Remarriage after divorce?

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Littlemissprim

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What are people's thoughts on remarriage after divorce?
I left my husband after a 8 year abusive relationship with no children. I then found out he was unfaithful most of our marriage. So I divorced.
I would love a family of my own.
But is it wrong of me to ask God to provide me that?
 
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I don't see any problem in you asking God for that. Sorry to hear about your past marriage. Due to your partner committing adultery you had every right to have a divorce.
 
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Due to your former husband's infidelity you have biblical grounds for remarriage. A husband that loves his wife would not even contemplate cheating on her let alone do it. That is the worst thing that you can possibly do to your spouse.

There is nothing wrong with desiring a loving faithful husband and a family. It is not wrong to ask God for this in prayer. After all, He wants us to have life and to have it more abundantly.
 
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I know I'm OK to divorce on infidelity, it's the remarriage bit I struggle with,
I pray about it all,but deep down I just have this feeling it's wrong. I'm not sure if it's cultural or biblical though
 
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Littlemissprim said:
I know I'm OK to divorce on infidelity, it's the remarriage bit I struggle with,
I pray about it all,but deep down I just have this feeling it's wrong. I'm not sure if it's cultural or biblical though
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It's certainly not wrong. If that's true, then a lot of us are in the wrong.
 
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Littlemissprim said:
I know I'm OK to divorce on infidelity, it's the remarriage bit I struggle with,
I pray about it all,but deep down I just have this feeling it's wrong. I'm not sure if it's cultural or biblical though
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Your feelings are correct, it is biblical.

Though if you remarried I suppose I wouldn't think less of ya, but I'd say consider this. You don't have to be married to have a family.
 
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I have to be remarried to have children
 
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Littlemissprim said:
I have to be remarried to have children
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Not so.

John 19:26

[SUP]26 [/SUP]When Jesus therefore saw his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved, he saith unto his mother, Woman, behold thy son!
 
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Certainly nothing wrong with ending a marriage due to infidelity. I ended two marriages because of infidelity, and that was back before I even considered any biblical significance of it. I personally see nothing wrong with praying for a marriage and children if that is what you really want.
 
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Littlemissprim said:
I know I'm OK to divorce on infidelity, it's the remarriage bit I struggle with,
I pray about it all,but deep down I just have this feeling it's wrong. I'm not sure if it's cultural or biblical though
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I think its okay to remarry.. "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery" (Matthew 9:9). If infidelity was a cause, then its not adultery to remarry.

In the old testament, remarriage was only permitted after the death of a spouse. After a man committed adultery, he was stoned to death, his wife was widowed and free to remarry.

There's also this; "When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife" (Deuteronomy 24:1&2).
 
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Does Christ forgive sin? Yes. Therefore, repent of any part you may have had in your divorce. Do that and you are free to remarry. Also, God is a divorcee:


Jeremiah 3:8 And I (God) saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.
 
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I am glad you found courage to leave him, & will pray for you to find a loving man.
I Soon Will B Single - My first marriage was 27 yrs & he past away - Three days ago I just found out my second husband is leaving me after 10 years of being married. We laugh together & I thought he loved me - He has told me he loves someone else that's 31 that he new years ago in the Army. He is 60, & I am 65. I am so very sad & do not know how I will survive - I love being married & hate the thought of being alone - It is hard to write these words..
 
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Littlemissprim said:
What are people's thoughts on remarriage after divorce?
I left my husband after a 8 year abusive relationship with no children. I then found out he was unfaithful most of our marriage. So I divorced.
I would love a family of my own.
But is it wrong of me to ask God to provide me that?
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If your former husband is guilty of adultry then that is Just cause for divorce in the Bible..

So you are free to seek another Husband..

There is nothing wrong with asking God to bless you with Childeren when you have married your future Husband..
 
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Littlemissprim said:
I know I'm OK to divorce on infidelity, it's the remarriage bit I struggle with,
I pray about it all,but deep down I just have this feeling it's wrong. I'm not sure if it's cultural or biblical though
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I'm not sure if that is a British flag you have there, but here in the US divorce is very accepted in our culture. In fact, it's almost assumed you've been divorced at least once if you're over 50..
 
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Ranger_One said:
I am glad you found courage to leave him, & will pray for you to find a loving man.
I Soon Will B Single - My first marriage was 27 yrs & he past away - Three days ago I just found out my second husband is leaving me after 10 years of being married. We laugh together & I thought he loved me - He has told me he loves someone else that's 31 that he new years ago in the Army. He is 60, & I am 65. I am so very sad & do not know how I will survive - I love being married & hate the thought of being alone - It is hard to write these words..
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I am so sorry to hear that,really deeply sorry.
I pray you will find peace.
I did not love my husband at the end.it had been beaten into submission.
I did however mourn the loss of my marriage and despite all that, I missed having someone to share my life with. However warped that life had become.
Praying for you xxx
 
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Littlemissprim

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zeroturbulence said:
I'm not sure if that is a British flag you have there, but here in the US divorce is very accepted in our culture. In fact, it's almost assumed you've been divorced at least once if you're over 50..
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Yes that's a British flag,
I'm Romany Gypsy though, so our beliefs are a little stricter.

Thank you all for taking the time to comment.
And all the children out side of marriage, I wouldn't have a physical relationship outside of marriage x
 
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Littlemissprim said:
What are people's thoughts on remarriage after divorce?
I left my husband after a 8 year abusive relationship with no children. I then found out he was unfaithful most of our marriage. So I divorced.
I would love a family of my own.
But is it wrong of me to ask God to provide me that?
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I married a divorced man. But I knew it was okay because he searched God's word to find out his answer for his situation. If he had not bothered seeking God for his answer, I wouldn't have married him.

I highly recommend seeking God and studying the Bible for God's answer to you rather than accepting answers of people online. It will mean more to you and you won'thave to keep circling back to the question all your life.
 
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