If You Were Dating Someone On CC, Would You Announce It to the Rest of the Forum?

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If I Started Dating Someone on CC, I Would:

  • Announce it to as many people as possible, as soon as possible. After all, we're in LOVE!!!

    Votes: 2 5.9%

  • Never announce it to anyone but close family and friends. No one else needs to know.

    Votes: 4 11.8%

  • Possibly announce it after we had been seeing each other for some time (4-6 months). (Or what time f

    Votes: 7 20.6%

  • I would announce it if we became engaged, but no sooner.

    Votes: 3 8.8%

  • I would only announce I was with someone from CC if we got married.

    Votes: 4 11.8%

  • It would depend on what the other person wanted to do--we would decide together.

    Votes: 18 52.9%

  • If one person wanted to announce it, but the other person did not... We would flip a coin! (Seriousl

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Bibbity Bobbity Boo--I will explain my answer in my post.

    Votes: 2 5.9%
  • Total voters
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toinena

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Internet dating without having the aim of becoming a real life relationship is worthless. If two meet and date online, and one (or both) never has any intention of making the transission to a real life relationship, it is just waste of time and emotions. It has sadly happened to me that the person I was dating online played along with moving forward to a real life relationship and backing out in the last minute. Or actually past the last minute. That is nothing but emotional abuse and just cruel and dishonest.

If Mr. Darcy makes the move and will meet me, I think he already has the plan on how and when to announce it also on social media. As Mr. Darcy has not even mentioned such a thing, and hasn't either stated if he has emotions towards me, I think it is not to be expected anytime soon. Mr. Darcy would never proclaim his love before he already has a plan for a life together. That is not in the character's nature and that is why I can always trust Mr. Darcy to be honest and trustable.

If Mr. Darcy really excist is a different question.
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Ugly said:
I never said it doesn't, i only stated that not understanding something doesn't invalidate it. Quite a leap you made in how you read my statement.
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I didn't make any leap, I related a poignant observation on relationships and distance. Relax man. You've been taking a lot of offense lately. Leave some offense for somebody else.
 
cinder

cinder

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toinena said:
Internet dating without having the aim of becoming a real life relationship is worthless. If two meet and date online, and one (or both) never has any intention of making the transission to a real life relationship, it is just waste of time and emotions. It has sadly happened to me that the person I was dating online played along with moving forward to a real life relationship and backing out in the last minute. Or actually past the last minute. That is nothing but emotional abuse and just cruel and dishonest.

If Mr. Darcy makes the move and will meet me, I think he already has the plan on how and when to announce it also on social media. As Mr. Darcy has not even mentioned such a thing, and hasn't either stated if he has emotions towards me, I think it is not to be expected anytime soon. Mr. Darcy would never proclaim his love before he already has a plan for a life together. That is not in the character's nature and that is why I can always trust Mr. Darcy to be honest and trustable.

If Mr. Darcy really excist is a different question.
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I don't know about Mr. Darcy, but I worked for a short time doing data entry of charity donations for an organization and Mr. Bingley did donate to them, so he does exist in real life.
 
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Rachel20

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May 7, 2013
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#164
I share those views.


Blanche said:
I dont understand "online dating". To me dating means actually getting together with someone, in person. Online is a fantasy type of thing. You can 'fall in love'', but who are you REALLY falling in love with?
You have to see a person in person to really get to know them. But, to each his own.
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egeiro

egeiro

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I learnt my lesson.

Don't make a public spectacle out of it.

As someone who has officially dated someone on CC, made a huge thing about it, and has been the one to break it off, I can confidently say that the feeling you're left with at the end of it all is worse in real life than what you think it would be in theory.

I'd advise people to spend some time with them in real life before you announce it.

The trouble with getting so many people involved in your relationship is that you don't only feel responsible for that person's hurt when it ends, but also carry the weight of feeling like you've disappointed everyone else who has been involved, too (Including his family and local friends as well). I was so ashamed I cut all of my hair off and vowed to not date again until it grew out to its original length (Which I totally did, because I had to be so dramatic and everything).

When I began dating my now husband only our close mutual friends and some girls at work knew about it. We announced it was an official relationship on facebook a month later but didn't really post much about it or took that many photos.

I used to think love was worth celebrating publicly and you should be able to feel comfortable with confessing your love for someone from the rooftops, but for me, that airy fairy ideal has faded. I think your love is better confessed when you stand by your man telling him all the best you see in him when you feel like everything else is crumbling around you. I think the best way to celebrate love is to celebrate the other person when only they are watching and there's no one left to impress or gain approval from.

