Why are you single?
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Not entirely, though that was definitely my generation. But it was very much like there was this attitude from all the Christian adults (at least those who worked with youth) that having pre-marital sex was the biggest mistake you could make as a christian teen and it was all but inevitable if you were dating or spending time alone with members of the opposite sex. Very much was a culture that implied you shouldn't express any sort of sexual desire until you're married and then it's fine and you should just be totally okay with feeling and doing what was forbidden. Or as something I read once put it one of the 2 things you learned in church was sex is a nasty dirty horrible thing to do and you should save it to do with the person you love most and marry.
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You can't fathom a together alone relationship? I've seen a few rare relationships and read about a few. These have sort of opened my eyes to the fact that if two people have the same mission and it were designed that way, it wouldn't be a distraction. Children are a bit different, but I've seen missionaries manage just fine. Being missional minded can work just as easily here, but it will look considerably different (in my view).
@interdigitation though
...I don't really have much experience, but much like when people hold hands when praying, it seems to be a physical reminder of agreement. It's also a silent signaling method, and there is a lot that can be said without words. Besides, we all are children, and I think you can be child like without being childish. The Lord most certainly holds our hands at times. I suppose that some have a puerile representation of this, but to me it illustrates leaning on the Lord and trusting him.
@interdigitation though
...I don't really have much experience, but much like when people hold hands when praying, it seems to be a physical reminder of agreement. It's also a silent signaling method, and there is a lot that can be said without words. Besides, we all are children, and I think you can be child like without being childish. The Lord most certainly holds our hands at times. I suppose that some have a puerile representation of this, but to me it illustrates leaning on the Lord and trusting him.
I dont really get a lot of handholding in my job. I get lots of hugs instead.
The raising of hands does signal a touchdown during a football game. However, in Christian worship it in no way implies that one is closer to the Lord. In fact, the majority of Christians don’t engage in this practice. In modern times, this has originated with charismatic groups and modern music. Remember, although he loves and cares for his Children, Jesus is neither your buddy nor your boyfriend.
The question isn't why are you single, the question really is why aren't your married?
I told my tennis friends a while back, I don't tell you to get divorced, so don't tell me to get married. It was a great way to end the conversation. If your married, thank God. If your single, thank God.
One of my managers from worked asked me, if I was ever gonna get married. I told him, marriage is punishment in some countries (A Wayne's World joke). He replied (my manager who was married), "marriage is punishment in ALL countries".
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@Lanolin
Wanting to be near someone you love and hold their hand isn't choosing the flesh over the spirit at all. God made us for community and to worship with others, though of course, we can worship alone as well.
Much of this is just due to personal style.
From your posts (Lanolin), it doesn't sound like you have anyone you really like, trust, or are close to, so it makes sense that you say you don't want to hold someone's hand while worshipping or doing anything else.
But for others... They/we might have people we actually like being around or want to be around, so pulling them close while worshipping God together (being a family) just feels natural, and is most definitely a spiritual, and not just a fleshly, experience.
One of the very reasons God made people was to have a family, and holding hands can be (doesn't has to be, but it can be) a loving expression of that.
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I would hold someones hand if they wanted to cross a busy road and they needed someone to go with them. Otherwise, I think you can generally keep your hands to yourselves.
I dont know I guess I m not trwally into the whole hand holding thing. I still dont undertand the whole hand shaking thing. I would rahter give someone a high five than shake their hands.
I dont know I guess I m not trwally into the whole hand holding thing. I still dont undertand the whole hand shaking thing. I would rahter give someone a high five than shake their hands.
sorry hand holders.
Maybe Im just ...different. I like to be hands free I suppose. Most people tend to have their hands on their phones at all times wheras Im just like, you can talk to me if Im right in front of you you know.
My sister gave me a pair of gardening gloves, but I dont wear them. I think because they get hot and sweaty. People used to always remark at my hands because I have long fingers and would ask if I played piano.
sorry to disappoint them bUt I dont play piano. I do sometimes play guitar though.
I dont like wearing rings or bracelets either. I think if you are the type of person that needs to have their hands on something or reminded that you belong to someone then you probably not going to like being single.
I just find that having your hands free to worship is good.
Maybe Im just ...different. I like to be hands free I suppose. Most people tend to have their hands on their phones at all times wheras Im just like, you can talk to me if Im right in front of you you know.
My sister gave me a pair of gardening gloves, but I dont wear them. I think because they get hot and sweaty. People used to always remark at my hands because I have long fingers and would ask if I played piano.
sorry to disappoint them bUt I dont play piano. I do sometimes play guitar though.
I dont like wearing rings or bracelets either. I think if you are the type of person that needs to have their hands on something or reminded that you belong to someone then you probably not going to like being single.
I just find that having your hands free to worship is good.
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