There is a lot to say on this topic but Mr. JohnR7 you have missed a very important point. It is the wifes responcibility to submit to Christ FIRST and then out of obedeince to Christ she should submit to her husband and it doesn't matter how submisive to Christ her husband is, because her walk with Christ is more important to Christ then her husbands walk with Christ. This doesn't make the wife a lesser form of life because the wife and husband are equal in the eyes of God. The same goes for the Husband. His ultimate responsibility is to put Christ FIRST and foremost in his life and out of Obedience to Christ he will treat his wife with respect and loving kindness just as Christ treated the church. The husbands walk with God doesn't keep his wife from going to heaven or hell. Only she has the authority over her own life's decisions and the same applies for the husband.Just as the husband is to submit to Christ. So her submission is to Christ not her husband. If he asks her to do something ungodly she is not to submit to that. So she is only to submit to her husband to the degree that he is in submission to Christ.
The wife submitting to the husband is the role set out By God for the wife and the Husband cherishing, respecting, protecting and loving his wife as Christ loved the church is the role set forth for the husband by God.