Ken,
why are you so far from helping me is a continuation of "My God, My God, Why have thou forsaken me?". Jesus understood why the Father could NOT look upon the SIN Jesus was taking upon Himself. The question is rhetorical looking to explain the (then future) event of the crucifixion in terms that would be understood in retrospect.
The primary intent of Ps 22 and Is 53 is to show that the crucifixion, when it happened, would be part of God's plan of redemption. God not only anticipated the crucifixion; but he anticipated the misunderstanding which led to expectation of a conquering king.
If you want to view the verse as a sign of sympathy on how we ourselves deal in hard/bad situations; I see no harm in that as long as you recognize that that is NOT the Psalm's primary concern.