ok here is my best possible answer at the moment
@Discern
imaginary man 1 - does the things you said and loved every moment of it... felt he was justified too cause that wife was annoying and these new ladies have much more fun with him than she did
man 2 - divorced his wife wrongly.... regretted it but instead of trying to fix it the right way... went into vices... like sleeping around.... it messed with his head but he could tone it out when his body asked... lived this way for years and never quit
man 3 - divorced his wife rightfully so (she wasted all of what God provided was a horrible and dangerous person for him and their children).... and it tore him appart... he tired to fix things but she was too dangerous..... a few times through out his life he did something he KNEW he shouldnt and broke down every time.... he had a plan with a woman he was unsure about and passed away but constantly felt awful and deeply desired a more righteous life and hated his flesh and own weakness
all of these men have messed up
all of these men need mercy equally
1 seems to be a false convert.... a liar who uses Jesus name... void of a new heart
2 seems lost as well... maybe a somewhat less than completely ruined conscience...
3 seems like an immature sappling who had a weak relationship with his Father which lead to weak results in terms of growth...
but i am man
not God
if God told me all three were saved... i should be grateful for what He has done in my life and share THAT with those who seem to be like man number 2 and 3 while i avoid fellowship with 1 because he calls evil good and good evil