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kenthomas27

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Ok..let me run something by you all..if you have advice or comments I welcome them.
I used to be really really close friends with a guy,years ago. Once when him & his g/f (who shared a daughter together) were really hurting for money and were having car issues,I told him that I was getting some money from the car accident I was in & that as soon as I got paid from it,I'd be more than happy to give him some money if he still needed it.
So not long after,I got my settlement,and we were driving somewhere & he asked me if my offer was still open,and I said of course,how much do you need? He asked for 1K. without hesitation I told him,no problem,I could give it to him later that day,and he was like,when I get a chance I'll pay you back. I told him "listen..I don't expect to be paid back..if you can,fine...if you can't that's fine too...what's important is you have a working car right now for you & the girls,period."

Not too long after this...maybe 8-10 months..him & his girlfriend split up. They shared custody of the child even though they weren't married,and both him & his ex have gone on to marry other people.
I had lost touch with him until I joined face book a while back...he & I have never connected too much since,as he's not really big into face book,and I no longer have an account.

The guy I am staying with at the moment says that this guy has been asking about me for the past month or so & the guy I am staying with has told him my situation,how messed up my life has sort of been in the past few years,etc. The guy I gave the 1K to kept telling him...give me his phone number I want to talk to him. But I've still not heard from him yet.
The guy I am staying with has his number and says.."Here,you need to call him..and you need to tell him yer' situation and ask him if he can ever repay that money you gave him all those years ago"

I said,"I can't do that,man..that sounds so tacky...it's not like we've stayed close in that time,and what if he doesn't even remember that? I was like 26 around then...so long ago"....He said" Trust me dude,no one forgets someone giving them 1K..just ask him,whats the worst he can do,hang up on ya?"

lol ok..so my question is this...is it wrong or stupid or tacky or ungodly of me to even ask this guy if he could pay me back?
I think I know the answer to this. Hey this is like that head/heart thread...anyways...ummm...
It's not like God hasn't blessed me a hundered fold over the years for helping him out. So I feel kinda selfish.
I mean..yeah,I could desperately use the money now,but is it wrong of me?

Sorry to ramble & sound all pathetic,but I just don't wanna be anything like the servant who was forgiven his debt & then threatened his neighbor for such a pitiful amount. Not that I would threaten him...but I also wouldn't wanna try and guilt someone into "helping" me. Ugh. I need to pray more or something.
Sounds to me like an internal question ITore. Did you GIVE him the money or not?
 
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ww_21

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I am currently confused about the topic of marriage.
 
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abbiejean

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I think if I had a pair of pliers I would pull my own wisdom teeth right now. :/
Just for a smile...

Been working on fairy tooth pillows today. A woman out of state wanted me to make some for her grandchildren. I've been thinking about you while sewing these. She sent the one on the right and I designed the one on the left.

Tooth pain is soooooo not fun. :( :( Hope you get to feeling better. :)

tooth pillow 15 comparison front.jpg
 
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Jullianna

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Just for a smile...

Been working on fairy tooth pillows today. A woman out of state wanted me to make some for her grandchildren. I've been thinking about you while sewing these. She sent the one on the right and I designed the one on the left.

Tooth pain is soooooo not fun. :( :( Hope you get to feeling better. :)

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So cute!!!!!!!
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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Yes,in my heart I did give it to him..I never expected him to pay me back & never asked for him to. Just like I highly doubt I will "ask" him for it back now.

I will share with him what's been going on in my life,and where I'm at now. I'm not going to guilt him into anything. I think I will do also what abbie mentioned..just pray..thank God for helping in this,and if he moves upon this dudes heart to give me a loan or give me money outright,then so be it.
God got me out of Maine. Maybe not how I wanted to leave initially,but He did make a way for me to go & leave that place behind.

The guy I'm staying with said something silly & a bit disturbing..which of course he's not saved,so it wasn't shocking that he said this but he goes:"Dude,it's too bad yer' not a hot chick,all you'd have to do is bat yer' eyelashes & you'd have guys coming out of the woodwork offering to help you or give you money"

I said to him.."Well thank goodness I'm not a hot chick,because that would be really horrible to think that the only reason someone wanted to help me was because they liked how I physically looked or that they thought maybe they would gain something from helping me"

He just looked at me kinda crazy for a second...and then goes,"Oh,right...'cause that's not a Christian thing to be like that huh?" lol
I laughed & said..."Well,no..there's more to it than that,but ummm..I'm sure that happens among Christians too,sadly enough"

Does anyone else find it hard to explain certain thing's to people who are unsaved? Sometimes they just don't get it...sometimes it really does seem like we are not of this world. (yes yes..I know that now we are born of the Spirit through Christ's blood,I'm just sayin') Sometime's I just can't be bothered to explain myself. lol
 
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kenthomas27

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Not really sure how to say this, but I'm tired of not posting because I'm afraid of what people will say, and I'm more tired of being all vague about stuff, so...
I left my husband last Saturday and temporarily moved in with my sister.
I'll have an apartment ready for me and my kids within a week or so.
I'll be filing for divorce.

