My statement might have been a little stronger than I meant, but years is probably a bit much to wait. I guess when I hear being friends first, I tend to think of the “nice” approach where someone becomes friends while pining for someone else and never takes the risk of asking the other one out.
That’s potentially a bit different than getting to know someone a bit first.
Based on your other posts you seem to be a bit young and don’t know much about guys. I would consider being open to being asked out sooner than two years 😛. But it does seem like you might have some other things to work on before being ready for that.
As far as asking guys out; I have heard some guys don’t respond well to it. I imagine those are the more “traditional” types? I don’t think I would mind. I know the risk of rejection from asking people out so I’d have some appreciation for the woman asking just from that perspective if nothing else.
I do sometimes think in Christian circles women can confuse being available to interaction with perusing; which can make things difficult with Christians. The ones I did ask out or enjoyed getting to know made their interest someone known. Well, or at least displayed a detail level of openness to my approach.
That’s potentially a bit different than getting to know someone a bit first.
Based on your other posts you seem to be a bit young and don’t know much about guys. I would consider being open to being asked out sooner than two years 😛. But it does seem like you might have some other things to work on before being ready for that.
As far as asking guys out; I have heard some guys don’t respond well to it. I imagine those are the more “traditional” types? I don’t think I would mind. I know the risk of rejection from asking people out so I’d have some appreciation for the woman asking just from that perspective if nothing else.
I do sometimes think in Christian circles women can confuse being available to interaction with perusing; which can make things difficult with Christians. The ones I did ask out or enjoyed getting to know made their interest someone known. Well, or at least displayed a detail level of openness to my approach.
I think my situation is a bit of an odd one. I don't know anything about guys but I'm not super young. 36 years old. I just never dealt with them before and have issues with them so I will move very slow. Once I get into the situation I can play it by ear. I'm just here to learn who men are and the different aspects of their personalities. This is where i'm at right now. Just doing research and asking questions.