You be you and do what makes you comfortable. God created us all unique and people who tell people what to do might not necessarily know the big picture. I will say God knows what's best for us, so keep on seeking Him for wisdom and direction.
Doing your own thing
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You be you and do what makes you comfortable. God created us all unique and people who tell people what to do might not necessarily know the big picture. I will say God knows what's best for us, so keep on seeking Him for wisdom and direction.
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To answer the OP's questions...
I'm an ISFP and I don't like being told what to do, nor do I like being in control of others. I enjoy independence. I don't mind input of others if I see they want my best interest at heart, but I usually will do my own thing (especially being single). This does change if I ever get married again... then it's about us. I wouldn't want to marry someone who wears the pants, nor would I want someone who wants to be totally submissive and indecisive as I like doing things she would want to do.
I think generally men don't mind if the woman knows more in subjects than they do...the bigger picture is when someone flaunts it. As long as humility is shown, I wouldn't care. I think both men and women could treat anyone as airheads... just to calm the male bashing down a bit
IQ doesn't matter, kindness matters. God created us all beautiful, until we make choices that doesn't make us beautiful. I choose to hang around those that show the fruits of the spirit. It doesn't hurt to learn or grow instead of staying content in our knowledge.
What is an ISFP?
Personality score on Myers Briggs. Sorry, that probably wasn't necessary on my post, but it might shed some light to people who know what that means.
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EleventhHour
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I once took the MMPT .....the Minnesota Multi Phasic Personality Test boy was that a chore..
500 questions...sigh
If women wore helmets while out on a date with me they’d have less headaches.
This has no bearing on you, it’s just something that came to mind while reading your post. In seminary we were told when ministers marry other ministers there’s an 80% divorce rate which is the highest among any civilian profession on the planet.
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EleventhHour
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If women wore helmets while out on a date with me they’d have less headaches.
Perfect come back.....too funny!!
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EleventhHour
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Don’t worry, there’s two or three I can hear through the keyboards.I guess this explains your presence on discussion board.
ISFP indicates a person who is energized by time spent alone (Introverted), who focuses on facts and details rather than ideas and concepts (Sensing), who makes decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and who prefers to be spontaneous and flexible rather than planned and organized (Perceiving).
If anyone wants to look online for this, search for MMPI, instead. (There are several levels.)
I did the test and Im an INFP thats what it always seems to comes up with for me.To answer the OP's questions...
I'm an ISFP and I don't like being told what to do, nor do I like being in control of others. I enjoy independence. I don't mind input of others if I see they want my best interest at heart, but I usually will do my own thing (especially being single). This does change if I ever get married again... then it's about us. I wouldn't want to marry someone who wears the pants, nor would I want someone who wants to be totally submissive and indecisive as I like doing things she would want to do.
I think generally men don't mind if the woman knows more in subjects than they do...the bigger picture is when someone flaunts it. As long as humility is shown, I wouldn't care. I think both men and women could treat anyone as airheads... just to calm the male bashing down a bit
IQ doesn't matter, kindness matters. God created us all beautiful, until we make choices that doesn't make us beautiful
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EleventhHour
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...and people wonder what it is that led Eve to eat the fruit. You’re more like her than you care to admit.
I so identify with Eve and made the same sorts of mistakes she did that was the first thing that struck me when I first read the Bible. But God has redeemed me, so I am thankful.
I dont know if men always identify with Adam, but I do notice that men more than women are just so AFRAID of being alone, they really get tetchy if they dont have a woman around (to look after them?). Its like they cant even function.
my doing my own thing thread.
I had some further thoughts on this.
For me, I think a lot of it stems from having a somewhat bossy sister, and she didnt want an annoying little sister around, so I either did everything she did but then it was claimed to be copying, or I did my own thing different to what she did and was much happier.
someone mentioned why did I think this doesnt work to be a wife in relationship. well, husbands are meant to be the head in a christian marriage, if the wife is the head then it means the husband is not, and that makes its even MORE work for the wife to look after him (and also makes him more like a baby, sorry)
so of those options its better to be single.
as I never had an older brother, it is totally foreign for me to think girls should wait for boys first. we girls did everything first as there were no boys around.
In the Bible its almost always the first born is a son. I dont know if God made it that way, but you almost never have a first born daughter in the Bible.