...that about sums it up.

Oh, and I just ate a king size KitKat in under 3 minutes.
So...yep, that's how life is going.
This.

Got a whole new respect for you MissCris. This was something you had to agonize over for a long kong time. You didn't - couldn't talk about it - you couldn't ask your little CC friends what they thought - advice - reassurance. None of that was at your disposal (even tho it probably could have been). You had to think for your kids.

I got no idea the road you're on or ehat drove you to this. I'm typing on my phone in the cold. I will pray for my new hero is what I guess I want to tell you.
 
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abbiejean

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Does anyone else find it hard to explain certain thing's to people who are unsaved? Sometimes they just don't get it...sometimes it really does seem like we are not of this world. (yes yes..I know that now we are born of the Spirit through Christ's blood,I'm just sayin') Sometime's I just can't be bothered to explain myself. lol
Yup, I roll my eyes, count to ten and whisper..."abbie, pick your battles." :)

Can I also say it's sometimes hard to explain to those professing to be "christ-like." Between the two, I find the second group to be the hardest. :) :) With the first group you can contribute it to their lacking of knowing. With the second group you are left wondering, "well, why don't they "get" it???" :)

Just thinking "out loud" here I do believe that's why I got Gracie. She just looks at me and meows occasionally. It works for the both us. LOL She's a good sounding board and has a greaaaaaaaaattttt listening ear. LOL
 
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ww_21

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What are you confused about? (Or, you can start a new thread about this so it doesn't get lost in Streams.) :)

I am confused about whether or not I should say yes! I will pm you about it. I would feel more comfortable that way now that I think about it.
 

lil_christian

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Surprisingly, I have internet back on my computer. How long that lasts, I do not know. But I do love the fact I have internet on it again. My computer. Not my school's, not my mom's.
 
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MissCris

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I really appreciate the prayers from y'all...it means a lot to me that many of you responded that way, especially when I was so afraid (and expecting) to lose friends.

This is scary. For now, staying with my sister, she and her husband are feeding me and my kids. My sister even paid for a cell phone for me. My mom is also helping, and my best friend as much as she possibly can. Honestly, I'm surprised by the amount of support I've got...and it gets me all girly and weepy when I think about it. But still, a scary place to be. Even though I know I'll be able to put a roof over my babies' heads, and I can get the assistance I need to feed them...

Sometimes I get overwhelmed at how difficult the next few years are going to be. I have to remind myself to worry about the immediate future more- because that alone is more than enough.

I don't feel strong. I don't feel proud of myself.
But I also don't feel like I can't do this, and I don't feel the same overwhelming stress I felt before.


 
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GreenNnice

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I really appreciate the prayers from y'all...it means a lot to me that many of you responded that way, especially when I was so afraid (and expecting) to lose friends.

This is scary. For now, staying with my sister, she and her husband are feeding me and my kids. My sister even paid for a cell phone for me. My mom is also helping, and my best friend as much as she possibly can. Honestly, I'm surprised by the amount of support I've got...and it gets me all girly and weepy when I think about it. But still, a scary place to be. Even though I know I'll be able to put a roof over my babies' heads, and I can get the assistance I need to feed them...

Sometimes I get overwhelmed at how difficult the next few years are going to be. I have to remind myself to worry about the immediate future more- because that alone is more than enough.

I don't feel strong. I don't feel proud of myself.
But I also don't feel like I can't do this, and I don't feel the same overwhelming stress I felt before.


God will always provide, mizcris, just trust in Him :)
 
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Jullianna

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I really appreciate the prayers from y'all...it means a lot to me that many of you responded that way, especially when I was so afraid (and expecting) to lose friends.



Any "friends" you lose during difficult times were never your friends to begin with, love. We're more than your friends. In Christ we are forever family.

1 COR 12: 25so that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. 26And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it. 27Now you are Christ's body, and individually members of it.
 
