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I believe in the power of prayer...God wants happiness in our lives. We ALL have made wrong choices. But there for the grace of God...go I
I believe..God puts a dream in our hearts...(seems like YOURS? is to love and be a mom someday) Very worthy and noble dreams!!!!
I hope you find what you seek!!! IJNIP
I believe..God puts a dream in our hearts...(seems like YOURS? is to love and be a mom someday) Very worthy and noble dreams!!!!
I hope you find what you seek!!! IJNIP
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God has put me in this situation. I had a friend who was a single father but he was not married to the child's mother. It was too late before he told me that he was previously married prior to his relationship with his daughter's mom and his ex-wife commited adultery, I was already emotionally attached and I found myself contemplating about divorce and remarriage. Because I was too attached, I convinced myself it is ok to have a relationship with him and possibly marry him in the future. The break up with him hurt but I am now glad it was over. This is not to judge others who believe remarriage is ok, it is just my own understanding of God's word that remarriage is not ok regardless of the grounds of the divorce.
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I am divorced from an abusive man. He did not cheat on me but he nearly destroyed my mind and spiritual walk, I had to get away from him. I have been divorced 10 yrs. I am lonely and want to find a good Christian man to marry. I found one but he says its not biblical to remarry if my husband is not dead. He also divorced his wife. He feels its wrong to remarry but he said we can be close friends with no sex and no marriage. Be inlove and commited but not marry. Does that make sense?
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Hello all, I was reading through this thread because I am currently separated from my husband who plans to divorce and remarry. God has placed it on my heart to intercede for my husband. It has been a very long time with many signs of what God is going do in our lives. I sought God's word long and hard for a way out so that I can remarry. I prayed and fasted and read His word. God has revealed to me that remarriage is adultery according to Jesus' words. It really is plain to see. The reason why many even question remarriage is because we know it's not right. The culture, self gratification and disobedience has weaved its way into the church and the word has been dangerously watered down to fit personal needs and desires. The "church" is a place packed with a lot of people who don't study the word of God but would rather listen to smooth messages. Please seek God with all your heart through prayer and fasting and He shall surely answer your prayers and every question you may have regarding this and any other doctrine of God. Let's not passively read Jesus' words in Matthew 7:14-23. He is speaking to those that call themselves Christians and call on His name. I don't know about you all, but when i read this passage it shakes me to my core. Seek God with spirit and truth. Be blessed.
A divorcee, yes... but make sure you paint the rest of the picture correctly. He is also 100% faithful to her even though He issued her a certificate of divorce. *AND* He will be reconciled to her in the end. She is and forever will be His first love, despite her adulterous ways. He paid the price and loved with an everlasting and unconditional love. He is angry and hurt, and has let her go her own way. There is a terrible cost, but He has not lost her forever. There is always a remnant.
Here's a better question... what did the Lord Jesus say about remarriage after divorce?
Luke 16:18
Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
And... no Jesus was not teaching law to the Jews as we see in Luke 16:16, this is under the New Covenant
Why not be married to the Lord???... He won't do ya wrong!
Luke 16:18
Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
And... no Jesus was not teaching law to the Jews as we see in Luke 16:16, this is under the New Covenant
Why not be married to the Lord???... He won't do ya wrong!
oP's could be good so here's mine. With out Christ, there is a ton of baggage. Hurt children, and children who don't trust other's any more. Just the other day at church, a Son of a law enforcement , took a large water pistol, from a child and was pointing it at us as we were walking into the church building. If it wouldn't of been there, the cops would be there, as what was that a threat? There are many mental problems baggage, that reside in some, even though they are on the property of a church, it could mean nothing. Santification, means seperation from the world, and those who still are in this friendship, are entangled with these roots, and extrememly bad influences. Not for one minute, will satan give you a chance, to get closer to God. Through those who are not spirit filled, walking in the word, are used to draw away even that small sprout, of growing your roots, in Christ. THe bible specifically say's "what fellowship does light have in common with darkness." That satan is like a roaring lion seeking whom he could destroy.STory after stories, of how people son's of pastors, and going to churches, get into the area, and the arena of playing church, neither hot , nor cold, REv. and eventually are spitted out of the mouth of God. this is a bible verse.
