An old man sits alone on New Year's Eve. His kids are in different parts of the country, his other relatives and all his friends are gone.
He can fondly remember all the holidays he spent with the people he outlived
OR
He can dwell on how sad and pitiful he is alone right now.
A young lady attends her best friend's wedding.
She can be happy for her best friend
OR
She can be envious or even jealous that she hasn't found a husband.
A young man hears news that his friend made a program that was bought by a big company, and now his friend is retired at a very early age.
He can be happy for his friend living the dream
OR
He can be resentful that he still has to go to his own job.
There are things to relish and things to despise in almost every situation. What a person chooses to dwell on determines what kind of person that person will become.
"Do you have to go to work today?"
"No, I get to go to work today. I know some people who done got laid off."