I want to be a good person. How do I stop doing this?
Hi Tamina, and welcome!
I'm married but I can tell you between my flesh, and the enemy, I can sometimes find myself thinking too much about other women.
It's just our fleshy sin nature doing what comes natural to it. It's not the same temptation for everyone.
It sounds like you recognize that same sex relationships are wrong. That's a good sign the Holy Spirit is working in you.
The only way I have found success in defeating my flesh, and not listening to the devil, is by walking in the Spirit. I need to take captive every sinful thought and literally pray to Jesus to remove it.
Your flesh and the enemy never gives up, so this is NOT a one and done.
Be blessed sister!