Ladies...here it is! What men want.

[Utah]

YES, I agree. YOUR abuse needs to stop & Utah's.

I'm here all day, pal. Try the fish.

 

[Utah]

The controlling and the abuse needs to stop.

Told ya. I hate being right as often as I am.

 

[kaylagrl]

You guys have been bashing on me all day, which is another woman's husband. Yet you talk about "being low" and Christs spirit. *rolls eyes*

Also why did you say it takes a special kind of man? My wife is a woman... -_-

I see a banning in "both" your futures. Ive made my point. Nough said.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I hear the fish are very jumpy in here..

 

[kaylagrl]

I have to agree with Shawn here, he may have a different perspective of marriage but that does not mean it is wrong it is what works for him...we can't bash people for having different ideas and labeling them "woman haters" or "man haters" proud arrogant etc... that's not right on the flip side we shouldn't call others significant others dogs but I can see your point of it "demeaning your husband like a dog"

What works for someone may not work for someone else, cultures differ and you can not force your way of thinking on others to do so is wrong and un-Christ like....so please both sides let's stop this crap and just agree to different views on marriage relationships....

Sorry,Shawn began an attack on another poster.She refused to defend herself,but I didn't. He started it,read back and you will see what I mean.

 

[Shawn2516]

I'm here all day, pal. Try the fish.

Yup I know. You got that retirement money and got nothing better to do with your life.

I see a banning in "both" your futures. Ive made my point. Nough said.

Yeah, you "said" it alright. Christ be glorified.

 

[Shawn2516]

Anyways, i'm out. You guys can keep gossiping about me and my wife all you want. Doesn't matter. I said my opinion.

 

[Sofia20]

Yes, we agree for the most part here. But people who have impossible lists either end up single or grow up and realize unless you are perfect you cant demand that someone else be perfect. Ive grown a lot and learned a lot from my husband. I grew up in a home with mental abuse so that is why I react so strongly. If we are gentle,loving and caring,putting the other first we will have good marriages. But each person has to work that out on their own. Attacking people will never ever change their mind.

Yeah I get that, growing up in an abusive home is never easy and follows you a very long time. I have kinda the same thing so Im very protective of what I have since I didnt have alot. But not all people grow up but have that dumb list forever and I think that is whats bugging me and my hubby alot that, alot of ppl have too many expectations which is very foolish.

 

[Utah]

I have to agree with Shawn here, he may have a different perspective of marriage but that does not mean it is wrong it is what works for him...we can't bash people for having different ideas and labeling them "woman haters" or "man haters" proud arrogant etc... that's not right on the flip side we shouldn't call others significant others dogs but I can see your point of it "demeaning your husband like a dog"

What works for someone may not work for someone else, cultures differ and you can not force your way of thinking on others to do so is wrong and un-Christ like....so please both sides let's stop this crap and just agree to different views on marriage relationships....

I'm not bashing his relationship with his wife -- I couldn't care less. I'm calling him out on his overall attitude. There's history here, brother, this isn't someone having a bad day and incorrectly taking part in transferred anger; that's understandable and forgivable. This here is a whole different matter.

 

[kaylagrl]

And Im not taking it back. Im tired of all the bashing and yes I admit to saying that, maybe it wasnt the kindest and mostly I was just annoyed at her saying that my husband should go so low to kiss my feet. I would NEVER let my husband become my dog... I feel that was more than disrespectful so I got annoyed and I defend and I get rude.

But I agree to this tho. This post is getting out of hand and telling me Im a man is actually making me upset, because Im a freaking woman. And I can prove it to anyone who cares enough but this needs to end...

I don't need you to take it back. Im not so insecure that a stranger mocking me is going to ruin my day. Your "husband" was rude to another poster FIRST. And he was so arrogant that I said he needed to kiss his wifes feet because any woman that could live with a man like that has to be a saint. He was rude to another poster and she I thought she needed defending.

 

[Utah]

I hear the fish are very jumpy in here..

ROFLMBO!!!! I'm cracking up over here!!!! You da man!!!!

 

[Ultimatum77]

Sorry,Shawn began an attack on another poster.She refused to defend herself,but I didn't. He started it,read back and you will see what I mean.

Yes, I've been keeping up with the almost 10 pages of threads....and yes both sides have thrown their emotions into the blender and thrown verbal barbs at each other....sheesh with amount of heat here though...maybe I just want to stay single now?? but it was interesting to read the differing opinions just not reading fellow members cage fighting each other over words on the internet ....lol we need to discuss information/viewpoint minus the personal attacks which happens a lot in several threads....it's a work in progress...hopefully we get there....

 

[blue_ladybug]

Mods, please close this thread. It has turned very nasty and ugly and people are resorting to insults and name-calling. :/ Jesus is doing a face palm at nearly everyone on this thread right now.. guarantee it.

 

[Ultimatum77]

I'm not bashing his relationship with his wife -- I couldn't care less. I'm calling him out on his overall attitude. There's history here, brother, this isn't someone having a bad day and incorrectly taking part in transferred anger; that's understandable and forgivable. This here is a whole different matter.

Well Im a freshie here so don't know as both you guys have been here longer than me....just wanting to hear discussion not argument that's all

 

[Utah]

Yup I know. You got that retirement money and got nothing better to do with your life.



Yeah, you "said" it alright. Christ be glorified.

That's right. Retired at 51. You can't imagine how awesome it is!

 

[Utah]

Well Im a freshie here so don't know as both you guys have been here longer than me....just wanting to hear discussion not argument that's all

I know that, my Brother. I've got nothing but love for you. Oh yeah, and lot's of respect!

I love that you're part of the CC family. Life keeps getting better!

 

[JesusLives]

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• Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
• Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
• Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
• During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
• Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
• Be happy to see him.
• Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
• Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
• Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
• Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner . Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
• Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
• Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
• Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.


Hopefully yo will have learned something .

Yep I was right this was written in the 1950's.... I almost wet myself reading it.....lol Don't get me wrong I want to make my husband happy....but the way they did things back in the 50's was oh so special....

This line had me really laughing.....~• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. Well in today's terminology if I was a little gay I wouldn't be married to a man....So I'm glad I'm not gay.... How about I will be happy instead.....I think that is about as interesting as he wants it.....lol

 

[seoulsearch]

That's right. Retired at 51. You can't imagine how awesome it is!

Aw, crud.

Now I'M about to start an argument with UTAH... over how jealous I am of him and his awesomeness!!

 

[Ultimatum77]

Yep I was right this was written in the 1950's.... I almost wet myself reading it.....lol Don't get me wrong I want to make my husband happy....but the way they did things back in the 50's was oh so special....

This line had me really laughing.....~•Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. Well in today's terminology if I was a little gay I wouldn't be married to a man....So I'm glad I'm not gay.... How about I will be happy instead.....I think that is about as interesting as he wants it.....lol

lol....were trying to pour water on the flames here but your giving it some kerosene....

 

[kaylagrl]

Yeah I get that, growing up in an abusive home is never easy and follows you a very long time. I have kinda the same thing so Im very protective of what I have since I didnt have alot. But not all people grow up but have that dumb list forever and I think that is whats bugging me and my hubby alot that, alot of ppl have too many expectations which is very foolish.

Agreed,certainly true. I had a girlfriend that was single. When I asked what type of man she was looking for she said "you know The Rock"? I said "the actor Dwayne Johnson"? Yes,I want a man like him. She was dead serious. She's a sweetheart and pretty enough but no super model and far from thin. I said I'd keep looking to see if I could find that type of man for her.That was several years ago.Needless to say she's single and I'm married.