I didn't have a dad (or a mom), i didn't have a grandpa. I had no authority growing up. Us kids were left alone, sometimes for weeks. We turned all the lights on at night, and had the doors opened and unlocked, in a bad neighborhood. We would throw the couch cushins on the floor and tried to jump on them without touching the floor while playing tag. We were wild. We ate over a friends house, or cake mix out of the box, plants outside, my brother even ate dog food, stole from the grocery store, whatever we could find. It's amazing we survived by the power of God.
I identified with Pippi Longstocking, who was a child character who had no parents and lived in a house all by herself. And also with Little orphan Annie. How I longed for a dad. When I was in school I asked a couple of male teachers if they'd be my dad. I actually longed for rules, because rules meant "I care about you." I actually do not mind male authority.
When I grew up I saw men become very feminine. Women wore the pants in the family like on Everybody loves Roman. He couldn't even play golf? Seriously? He also didn't do the responsibie stuff like discipline the kids, and the wife had to discipline him? It was a funny show, but in real life I think a lack of male authority or masculinity is a nightmare. Men are leaving their homes and families to get drunk in bars and find women they can live off of.
If an elder of the church corrects me on something, if he is biblically right the first thing I do is thank him, while in my mind I am washing his feet. I show respect to him in order to show respect to God. And I honor, welcome, and am thankful to see that there are still men who are actual men. I have no problem with male authority, I only have a problem with them abusing that position and not leading correctly. When that happens I am no longer anything but a Christian who will take a stand against it.