There is nothing in Scriptures that teaches that if a person sexually gratifies themselves they have committed a sin. It is usually the method that a person uses to sexually gratify themselves that is considered sinful. such as porn usage.
A person who sexually gratifies themselves on a regular basis will have need to have outside support to continue said behavior. For example a person who desires to masturbate daily, will need outside support in order to do so, such as looking at porn. Opposed to a person who masturbates once a month, needs no outside support.
So then
determinedBeing7631 Do it less often, so that when you do need to sexual gratify yourself you can think of your husband in whatever way you desire to achieve desired goal. You only need the porn because you desire to do it more than you actually need to do it.
And if you are one of those who feel like you absolutely need to look at porn, then make some porn with your spouse, and when he/she is gone, look at those to do what you feel is needed. What is sinful is lusting after those who are NOT your spouse, nothing wrong with lusting after you spouse, even with pictures or videos.
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DiscipleDave
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I know your post is over a year old, but I like to bring forth my view on masturbation. The questions that has to be asked is, not if masturbation is wrong, but can a person masturbate without fantasizing, in other words, portraying in the mind porn or thinking of sexual gratification with women? Is it okay for person who never got married to masturbate to release sexual tension? Is it okay for a married man to masturbate? I will briefly respond to the three questions talking to the men ...
1) Can a person masturbate without fantasizing, in other words, portraying in the mind porn or thinking of sexual gratifications with other women? I will say this... that even though one can, most likely a high percentage can't. In my opinion, I will say over 90s will fantasize because it is extremely difficult to not fantasize about other women while masturbating.
2) Is it okay for person who never got married masturbate to release sexual tension? I know that in the human anatomy sexual tension comes upon a man, but the question is... What moved the person to want to masturbate, was it a though, was it that they saw a beautiful woman or is that the body just created this sexual tension? Only the person himself know, but again, a high percentage cannot escape the thought of fantasizing about other women.
3) Is it okay for a married man to masturbate? I would follow with this question... Why would a married man want to masturbate, doesn't he have a wife? Then one might say, that he masturbates because he cannot be intimate with his wife due to some kind of medical issues that she in going through that involves sex. The question I bring forth, doesn't your wife have hands that can arouse you to release you from that sexual tension? Now, assuming that the wife actually depriving the husband from intimacy whether it is through sex or arousing with the hands? Then there is a problem with the marriage, you need council and I would refer you to read again number two.
Scriptures is not clear in the subject of masturbation, and maybe because God knows all things, but remember that if a man masturbates fantasizing in porn or with other women, then I will say that it is sinful, but if he masturbates without those thoughts, but just to release that sexual tension that fell upon him then I will safely say it is not wrong. The danger here is that one can condition themselves to masturbate all the time, which will ultimate cause them to do it with filth, sinning against God.
I hope that with the above, God through his Spirit is able to open your eyes, giving you an understanding of this topic, and to strengthen you if you have a problem with masturbation. It is a difficult subject to talk about and many will not discuss it and if they do, most likely they will not be direct, they leave it to the individual to decide for themselves. With this being said, I will safely state that one can masturbate to release sexual tension, but only if they do it focusing on just releasing the sexual tension that came upon them and not fantasize, but remember, it is extremely difficult to masturbate without fantasizing and the danger in masturbating is that one can condition himself to continue masturbating and that is dangerous for the above reasons.