But yeah, I think you should totally give things time to cement before you announce it.
 
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Ugly

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#166
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Lynx said:
I didn't make any leap, I related a poignant observation on relationships and distance. Relax man. You've been taking a lot of offense lately. Leave some offense for somebody else.
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I stated that someone quick to condemn online dating had no basis, since they had no experience.
You then fabricated that I implied there were no downsides. That, to me, sounds like a legitimate cause for offense.

And while we're on the topic of telling others how to behave I might suggest you stop making inflammatory remarks then acting innocent when the subject of your comment takes offense and denying any and all responsibility for your statement. It's a move I've seen you use recently and now here again. So save your falsely righteous and innocent words for someone guilable enough to believe you. I am not that person.
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Right. Don't say anything else to Ugly or quote any of Ugly's posts. Got it.
 
Mel85

Mel85

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Oncefallen said:
Might I recommend the ignore feature to the two of you? Not a directive, just a suggestion.
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Or, they can turn the other cheek, wait whisker, wait stick cheek?!!
 
maxwel

maxwel

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Oncefallen said:
Might I recommend the ignore feature to the two of you? Not a directive, just a suggestion.
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Ignore Button

The ignore button is a brilliant piece of engineering.
I don't know who designed it, but it's truly one of the best ideas ever.

However, it might be just a teensy bit better if...
it was connected to some kind of satellite based laser weapon that could hurl down a huge beam of energy and utterly disintegrate the...

well, I'm sure you guys don't have time to work on every request,
but you should give it some thought.
 
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CandieM

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#172
maxwel said:
Ignore Button

The ignore button is a brilliant piece of engineering.
I don't know who designed it, but it's truly one of the best ideas ever.

However, it might be just a teensy bit better if...
it was connected to some kind of satellite based laser weapon that could hurl down a huge beam of energy and utterly disintegrate the...

well, I'm sure you guys don't have time to work on every request,
but you should give it some thought.
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I'd say!

What I found is that the ignore button makes me feel a bit better because I don't have to see their posts; it doesn't feel like someone is capable of sucking my soul out through my computer screen ... that's just how sensitive I am. That being said, I also found that there are times when I can safely read their posts, inconspicuously, and be OK with it. Maybe the ignore button is also a way for people to slowly come to terms with another person's way of being and maybe learn to get along with them? Just my experience.

It seems like the people I initially gravitate towards aren't really "for" me, but the people that I tend to instantly dislike are people who have an entirely different intention, and may also end up somehow being good for me. It's amazing how the world works like that. It's also amazing how the things that truly feed my soul are so far away from me and totally out of my grasp, even though they're right in front of my face.

Got deep. Sorry. Hope it's OK. :confused:
 
cinder

cinder

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And here I find that the ignore button serves more as a warning sign to me. Half the time or more I still open the post to read it, it's just that that way I know it's someone who I'm usually going to disagree with and not consider worth listening to. (actually haven't put anyone on ignore in a while you have to be both pretty bad and last a while to get on my ignore list).
 
tourist

tourist

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#174
CandieM said:
I'd say!

What I found is that the ignore button makes me feel a bit better because I don't have to see their posts; it doesn't feel like someone is capable of sucking my soul out through my computer screen ... that's just how sensitive I am. That being said, I also found that there are times when I can safely read their posts, inconspicuously, and be OK with it. Maybe the ignore button is also a way for people to slowly come to terms with another person's way of being and maybe learn to get along with them? Just my experience.

It seems like the people I initially gravitate towards aren't really "for" me, but the people that I tend to instantly dislike are people who have an entirely different intention, and may also end up somehow being good for me. It's amazing how the world works like that. It's also amazing how the things that truly feed my soul are so far away from me and totally out of my grasp, even though they're right in front of my face.

Got deep. Sorry. Hope it's OK. :confused:
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What I have noticed about you is that you are really a deep thinker and usually look at and consider opposing sides of a debate or discussion. No need to be sorry about having deep thoughts as that is a good thing to be able to have.
 
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CandieM

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tourist said:
What I have noticed about you is that you are really a deep thinker and usually look at and consider opposing sides of a debate or discussion. No need to be sorry about having deep thoughts as that is a good thing to be able to have.
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(hugs) :eek:
 
garet82

garet82

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Nope

I prefer to date someone i meet in my place where iam now. coz maybe it works for some of them to meet their love online, but not for me :)

Love is on the air? Guess not for me :D
 
Tommy379

Tommy379

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If I was dating you, I'd buy a billboard on the interstate.
 
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