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rachelsedge

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I need to write more often. Not really for anyone...but just get back into writing in my journal (the last time I wrote was July, eek!) and poetry and just letting words flow. I tend to forget how healing and cathartic it can be.
 
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Shouryu

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I think if I had a pair of pliers I would pull my own wisdom teeth right now. :/
If you've got to go that route, channel-lock pliers are the best choice. Worked well for me.
A Leatherman seems to be effective, as well.
[video=youtube;sqnV286EcUE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sqnV286EcUE[/video]
 
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IloveyouGod

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I don't think that was rambling or pathetic at all. You made me respect you even more now knowing how much you need the money, yet, you don't wanna call your friend n' ask him to pay you back.
I would call him to say hello, how are you doing? n' chit chat here and there and see where the conversation will take you both. It's not like you will pick up the phone n' say hi, listen, I need money, so please pay me back my $1K, no.

Now, watch this n' you will know EXACTLY what I mean :) You will ALL LOVE this clip! :)

All expenses paid 30 years ago - YouTube


Ok..let me run something by you all..if you have advice or comments I welcome them.
I used to be really really close friends with a guy,years ago. Once when him & his g/f (who shared a daughter together) were really hurting for money and were having car issues,I told him that I was getting some money from the car accident I was in & that as soon as I got paid from it,I'd be more than happy to give him some money if he still needed it.
So not long after,I got my settlement,and we were driving somewhere & he asked me if my offer was still open,and I said of course,how much do you need? He asked for 1K. without hesitation I told him,no problem,I could give it to him later that day,and he was like,when I get a chance I'll pay you back. I told him "listen..I don't expect to be paid back..if you can,fine...if you can't that's fine too...what's important is you have a working car right now for you & the girls,period."

Not too long after this...maybe 8-10 months..him & his girlfriend split up. They shared custody of the child even though they weren't married,and both him & his ex have gone on to marry other people.
I had lost touch with him until I joined face book a while back...he & I have never connected too much since,as he's not really big into face book,and I no longer have an account.

The guy I am staying with at the moment says that this guy has been asking about me for the past month or so & the guy I am staying with has told him my situation,how messed up my life has sort of been in the past few years,etc. The guy I gave the 1K to kept telling him...give me his phone number I want to talk to him. But I've still not heard from him yet.
The guy I am staying with has his number and says.."Here,you need to call him..and you need to tell him yer' situation and ask him if he can ever repay that money you gave him all those years ago"

I said,"I can't do that,man..that sounds so tacky...it's not like we've stayed close in that time,and what if he doesn't even remember that? I was like 26 around then...so long ago"....He said" Trust me dude,no one forgets someone giving them 1K..just ask him,whats the worst he can do,hang up on ya?"

lol ok..so my question is this...is it wrong or stupid or tacky or ungodly of me to even ask this guy if he could pay me back?
I think I know the answer to this. Hey this is like that head/heart thread...anyways...ummm...
It's not like God hasn't blessed me a hundered fold over the years for helping him out. So I feel kinda selfish.
I mean..yeah,I could desperately use the money now,but is it wrong of me?

Sorry to ramble & sound all pathetic,but I just don't wanna be anything like the servant who was forgiven his debt & then threatened his neighbor for such a pitiful amount. Not that I would threaten him...but I also wouldn't wanna try and guilt someone into "helping" me. Ugh. I need to pray more or something.
 

CatHerder

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Not really sure how to say this, but I'm tired of not posting because I'm afraid of what people will say, and I'm more tired of being all vague about stuff, so...
I left my husband last Saturday and temporarily moved in with my sister.
I'll have an apartment ready for me and my kids within a week or so.
I'll be filing for divorce.

...that about sums it up.

Oh, and I just ate a king size KitKat in under 3 minutes.
So...yep, that's how life is going.
so sorry you are in this situation. Praying for you.
 
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IloveyouGod

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What a great idea Rachel, I'm gonna give it a try myself as I've never thought about it!! :)


I need to write more often. Not really for anyone...but just get back into writing in my journal (the last time I wrote was July, eek!) and poetry and just letting words flow. I tend to forget how healing and cathartic it can be.
 
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IloveyouGod

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People flipped on Mayor Rob Ford because he confirmed today that he will not attend the pride parade/the gay parade because it is something that he just doesn't do. And actually he never did attend ever since he became a Mayor and that's the ONE thing I respect him for!! :)
 
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Americans used to have nice manners--we'd say "please", and "I beg your pardon", and "I'm pleased to meet your acquaintance", and "excuse me" and dress well in nice suits--like the good old days of the 1970s.


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