I had some further thoughts on this.
For me, I think a lot of it stems from having a somewhat bossy sister, and she didnt want an annoying little sister around, so I either did everything she did but then it was claimed to be copying, or I did my own thing different to what she did and was much happier.
someone mentioned why did I think this doesnt work to be a wife in relationship. well, husbands are meant to be the head in a christian marriage, if the wife is the head then it means the husband is not, and that makes its even MORE work for the wife to look after him (and also makes him more like a baby, sorry)
so of those options its better to be single.
as I never had an older brother, it is totally foreign for me to think girls should wait for boys first. we girls did everything first as there were no boys around.
In the Bible its almost always the first born is a son. I dont know if God made it that way, but you almost never have a first born daughter in the Bible.
I’m my own mistress. I have no boss, partner or spouse. I answer to God alone.
I’m self-directed with spiritual and natural gifting in leadership. I will follow someone whose vision, experience, and plan is sound and resonates with my spirit. Wisdom and a giant dollop of commonsense aides my foresight. If I suspect the present course is incorrect I’ll shift gears. Sabotage for the sake of being right is not in my DNA. Nor is going over a cliff.
I value knowledge and seek to use and amplify the abilities God has given me. My reliance on Him is foremost. Knowledge has its place. But I value discernment, understanding and wisdom in equal measure. Possessing information without insight for its use and application is akin to an encyclopedia. Just a lot of facts stored in ones head.
I seek expertise in the subjects related to my calling and those which enable me to impact others for His glory. There are topics I never explore because their usefulness is minimal at best. My aim is to be the best person I can in the position I’ve been placed within the body. I have no need to master another person’s role.
In like fashion, I look for suitors whose wants and needs correlate with my passions and abilities. It isn’t enough to like the idea of its presence. He must demonstrate necessity to some measure. It’s my responsibility to form an alliance that utilizes my person and allows room for growth. Otherwise, boredom and discontent will creep in.
Personality wise, I prefer leaders whose intellect and mental agility complement my own. Someone bookish who is devoid of social and conversational skills would be incompatible. I don’t need a scholar. I’m happier with well-rounded gentlemen who are adaptable and open to new experiences.
When I engage with a suitor, I listen for input on my welfare, suggestions for improvement. or areas he wants to provide assistance with. In short, I’m determining how he’s adding to my life. There’s little reason to form a relationship if I don’t trust his judgment. If I need autonomy I can remain as I am.
For me, it isn’t a question if I’ll follow him. But whether he’s worthy of my obeisance and surrender.
I’m self-directed with spiritual and natural gifting in leadership. I will follow someone whose vision, experience, and plan is sound and resonates with my spirit. Wisdom and a giant dollop of commonsense aides my foresight. If I suspect the present course is incorrect I’ll shift gears. Sabotage for the sake of being right is not in my DNA. Nor is going over a cliff.
I value knowledge and seek to use and amplify the abilities God has given me. My reliance on Him is foremost. Knowledge has its place. But I value discernment, understanding and wisdom in equal measure. Possessing information without insight for its use and application is akin to an encyclopedia. Just a lot of facts stored in ones head.
I seek expertise in the subjects related to my calling and those which enable me to impact others for His glory. There are topics I never explore because their usefulness is minimal at best. My aim is to be the best person I can in the position I’ve been placed within the body. I have no need to master another person’s role.
In like fashion, I look for suitors whose wants and needs correlate with my passions and abilities. It isn’t enough to like the idea of its presence. He must demonstrate necessity to some measure. It’s my responsibility to form an alliance that utilizes my person and allows room for growth. Otherwise, boredom and discontent will creep in.
Personality wise, I prefer leaders whose intellect and mental agility complement my own. Someone bookish who is devoid of social and conversational skills would be incompatible. I don’t need a scholar. I’m happier with well-rounded gentlemen who are adaptable and open to new experiences.
When I engage with a suitor, I listen for input on my welfare, suggestions for improvement. or areas he wants to provide assistance with. In short, I’m determining how he’s adding to my life. There’s little reason to form a relationship if I don’t trust his judgment. If I need autonomy I can remain as I am.
For me, it isn’t a question if I’ll follow him. But whether he’s worthy of my obeisance and surrender.