Their brains have been spoiled
Some people have really sick ideas about these exams. I have never heard of anyone who looks forward to pelvic exam. Also general immaturity and insecurity abounds. Weak ego is projected onto the imaginary future wife to lord over and gnaw like a bone.
I personally prefer a female gyn because exam is relatively invasive. That being said at this point of life I don't care that much about gyn gender as I did when I was younger. Husband dislikes the idea of me going to male gyn but it's not like it would be a hill to die on, he doesn't have paranoia about male doctors he is more concerned about my own comfort and having a less unpleasant exam.
I think men have better perception that women are delicate so they guard themselves from being too rough, and that male doctors are usually kinder and gentler (as my all friends say). Meanwhile many women get into "bro" mode and rough things up because we are same gender. We only mentioned this once many years ago, it's a preference not Sharia law, and never did he rack his brain about previous or future exams or what if there's no female doctor available some day, of course that common sense dictates that best health care takes precedence... If he treated me like some participants here see women like some second grade creature that should take shoes off and bow to them 5 times a day, first we wouldn't be married to begin with, second there's no controlling in our house and he is the one who wanted it established watching how most people live, so there's no domestic tragedy in the house. No controlling, manipulating, nagging, forcing and so on, by either side.
As for all those who want to go back to Adam and Eve, a little memo it's always good to remember.
What "helpmate" is not: second fiddle to the boss, second grade citizen.
What "helpmate" is: person on the same team.