Rules of Engagement

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Lanolin

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ok enough

I might as well have countered 'show me a man whos comfortable in a dress and high heels and I'm good to go'
just to be ironic

but...I refrained...till now.
btw if thats you...uh..I was being IRONIC and nonsensical but I dont want to confuse a poor guy anymore than necessary
 

Lanolin

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oH but lanolin he could have meant 'with' rather than 'in'

no but I distinctly remember he wrote IN

you can check

now if you are humble enough to repent and correct your own mistake ...I will forgive you
 

Kireina

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I don't understand why jeans are dirty lol they are dirty if you don't wash them 😅 I love jeans specially the ripped ones 🤔
 

Live4Him3

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Show me a woman who's comfortable in a pair of jeans, and I'm good to go.
THIS IS WHAT you said

'show me a womans who's comfortable in jeans'

what woman is comfortable in jeans? I just told you why they are the most uncomfortable item of clothing ever designed! Women actually dont like wearing them. I speak as a woman lol
Yes, and I plainly explained to you what I meant by that statement in my consequential comment here:

I only mentioned jeans because they're casual. I have nothing against dresses and what have you, and I certainly would never place any sort of clothing demands upon a woman. I really meant "comfortable" more in the sense that she didn't need to dress to impress. I'm really not impressed with fancy clothes, but that's just me.
In other words, I was talking more about a woman not needing to worry about dressing to impress me because I'm much more concerned about/interested in what's in a woman's heart and mind than how she looks outwardly.

Additionally, I see DOZENS OF WOMEN (at least) wearing jeans DAILY, so you're definitely not the spokeswoman for all women, so perhaps you should turn it down a notch or two with your comments here which are allegedly made on behalf of all women.
man some peoples reading comprehension skills are kinda lacking on this forum
There's nothing wrong with my reading comprehension skills, but I'm actually glad that you mentioned this.

Just so you know, the phrase "rules of engagement", which is the actual title of this thread, doesn't really mean "rules for people getting engaged in order to get married", which seems to be the vein that you're following here.

The phrase is actually a military phrase, and here is what it means:

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/rules-of-engagement

rules of engagement

noun [ plural ]

orders that soldiers fighting in a war are given about what they can and cannot do:

The soldier fired on a wounded man, an apparent breach of the rules of engagement.

It seems to me (I could be mistaken) that tourist used this military phrase as a sort of double entendre (a word or phrase that is open to two interpretations) to both describe the dos and don'ts of dating in a more generic sense, which is what I've been commenting on, and the actions which might eventually lead to an actual wedding engagement in a more specific sense, which is what you've apparently been commenting on.

I say this based upon such "rules" as these in his opening post:

What rules do certain residents of CC follow in their pursuit of love? I will offer a few insights of my own. The rules listed are of equal importance for myself.

Have no fear of rejection.

Develop a tolerance for pain as you may end up with a broken heart. Be strong for you will survive. Life will go on.

Faint heart does not win fair woman.

Marry only for love.

Pay attention to detail.

Accept the woman for who she is at this moment. Positive refinement comes only from God over a long period of time.

I must be willing to accept God's discipline for my own positive change that she may find appealing.

Be patient but let your resolve be resolute.

Pursue with wild abandon in your heart. Do not hold back.

Never settle for second best or someone else's hand-me-downs

Do not date for the purpose of having a one-night-stand, as that is vanity and pointless.

Do not pursue anyone that you would not consider marrying. Do not waste your time.

Offer only the best that has been provided by God. Do not lie. Be honest in all things.

Her feelings are more important than my own desires.

I do not believe in long, protracted engagements. Either you know what you want or you don't.

Play for keeps or get out of the game. This game is for serious players only and not the timid.

All is fair in love and war.
In the rules that I've bold-faced in red, there are references to "war" ("rules of engagement" in a military sense as in proper dos and don'ts) and references to actual engagements which could lead to marriage ("rules of engagement" in a literal sense as in what rules to follow to possibly wind up engaged for marriage).

