Can no longer separate sex from sin
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One thing I really can't stand about being a Christian is the fact that it's almost impossible to be a single person and a Christian without growing to hate your sexuality. Any itch, any feeling of sexual desire is only a temptation, or an occasion to sin. In other words, the sexuality of a single person is only a "gift" if it is completely dormant and inactive. It serves no useful purpose. It doesn't help you find a spouse, it doesn’t help you become a saint.
I know that my sexuality is not entirely useless. It is a cross, anxiety, frustration, and sadness. I know that what doesn't kill me will ultimately make me stronger, and if my sexuality doesn't crush my soul, I'll ultimately emerge a stronger Christian. But how many crosses can I bear? Quite frankly, I don't know how I can bear this one.
I don't know if I'm supposed to get married or not, but it just doesn't seem fair (Not that I'm expecting life or God to be fair). If I get married, my desires will suddenly become good. But as long as I am single, my desires will remain vile and wicked. Or rather, as Christian teaching has it, my sex drive is good, as long as it doesn't exist. If it exists, then it's bad.
Just because I'm a Christian doesn't mean I have to like everything about it. But again, I didn't become a Christian to be happy. I did it because it's right. In fact, Christianity is the last religion I'd recommend if you want to be happy.
I know that my sexuality is not entirely useless. It is a cross, anxiety, frustration, and sadness. I know that what doesn't kill me will ultimately make me stronger, and if my sexuality doesn't crush my soul, I'll ultimately emerge a stronger Christian. But how many crosses can I bear? Quite frankly, I don't know how I can bear this one.
I don't know if I'm supposed to get married or not, but it just doesn't seem fair (Not that I'm expecting life or God to be fair). If I get married, my desires will suddenly become good. But as long as I am single, my desires will remain vile and wicked. Or rather, as Christian teaching has it, my sex drive is good, as long as it doesn't exist. If it exists, then it's bad.
Just because I'm a Christian doesn't mean I have to like everything about it. But again, I didn't become a Christian to be happy. I did it because it's right. In fact, Christianity is the last religion I'd recommend if you want to be happy.
Bottom line, as I said before, God doesn't exist to make you happy, he exists to glorify himself. My happiness and yours are irrelevant. There can only be one or the other. My happiness or God's. And God must always come first. Besides, happiness is superficial and lightweight. Trying to be happy in a fallen world is like trying to breathe in the ocean. Doesn't work. We're called only to be principled and good. That's the only reason to be a Christian, if you want to do good, and if you don't want to go to Hell for eternity.
I know what I'm saying will be unpopular. But Jesus's sayings have always been unpopular.
I know what I'm saying will be unpopular. But Jesus's sayings have always been unpopular.
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If you were to ask me what an ideal Christian looks like, I'd probably say this.
Someone who lives like a monk/nun. Someone who knows the bible backwards. Someone who spends their waking hours in prayer and goes about doing good deeds during the day before returning to solitude at night. Or maybe a missionary who wanders from village to village preaching the gospel and getting calluses on their knees from fervent praying.
You'll notice I didn't include happiness. Because being a Christian is not about being happy or feeling good. It's about living entirely for others and God, no matter how much it hurts.
Someone who lives like a monk/nun. Someone who knows the bible backwards. Someone who spends their waking hours in prayer and goes about doing good deeds during the day before returning to solitude at night. Or maybe a missionary who wanders from village to village preaching the gospel and getting calluses on their knees from fervent praying.
You'll notice I didn't include happiness. Because being a Christian is not about being happy or feeling good. It's about living entirely for others and God, no matter how much it hurts.
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Why you worried about being happy, or better yet, why you think something will make you happy? Being happy is completely on you. No one, and nothing is responsible for making you happy.
Try acting happy. If you do that for awhile, you will be happy. When you're happy, some guy will ask you on a date, you'll sucker him into marrying you, then he'll take care of that itch you got.
Try acting happy. If you do that for awhile, you will be happy. When you're happy, some guy will ask you on a date, you'll sucker him into marrying you, then he'll take care of that itch you got.
Church isnt there to make you feel "happy"..its like dating a guy and anlways expecting HIM to make you feel happy..Church is a fellowship of believers (and some non) admitying that they need Christ in thier life and want to worship and learn mote with other like minded people..not perfect by any means..btw..perfect people dont need church..its all in your heart. Youre happy from inside out so faking it doesnt fool God a bit regardless if youre at church..home or anywhere..worship etc is meaningless to Him if youre just going thtough the actions..so if thats the case..save yoirself the time and effort..dont go to church but focus more how your heart is 
Church isnt there to make you feel "happy"..its like dating a guy and anlways expecting HIM to make you feel happy..Church is a fellowship of believers (and some non) admitying that they need Christ in thier life and want to worship and learn mote with other like minded people..not perfect by any means..btw..perfect people dont need church..its all in your heart. Youre happy from inside out so faking it doesnt fool God a bit regardless if youre at church..home or anywhere..worship etc is meaningless to Him if youre just going thtough the actions..so if thats the case..save yoirself the time and effort..dont go to church but focus more how your heart is