My sister had a close friend who had a series of abortions, when she was in her 20's. My sister was not a Christian, but she told me after each abortion, the woman got harder and harder, caring less for people and life. She became very self-centred, and bragged about her abortions. My sister decided abortion was wrong, on that basis. I have also met women who radically changed from kind and loving people into dark, selfish people.
So, abortion kills an unborn child, and it also damages the women who had the abortion. The Catholic Church has an organization called "Rachel's Vineyard" and they do counselling of these women. The ones that don't get hardened hearts, often go crazy because they feel so much guilt for killing their own unborn child. I had a friend in Edmonton who was forced into an abortion, because she had vaccines for travel to South America, before she knew she was pregnant. She had many hard years, filled with guilt, until God saved her. She also had a severe breakdown and became psychotic after her second child was born. She was so grieved over the child that she was forced to abort.
I lost a baby in my last pregnancy. She was a twin of my daughter, who was fine when she was born. Even though I had a live child, I have always mourned the loss of the twin.
@CS1 I am so sorry your wife had to go through that. The word has indeed changed, except for doctors who use the words the medical way. But, she should never feel guilty because she lost the baby. I guess this is an area, we have to give to God.