That evil influence will persuade the so called believer who is with one foot in the church, and the other in the affairs of evil appearances, and relationships. The bible says this; "Avoid all appearances of evil." They have killed their parents, and family's under the influence of drugs from their so called friends, a friend would never offer you anything to put you into prison, or tell you to hurt your family. The devil remember is a thief, his only aim, in his corrupted game, is to Rob you of your blessing, and steal your hopes, and destroy, your family ENTIRELY, shift like the wheat, something that was to be good, to listen to those who put evil words, and works, into the minds, of unrightouss fellowship. This is what could happen when you marry into a family with people on drugs, and a rap sheet. Those who love the peers of the past, more than loving the Lord, and loving the people who love the Lord, they are slowly turning away from the truth, the light of our saviors saving mercey, willingly. As for marrying someone who is divorced, my answer is no. NOt that it would be acceptable to the Lord, as the past, but no because some are living in the same mind set, and the past is not the past, there is no renewing, of the mind, or heart. A house divided will not stand. bible verse, so saying this, if a family adult member is agaisnt the word, and there are believers, it will be a living hell. So no, I would not marry someone like that. To be abused and threatened by the adult's is no, not ever. To those who God has blessed you with a loving spouse, and family. Amen.
That evil influence will persuade the so called believer who is with one foot in the church, and the other in the affairs of evil appearances, and relationships. The bible says this; "Avoid all appearances of evil." They have killed their parents, and family's under the influence of drugs from their so called friends, a friend would never offer you anything to put you into prison, or tell you to hurt your family. The devil remember is a thief, his only aim, in his corrupted game, is to Rob you of your blessing, and steal your hopes, and destroy, your family ENTIRELY, shift like the wheat, something that was to be good, to listen to those who put evil words, and works, into the minds, of unrightouss fellowship. This is what could happen when you marry into a family with people on drugs, and a rap sheet. Those who love the peers of the past, more than loving the Lord, and loving the people who love the Lord, they are slowly turning away from the truth, the light of our saviors saving mercey, willingly. As for marrying someone who is divorced, my answer is no. NOt that it would be acceptable to the Lord, as the past, but no because some are living in the same mind set, and the past is not the past, there is no renewing, of the mind, or heart. A house divided will not stand. bible verse, so saying this, if a family adult member is agaisnt the word, and there are believers, it will be a living hell. So no, I would not marry someone like that. To be abused and threatened by the adult's is no, not ever. To those who God has blessed you with a loving spouse, and family. Amen.
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Had been dating her for a while and her sister let it slip out that she was married. Not knowing what best to do as we were in the process of planning a wedding, I continued dating and she wanted me to take all my holidays off work, and I took out a big loan for a vehicle she wanted... When she saw I'd bought it and she knew I'd taken the time off so we could go places, she stopped datingbut without telling me. All she said was she needed time to herself. Many months after I found out she had been dating at least two others while I was dating her. I lost a lot of money as I just couldn't keep the vehicle. Was too painful.
Her mum was weird. Looking back, her mum kept asking me into her bedroom to look at the wardrobe. I looked. I was asked to look at them a few times! It was her sisters husband who told me (His words which I innocently didn't understand) I would have to satisfy her mum to marry her. It was after her mum found I was a Christian that she suddenly estopped dating.
Anyway. The trials of being young and vulnerable. (It was my first girlfriend and I was in my early 30's. I almost dated before that when I was 17 but I didn't recognise the lady (Another long story)).
Her mum was weird. Looking back, her mum kept asking me into her bedroom to look at the wardrobe. I looked. I was asked to look at them a few times! It was her sisters husband who told me (His words which I innocently didn't understand) I would have to satisfy her mum to marry her. It was after her mum found I was a Christian that she suddenly estopped dating.
Anyway. The trials of being young and vulnerable. (It was my first girlfriend and I was in my early 30's. I almost dated before that when I was 17 but I didn't recognise the lady (Another long story)).
Looks like the original poster has checked out. There is enough balance on both sides for someone to decide for themselves, so I don't have to show my cards.. hahaha!
The main thing here is that there is hurt when divorce happens, so I can only imagine how dreadful it must be. Hopefully, the original poster has found grace and comfort in trusting in God. I think before someone marries that they should talk to newly divorced people for balance. It's not all roses up in the fairly land of marriage. The grass always looks greener on the other side.
One last stick here...Why do married people always push marriage on single people? At least that is my experience. I never tell married people that they should get divorced. Maybe misery likes company. You ever see married people fight and get nasty? When was the last time you saw a single person get an argument with him or her self? O.k. I digress.....
The main thing here is that there is hurt when divorce happens, so I can only imagine how dreadful it must be. Hopefully, the original poster has found grace and comfort in trusting in God. I think before someone marries that they should talk to newly divorced people for balance. It's not all roses up in the fairly land of marriage. The grass always looks greener on the other side.
One last stick here...Why do married people always push marriage on single people? At least that is my experience. I never tell married people that they should get divorced. Maybe misery likes company. You ever see married people fight and get nasty? When was the last time you saw a single person get an argument with him or her self? O.k. I digress.....