I have, they State they can lose salvation. The s they are boasting of their works being better than other people works. They consistently judge others, the continue to talk about sin, and not God and his Great Salvation
This...gives me a little more understanding of how you seem to see a person is trying to earn their place with our Lord when I don't see it.
She said she hasn't seen any boast their works save them.
You replied: I have, they say salvation could be lost.
So when you hear a man think and say that he believes it is a possibility to be cut off if his heart becomes evil and unbelieving, you immediately hear boasting in works to earn (or keep) their place with our Lord.
So they see a warning that the very
thought of is so awful to them, and it causes them to listen carefully when the Spirit points out unbeliefs or mistrusts where they aren't fully in faith. It leads them to struggles, but they are good and proper struggles, to grow in trust/faith. This is how He leads some of us.
But He appears to have led you differently thus far. So what another man sees as a warning for himself (that brings him to the good work of struggles that bring growing trust/faith), you don't see as a warning for yourself as they do. But it doesn't mean either man is wrong. It could mean he hasn't brought you there yet. It could mean you have far surpassed us for all I know. It's difficult to say because each of us has our fears and strongholds against perfect trust and so He doesn't raise each of us in a...linear fashion that could be written in a book such as books about raising a baby sometimes are.
If a man reads that he is to be careful that his heart does not become evil and unbelieving as with Israel in the desert and that their branches were cut off so he could be grafted in, so he must not become arrogant, and it causes his faith to consistently grow to see and heed that warning, I think you shouldn't hinder he and God by demanding they must be where you are and think what you think.
If a man sees those verses differently than you do, and he thinks they are warnings for him, and so he truly believes that Israel was cut off for subsequent unbelief in the desert, it does not mean he is going out to soup kitchens to work thinking this will save him. (This could be possible that he does this, but sometimes he is really just in the process with God of growing his mustard seed of trust and taking areas of mistrust, or less than full trust, very seriously).
This is why Jesus didn't say: you will know them by their doctrine. (This would be impossible if all are at a different place with our Lord!)
Instead He said: You will know them by their fruit (growing love, patience, longsuffering, etc.)