In any case, in no way, shape, or form was I suggesting that a woman should get married in a pair of jeans, although she's perfectly fine in doing so if that is what she and her spouse decide upon.

Hopefully, this brings some clarity here because you've continually greatly misunderstood what I've actually said here and the context in which I've said it.
 

Live4Him3

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oH but lanolin he could have meant 'with' rather than 'in'

no but I distinctly remember he wrote IN

you can check

now if you are humble enough to repent and correct your own mistake ...I will forgive you
There's absolutely nothing for me to actually repent of here.

In stark contrast, you've continually misunderstood and misrepresented what I've actually said and meant here, so let's see if you're humble enough to admit the same (at least to God...I'm not looking for an apology).

Whatever you decide to do, you've actually given a prime example here of why I'm personally done with women.

It's the same old same old.

I say one thing.

They hear something completely different.

I honestly clarify what I actually said.

They couldn't care less and continue with their attacks on me and my character.

Whatever.

I'm good in God's sight, and, quite frankly, that's all that matters to me anymore.
 

Lynx

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the land of dirty smelly jeans
Im not even gonna wash them..just toss them in trash
it will break the machine

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Still not sure how this thread got into defending/attacking the wearing of jeans, but whatevs...

A picture for a picture: This is my favorite pair of work pants. Black jeans. Doggone comfortable too.

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Lynx

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There's absolutely nothing for me to actually repent of here.

In stark contrast, you've continually misunderstood and misrepresented what I've actually said and meant here, so let's see if you're humble enough to admit the same (at least to God...I'm not looking for an apology).

Whatever you decide to do, you've actually given a prime example here of why I'm personally done with women.

It's the same old same old.

I say one thing.

They hear something completely different.

I honestly clarify what I actually said.

They couldn't care less and continue with their attacks on me and my character.

Whatever.

I'm good in God's sight, and, quite frankly, that's all that matters to me anymore.
Dude you oughta know about Lanolin by now. Just roll your eyes and move on. That's the only profitable response in this situation.
 

Live4Him3

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Dude you oughta know about Lanolin by now. Just roll your eyes and move on. That's the only profitable response in this situation.
Perhaps, but I'll always go the extra mile to hopefully bring some sort of reconciliation. Granted, it hardly ever turns out that way (if ever), but it's worth a try.
 

Live4Him3

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Still not sure how this thread got into defending/attacking the wearing of jeans, but whatevs...

A picture for a picture: This is my favorite pair of work pants. Black jeans. Doggone comfortable too.

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They look exactly like the type of black jeans that I wear all of the time.

Yep, doggone comfortable.
 

Live4Him3

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I don't understand why jeans are dirty lol they are dirty if you don't wash them 😅 I love jeans specially the ripped ones 🤔
Hi, Kireina.

I don't know how to tell you this, and I'm certainly not a biologist, but, apparently, you're not a woman because you love jeans.

I know...I know...I was surprised to learn this myself, but the divine pronouncement has been made here by lanolin, so you'll just have to adjust accordingly or incur her wrath.

It's a shame, too, because I always thought (for real...no sarcasm) that you were a fine example of not only a woman, but of a godly woman, based upon the posts of yours that I've read here and the heartset and mindset that I've discerned behind them.

I don't know what else to say...

:cry:
 

Lynx

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Hi, Kireina.

I don't know how to tell you this, and I'm certainly not a biologist, but, apparently, you're not a woman because you love jeans.

I know...I know...I was surprised to learn this myself, but the divine pronouncement has been made here by lanolin, so you'll just have to adjust accordingly or incur her wrath.

It's a shame, too, because I always thought (for real...no sarcasm) that you were a fine example of not only a woman, but of a godly woman, based upon the posts of yours that I've read here and the heartset and mindset that I've discerned behind them.

I don't know what else to say...

:cry:
And by default you, as a woman, find jeans very uncomfortable. Apparently? Don't forget the part about jeans being very uncomfortable for a woman.
 

