No I'm not missing the point I understand what you are conveying. Maybe the problem lies in how you are using the word all. Like I mentioned before and the more I read it over and over again how you and others are using this word I'm convinced that you are implying all. All, as in give me all of the marbles and not as give me all of the marbles "except" black. In other words it appears on one hand there are no conditions and then on the other hand there are conditions.
Basic logic, as long as we all agree on what all the words mean.
I want all the marbles.
Give me all the marbles.
But you give me only half the marbles.
I do not have all the marbles I wanted, though I do have all the marbles I have.
but that doesn't change the fact that I still wanted all the marbles.
God wants all people to be saved.
Some people won't be saved
but, God still wanted all people to be saved, even though they won't all be saved, because they all CAN be (or could have been) saved.
Why? because all have (or had) the choice to accept salvation or reject it.
God gave all of us the choice. God does not choose for us.
Joshua 24:15 But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve.
Salvation is a gift given in grace, when we have the faith for it. Same faith as we can have in anything. Faith is faith is faith. We definitely can have faith in people and things before salvation from God. Even Atheists have faith in things, like faith that a rope will hold, or an airplane will fly, etc. It's all faith, different levels, yes, but still faith.