If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

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If I Started Dating Someone on CC, I Would:

  • Announce it to as many people as possible, as soon as possible. After all, we're in LOVE!!!

    Votes: 2 5.9%

  • Never announce it to anyone but close family and friends. No one else needs to know.

    Votes: 4 11.8%

  • Possibly announce it after we had been seeing each other for some time (4-6 months). (Or what time f

    Votes: 7 20.6%

  • I would announce it if we became engaged, but no sooner.

    Votes: 3 8.8%

  • I would only announce I was with someone from CC if we got married.

    Votes: 4 11.8%

  • It would depend on what the other person wanted to do--we would decide together.

    Votes: 18 52.9%

  • If one person wanted to announce it, but the other person did not... We would flip a coin! (Seriousl

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Bibbity Bobbity Boo--I will explain my answer in my post.

    Votes: 2 5.9%
  • Total voters
    34
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Hey there, Everyone!!!

If you started dating someone from CC, would you tell everyone, or would you keep it to yourself?

I must confess that after being here for about 8 years, I am older than dirt in the equivalent of CC years (but am still learning new things all the time.)

I've never dated anyone on CC, but I'd never rule it out either, and I've known plenty of other people who HAVE dated CC members. They were like any other relationships:

* Some started out with a bang, but fizzled quickly.

* Some lasted a while, but faded.

* Some people were catfished, and had their hearts utterly broken.

* Some ended horribly, often with one or both parties going on to date another CC member.

* Some wound up getting married... but then divorced.

* A small minority, God bless those few, got married and are hopefully still living their happily ever after.

Now I have to confess. After being single for so long, if I found myself in a CC relationship, part of me would want to write a giant thread with colorful sparklers that said, "YES!!! I CAN GET A DATE!! I'M NOT THE TOTAL DRIED UP HAG OTHER MEMBERS IN THE PAST HAVE ACCUSED ME OF BEING!!!"

And then reality sinks in.

I think that for me, my biggest fear is that if I announced I was seeing someone from the site publicly... I would also have to publicly confess the breakup if things went wrong, and that could lead to a lot of backlash for both myself and the other person.

It would also probably mean that I would have to leave CC out of respect for the person I had dated. But that's just me.

How about the rest of you? If you started dating someone from CC, would you tell everyone? (And I'm guessing that even if you announced it via your Facebook status but not on CC, everyone here would find out anyway through other members on FB.)

What do you all think?

Please give me a few minutes to write an anonymous poll, but don't let the poll stop you from discussing your answer in a regular post.
 
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Wild

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No. But then again I would never date someone on here in the first place. No offense all you nice people :)
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Wild said:
No. But then again I would never date someone on here in the first place. No offense all you nice people :)
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Why, Mr. Wild, I am utterly shocked by this answer!!! :rolleyes:

It's ok.

We know you're waiting for everyone else to set their dates... so that you can crash all the weddings... with all that Russian polka music. :cool:
 
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NoNameMcgee

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id leave it up to her lol

but you probably wouldnt see me around on here as much

i have a hard enough time balancing 60-84 hour work weeks

my studies

and sleep as it is

i think id have to trade in my cc time to date....
 
tourist

tourist

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That's exactly what I did when my wife and I started to write and call each other before we got married. I gave a daily account of how our relationship was progressing in my threads 'Midnight Confessions' and 'Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band' starting in August 2014 until we got married in November 2014. A lot of members found it interesting and humorous but I suppose it got cloying after awhile. We both had our 15 minutes of CC fame and I don't regret a word of it. It was a special time in our lives and quite memorable.
 
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Kirk

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I have actually done this. Personally i never go out of my way to air that business on CC. Nor would i go out of my way to hide it. But i would not feel any need to to let everyone know i was in a relationship or not in one on cc. If it ended ,which it did in my case, i would not bother telling anyone on cc nor would i hide that it ended. I guess what i am saying is in the end it's just like any other relationship. It can be good or bad, it can end good or bad. But that doesn't make it anyones business. If someone asked i would just say it ended and move on with the conversation. No need for it to alter anything that happens in the chat or forum.

seoulsearch said:
Hey there, Everyone!!!

If you started dating someone from CC, would you tell everyone, or would you keep it to yourself?

I must confess that after being here for about 8 years, I am older than dirt in the equivalent of CC years (but am still learning new things all the time.)

I've never dated anyone on CC, but I'd never rule it out either, and I've known plenty of other people who HAVE dated CC members. They were like any other relationships:

* Some started out with a bang, but fizzled quickly.

* Some lasted a while, but faded.

* Some people were catfished, and had their hearts utterly broken.

* Some ended horribly, often with one or both parties going on to date another CC member.

* Some wound up getting married... but then divorced.

* A small minority, God bless those few, got married and are hopefully still living their happily ever after.

Now I have to confess. After being single for so long, if I found myself in a CC relationship, part of me would want to write a giant thread with colorful sparklers that said, "YES!!! I CAN GET A DATE!! I'M NOT THE TOTAL DRIED UP HAG OTHER MEMBERS IN THE PAST HAVE ACCUSED ME OF BEING!!!"

And then reality sinks in.

I think that for me, my biggest fear is that if I announced I was seeing someone from the site publicly... I would also have to publicly confess the breakup if things went wrong, and that could lead to a lot of backlash for both myself and the other person.

It would also probably mean that I would have to leave CC out of respect for the person I had dated. But that's just me.

How about the rest of you? If you started dating someone from CC, would you tell everyone? (And I'm guessing that even if you announced it via your Facebook status but not on CC, everyone here would find out anyway through other members on FB.)

What do you all think?

