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LiveLoveLaughWithTheLord

LiveLoveLaughWithTheLord

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I am on Day 1 of a decision to Move On from a very toxic relationship. It seems easier to stay in it than to admit that I really need to cut my losses and forge ahead trusting that The Lord will see me through this time. I should have never been in the relationship in the first place. It destroyed my former life and left me lonelier that before. I have to forgive myself completely and the others involved. This is the hardest part. Speaking with a friend about the ugly truth helped me last night to finally voice what I know is true in my thoughts. It gave it a voice that I had silenced and excused behaviors that were weighing me down. Hindsight is a very unfriendly fellow when you realize the gross error of your ways. Learning from my choices is my only consolation. If anything that I have learned is do not isolate myself from others and live with hidden secrets. Secrets can truly make us sick as the saying goes. My next job is to heal and find The Way back to The Lord's Purpose in my life. I so wished that I had trusted God's leading more in the past and not my own. It is true. God's Ways are not our own. We are bought with a price. Nothing is truly free. It is better in the companionship with other believers than on an island of our own.
 
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oldethennew

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the problem here in your post is that you seem to believe that you have some kind of 'net-work' surrounding you
that you haven't tapped into as yet???
wrong!!!
if God has put you into a place of great need, He is telling you that you only need HIM...
:):)
PRO. 3:5-6. Trust in the LORD with all your heart; and lean not unto your own understanding.
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In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your paths.
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Be not wise in your own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.
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(((It shall be health to your navel, and marrow to your bones.)))
 
Roughsoul1991

Roughsoul1991

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LiveLoveLaughWithTheLord said:
I am on Day 1 of a decision to Move On from a very toxic relationship. It seems easier to stay in it than to admit that I really need to cut my losses and forge ahead trusting that The Lord will see me through this time. I should have never been in the relationship in the first place. It destroyed my former life and left me lonelier that before. I have to forgive myself completely and the others involved. This is the hardest part. Speaking with a friend about the ugly truth helped me last night to finally voice what I know is true in my thoughts. It gave it a voice that I had silenced and excused behaviors that were weighing me down. Hindsight is a very unfriendly fellow when you realize the gross error of your ways. Learning from my choices is my only consolation. If anything that I have learned is do not isolate myself from others and live with hidden secrets. Secrets can truly make us sick as the saying goes. My next job is to heal and find The Way back to The Lord's Purpose in my life. I so wished that I had trusted God's leading more in the past and not my own. It is true. God's Ways are not our own. We are bought with a price. Nothing is truly free. It is better in the companionship with other believers than on an island of our own.
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I so wished that I had trusted God's leading more in the past and not my own.
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It is often the Christian experience to utter these words. But it is our past that refined us. What we went through like it or not does change our former self. Living in the past means you stay in that cataclysm of a divide between the former and who you are now. It doesn't work. You only have control of the present. But by living in the present you set the destination for the future. Like a sailboat you point the sails at the proper angle and let the wind move you. Let your choices guide you as time moves you. Are you going to become stronger today for what you went through or are you going to continue to let it imprison or destroy you?
 
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Oma19

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LiveLoveLaughWithTheLord said:
I am on Day 1 of a decision to Move On from a very toxic relationship. It seems easier to stay in it than to admit that I really need to cut my losses and forge ahead trusting that The Lord will see me through this time. I should have never been in the relationship in the first place. It destroyed my former life and left me lonelier that before. I have to forgive myself completely and the others involved. This is the hardest part. Speaking with a friend about the ugly truth helped me last night to finally voice what I know is true in my thoughts. It gave it a voice that I had silenced and excused behaviors that were weighing me down. Hindsight is a very unfriendly fellow when you realize the gross error of your ways. Learning from my choices is my only consolation. If anything that I have learned is do not isolate myself from others and live with hidden secrets. Secrets can truly make us sick as the saying goes. My next job is to heal and find The Way back to The Lord's Purpose in my life. I so wished that I had trusted God's leading more in the past and not my own. It is true. God's Ways are not our own. We are bought with a price. Nothing is truly free. It is better in the companionship with other believers than on an island of our own.
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Congratulations!! I hear much wisdom in what you've said here. You were enticed into a bad relationship and you believed lies that led you there. Now you're seeing the light and you're speaking the truth over your situation. Good for you!
The first step to wisdom is to fear God and to seek Him out. Keep asking Him to lead you and listen for Him. Read the Word and get to know Him by how He describes Himself, how He moves in the lives of people. The Bible says that Jesus is the exact representation of the Father, and Jesus said that He only does and says what He sees the Father do and say. So you CAN know God and can hear His voice in your life.
I'm so glad you're learning.
Don't kick yourself. Mourn your losses, but know that God is on your side and He loves you. We ALL learn the hard way; but the TRUTH sets you free, and you are seeking the Truth. And that is exactly what God loves---when we are looking for, asking for, hunting down God and His leading in our lives. You are right where God wants you and He loves you.
 
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Katz_123

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Hello! I just got out of a relationship that was not going anywhere. The person was not loyal to me and I knew that we were both far from God and not moving in the right direction. God has healed me from my pain through allowing me and giving me the mercy to forgive my ex. If you are in the wrong then ask for forgiveness and then forgive yourself and look to God to lead you to where He wants you to be. God works everything for the good of those who love Him. There is nothing that can separate us from His love and He is close to the broken-hearted.
 
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Jodykay

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LiveLoveLaughWithTheLord said:
I am on Day 1 of a decision to Move On from a very toxic relationship. It seems easier to stay in it than to admit that I really need to cut my losses and forge ahead trusting that The Lord will see me through this time. I should have never been in the relationship in the first place. It destroyed my former life and left me lonelier that before. I have to forgive myself completely and the others involved. This is the hardest part. Speaking with a friend about the ugly truth helped me last night to finally voice what I know is true in my thoughts. It gave it a voice that I had silenced and excused behaviors that were weighing me down. Hindsight is a very unfriendly fellow when you realize the gross error of your ways. Learning from my choices is my only consolation. If anything that I have learned is do not isolate myself from others and live with hidden secrets. Secrets can truly make us sick as the saying goes. My next job is to heal and find The Way back to The Lord's Purpose in my life. I so wished that I had trusted God's leading more in the past and not my own. It is true. God's Ways are not our own. We are bought with a price. Nothing is truly free. It is better in the companionship with other believers than on an island of our own.
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Praying for you
 
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Oma19

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Good for you! I'm so glad you have a friend who helped you to see the truth and what you need to do.
Ask God's forgiveness (He always gives it freely when we really are sorry and repent, and it sounds like you are doing exactly that), and move on.
I suggest that you get some good personal counseling from a trusted Christian counselor or a wise, older married woman---someone who has succeeded in marriage relationship and whose children are succeeding in relationship. It could help you to avoid another trap in the future! God bless you, dear girl.
 
SoulWeaver

SoulWeaver

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You already gained wisdom for this situation now praying for your courage, comfort, peace and joy as you proceed in faith into better things that God prepared for you. Amen in Jesus' name
 
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