow up. And the leader of my group told me almost none of those thousands and thousands of people who were willing to sign a card, come to the front, and give out their phone number, followed up by going to church or a Bible study.
IOW, decisional regeneration doesn't work. God was NOT in that place. I have nothing against Billy Graham and his association, but what ever he did in the 1950s and 1960s that succeeded, no longer worked in 1984, and certainly doesn't work now. Decisional regeneration is NOT a Biblical model. We cannot raise ourselves from the dead. Only God can do that. Here are some final verses.
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 18
All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: 19 that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation." 2 Cor. 5:17-19
I do not believe someone who believes they saved themselves is necessarily unsaved. God could have saved them at any point. If they are doing works and bearing fruit, that is between them and God.
But how can putting God first, believing he took me from darkness to light, from dead to alive, and believing God is sovereign in justification possible mean I am not saved and going to hell? God controls my life, and I obey. And the more I obey, the more sanctified I become, the more I grow.
And remember, sanctification is synergistic. That means the Holy Spirit leads us, and we cooperate. But even not cooperating doesn't mean we lose our salvation, but rather the rewards of being a good and faithful servant.
Not sure that answers your question, but I hope it helps you make some sense of this soteriological debate!