Please give me a few minutes to write an anonymous poll, but don't let the poll stop you from discussing your answer in a regular post.
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Pipp

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We'd discuss it together and decide. I'd be cool either way.
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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Pipp said:
We'd discuss it together and decide. I'd be cool either way.
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So Pippy, have we decided yet if we're going to tell the entire forum that you and I are shipping ourselves together as the Ultimate Best Bud Roommies, along with Popclick?

Think of all the hearts that are going to break if we decide to tell everyone. :(:cool::rolleyes:
 
Pipp

Pipp

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seoulsearch said:
So Pippy, have we decided yet if we're going to tell the entire forum that you and I are shipping ourselves together as the Ultimate Best Bud Roommies, along with Popclick?

Think of all the hearts that are going to break if we decide to tell everyone. :(:cool::rolleyes:
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We might as well... I figure they all know by now anyway! No worries about the break up...we're Seoulmates!
 
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toinena

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I wrote to a man here for some months. We had online dates. If that counts, Neither of us never announced it. I have tried to protect his CC identity, but it has been hard to do that. And I was really mad when it didn't work out. Breaking plates kind of mad. And I spent far too much money to get to see him, and in the end we didn't. It was good that we didn't announce it. Perhaps I was more serious than him? Neither of us have left CC (oh... yeah. You see I haven't left, atleast), and it hurts to see him post something here. I hope the pain will fade away, and everything will go back to normal.
 
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Wild

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toinena said:
I wrote to a man here for some months. We had online dates. If that counts, Neither of us never announced it. I have tried to protect his CC identity, but it has been hard to do that. And I was really mad when it didn't work out. Breaking plates kind of mad. And I spent far too much money to get to see him, and in the end we didn't. It was good that we didn't announce it. Perhaps I was more serious than him? Neither of us have left CC (oh... yeah. You see I haven't left, atleast), and it hurts to see him post something here. I hope the pain will fade away, and everything will go back to normal.
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Prime example of why I follow the no online policy. Sorry it had to happen to you , but best to stick to real world stuff.
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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toinena said:
I wrote to a man here for some months. We had online dates. If that counts, Neither of us never announced it. I have tried to protect his CC identity, but it has been hard to do that. And I was really mad when it didn't work out. Breaking plates kind of mad. And I spent far too much money to get to see him, and in the end we didn't. It was good that we didn't announce it. Perhaps I was more serious than him? Neither of us have left CC (oh... yeah. You see I haven't left, atleast), and it hurts to see him post something here. I hope the pain will fade away, and everything will go back to normal.
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I am very sorry about this, Andrea. :(

I must confess, I'd be afraid of this too... How to work out the distance, what if things went wrong, etc. I would give it my all though if we seemed to have a really good connection. I'm kind of stubborn like that when I really like someone.

I'm glad you've stayed and hope we can get you through this.

Several years ago there was someone I wrote to and chatted with several times a week -- for 5 years!! -- and then suddenly... Crickets. Like, literally, seeing as he lived in England. He said he would write to explain... and then just disappeared. I have no idea what happened, or if I said or did the wrong thing, or if he met someone else.

It stung for a while, but... I've had my peeps to hang out with here in Singles, and that was a part of what helped me keep marching on.

Hang around with us and I hope we can help you, too. :)
 
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toinena

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Wild said:
Prime example of why I follow the no online policy. Sorry it had to happen to you , but best to stick to real world stuff.
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Yes. Online dating is kind of a fake reality. I can forget who I am in real life, and pretend that I can be loved. You might build up imaginary castles together. Grand dreams of love and a future. But it is all dreams. A part of me still want to dream, though.
 
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Kirk

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Yeah that can happen, but honestly it happens in real life too. People just disappear instead of saying they want to move on. Dating is a chance anyway you slice it. I have had great online relationships and terrible in person ones. Of course a big part of an online relationship is the ability to actually meet up. If neither person has the resources for travel..... then it's clearly not a great situation to get into. And eventually one or the other needs to be willing to move.


seoulsearch said:
I am very sorry about this, Andrea. :(

I must confess, I'd be afraid of this too... How to work out the distance, what if things went wrong, etc.

I'm glad you've stayed and hope we can get you through this.

Several years ago there was someone I wrote to and chatted with several times a week -- for 5 years!! -- and then suddenly... Crickets. Like, literally, seeing as he lived in England. He said he would write to explain... and then just disappeared. I have no idea what happened, or if I said or did the wrong thing, or if he met someone else.

It stung for a while, but... I've had my peeps to hang out with here in Singles, and that was a part of what helped me keep marching on.

Hang around with us and I hope we can help you, too. :)
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seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Wild said:
Prime example of why I follow the no online policy. Sorry it had to happen to you , but best to stick to real world stuff.
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Oh c'mon, Mr. Wild.

Tell me that if we told you where there was going to be a CC wedding next week, you wouldn't show up to crash it in person!

That's about as real world as it gets. ;)
 
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Wild

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seoulsearch said:
Oh c'mon, Mr. Wild.

Tell me that if we told you where there was going to be a CC wedding next week, you wouldn't show up to crash it in person!

That's about as real world as it gets. ;)
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If there is a well stocked bar I am there my friend. You can count on that.
 
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toinena

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Wild said:
If there is a well stocked bar I am there my friend. You can count on that.
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You Russians just drink Vodka and Champagne anyway..... (sorry.... I think stereotypes) . Be sure to bring your Balalaika. That would be beyond cool! And play iit before all the vodka, please.
 
zeroturbulence

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....and I'm not of course, since women are allergic to me. :p (that's not a cat reference...although I suddenly realize that it totally sounds like it)
 
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toinena

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zeroturbulence said:



....and I'm not of course, since women are allergic to me. :p (that's not a cat reference)
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You just bring some antihistamines to the lady you date, and everything will be fine. Allergy is treatable!
 
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