I Don't Like Men

[JamOn]

I know vineyard you hold on to your dislikes like Linus and his blanket

 

[JamOn]

It's terrible advice, because someone who is struggling with an emotional situation of this nature is in no condition to be starting a relationship. It is far better (and more respectful to a future partner) to deal with the situation first.

You really think the OP is struggling I don’t think so

 

[Locoponydirtman]

omgosh I stopped taking anyone serious since the 4th post on this thread when it actually got derailed and not by my second comment, like someone said. And everyone still seems to be wanting to chime in, making assumptions. I think I have the right to be on here if I paid, that doesn't mean I'm not seeking help or genuinely want it, so for people to say that I am not being genuine only cause I'm still here, is ridiculous. lol I am appalled.

Of course you have the right and freedom to be on here. I don't think that anyone is saying that you are not being genuine. I also don't think anybody really wants to be mean to you. I also think that everybody will get past it one day probably very soon. That's just going to depend on how interactions go.
I butted heads pretty good with seven seas re-keyed, now we get along just fine. Everyone here is very forgiving and friendly. It really is genuinely a nice group of people.

 

[JamOn]

Of course you have the right and freedom to be on here. I don't think that anyone is saying that you are not being genuine. I also don't think anybody really wants to be mean to you. I also think that everybody will get past it one day probably very soon. That's just going to depend on how interactions go.
I butted heads pretty good with seven seas re-keyed, now we get along just fine. Everyone here is very forgiving and friendly. It really is genuinely a nice group of people.

Actually the site is not a right or a freedom to be here, it’s privately owned site.

 

[VineyardsOfEngedi]

I left work early cause I was crying because of everyone's stupid comments but no you're right otherwise i'm not struggling and no one reads the dam posts entirely, read people.

 

[morefaithrequired]

You really think the OP is struggling I don’t think so

Shes struggling to be authentic. Thats her biggest challenge.

 

[Locoponydirtman]

Professional Canceller equals Mafia Hitman?

He said with a thick Chicago accent not a towny either some one from down in Cicero.

 

[JamOn]

Shes struggling to be authentic. Thats her biggest challenge.

Yea I notice that too.

 

[JamOn]

I’ve looked through most of the post, and the people that gave authentic genuine advise she never responded to or even gave a like or anything, that alone tells me a lot about the OP.

 

[morefaithrequired]

at least these threads produce some entertainment. its not all bad. the victim card gets overplayed and loses all potency.

 

[JamOn]

@ VineyardsOfEngedi
I understand what you mean, us men can be very disappointing. Honestly I don't think it's so much a "man" thing as it is a "human being" thing. This is why expectations are so dangerous. I've been in a totally committed relationship, by His grace, for 23 years and you know what the most dangerous thing I can have as far as my own peace of mind is? Expectations. People are always going to fall short of our expectations, and I honestly feel they (expectations) are not only wrong, but also completely selfish, they are by very nature what we want. I'm not saying they are all bad, or we can't have good expectations, I'm just saying that waiting for someone to meet your expectations is a fools game really. At this point I want to make very clear I am speaking very generally right now. I do not know you and have no idea of how you feel, see things, or the angle you're coming at this from, and I'm not trying to "teach or fix" you. I'm simply trying to share my perspective here, for what it's worth.

Jesus came to serve, and this was the behavior He modeled by example, and for me personally in my relationship and marriage to my wife have found that coming at it with any other spirit, or attitude than to serve her, if I have ANY kind of expectation it will most likely lead to some kind of disappointment. This said, for me it is utterly impossible to keep up, but the more aware of this I am, the more I catch it in myself, the more I, by His Spirit, am able to see, identify, and actually change it, the closer we grow together, the closer we grow to God, and the more He is glorified. So the main attitude is "what I can do for them", and not, "what they can do to complete me". This again is very general and not in any way directed at you personally, who I don't know. You could very well think this way already and I'm preaching to the choir, I again am only trying to share what I've come to see. Where are men falling so short for you? Just all after the same thing by any means necessary? I know the pop culture, worldly and foolish way the people look at relationships, but don't give up. There are people out there that know how to love.

Good advice

 

[Locoponydirtman]

Actually the site is not a right or a freedom to be here, it’s privately owned site.

As long as the owner of the site allows, she can be here and speak freely.

 

[JamOn]

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As long as the owner of the site allows, she can be here and speak freely.

yup to a piont, if was to speak freely about this thread right now I probably would be banned hehe..

 

[JamOn]

Good lord look at all those X,s she is fired up now

 

[JamOn]

There lays the answer hot headed, go ahead one more woman

 

[morefaithrequired]

Good lord look at all those X,s she is fired up now

look out. we will be portrayed as merciless bullies.
yet she knows the power of victimhood is greater

 

[JamOn]

look out. we will be portrayed as merciless bullies.
yet she knows the power of victimhood is greater

people will say all kinds of things, Jesus was accused of being a drunkard a gluten and all sorts of things.

 

[garee]

I have this huge, extreme, major, disgust disappoint of men. How do I get rid of this?

Walk by faith and you will not carry out the desires of the flesh.

 

[VineyardsOfEngedi]

Hahahahha you're comparing my x's and whatever else to Jesus's suffering. Hahah please, that made me stop crying for second.

 

[JamOn]

Maybe the poster wanted to phrase it differently, how can a Christian say they dislike men and the men had no choice in if they were born male or female, that is placing blame on a whole gender of people that is flat out ignorant.