Lynx

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With that out of the way, I'm really not overly fond of skinny jeans myself.
I'm not sure why Lanolin focused on skinny jeans specifically, but I have to agree that those jeans in particular are not comfortable... Because I'm not skinny.

They're called "skinny" jeans, not "make-you-skinny" jeans. I'm not skinny so yeah, no, I'm not even gonna try.

Some people do seem to think they are "make-you-skinny" jeans though... Which is where the discomfort seems to set in. :p

I'm keeping my unskinny butt in relaxed fit jeans.
 

Live4Him3

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I'm not sure why Lanolin focused on skinny jeans specifically, but I have to agree that those jeans in particular are not comfortable... Because I'm not skinny.

They're called "skinny" jeans, not "make-you-skinny" jeans. I'm not skinny so yeah, no, I'm not even gonna try.

Some people do seem to think they are "make-you-skinny" jeans though... Which is where the discomfort seems to set in. :p

I'm keeping my unskinny butt in relaxed fit jeans.
I'm a bit on the tall and thin side myself, but I also wear relaxed fit jeans.

As I mentioned somewhere on this forum just a few days ago, I'm really not into restrictive clothing or clothing that makes me feel like a mummy.
 

Live4Him3

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And by default you, as a woman, find jeans very uncomfortable. Apparently? Don't forget the part about jeans being very uncomfortable for a woman.
o_O

What?!?

Me?

A woman?

(He unzips his bear suit just enough to check on his gender, and then lets out a great sigh of relief)

Nope.

I'm definitely a man, and I find jeans to be very comfortable.
 

Lynx

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I'm a bit on the tall and thin side myself, but I also wear relaxed fit jeans.

As I mentioned somewhere on this forum just a few days ago, I'm really not into restrictive clothing or clothing that makes me feel like a mummy.
Aye. When I bend and my skin stretches, if my clothes don't stretch the same way they'd doggone well better slide.

I've worn jeans that are too tight. They don't stretch OR slide. I didn't wear them any longer than I had to.

No idea how people wear skinny jeans, but I bet they don't have a job that requires a lot of physical activity.
 

Lynx

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o_O

What?!?

Me?

A woman?

(He unzips his bear suit just enough to check on his gender, and then lets out a great sigh of relief)

Nope.

I'm definitely a man, and I find jeans to be very comfortable.
I was talking to the same person you were talking to.

Hi, Kireina.

I don't know how to tell you this, and I'm certainly not a biologist, but, apparently, you're not a woman because you love jeans.

I know...I know...I was surprised to learn this myself, but the divine pronouncement has been made here by lanolin, so you'll just have to adjust accordingly or incur her wrath.

It's a shame, too, because I always thought (for real...no sarcasm) that you were a fine example of not only a woman, but of a godly woman, based upon the posts of yours that I've read here and the heartset and mindset that I've discerned behind them.

I don't know what else to say...

:cry:
And by default you, as a woman, find jeans very uncomfortable. Apparently? Don't forget the part about jeans being very uncomfortable for a woman.
 

Live4Him3

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I was talking to the same person you were talking to.
I wasn't exactly sure what you meant by that, so thanks for the clarification.

I considered asking you what you meant, but I couldn't pass up the opportunity to say something stupid/silly.

Anyhow, there's definitely a man hiding inside of this bear suit (and behind a tree...lol).
 

Live4Him3

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Aye. When I bend and my skin stretches, if my clothes don't stretch the same way they'd doggone well better slide.

I've worn jeans that are too tight. They don't stretch OR slide. I didn't wear them any longer than I had to.

No idea how people wear skinny jeans, but I bet they don't have a job that requires a lot of physical activity.
My son (he's only 14, and he's already 6' 1" tall...I've still got him by 1/2 an inch) tends to like skinny jeans, but definitely not me.
 

Lynx

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Anyhow, there's definitely a man hiding inside of this bear suit (and behind a tree...lol).
Well you spend time in BDF. No wonder you hide in a suit, behind a tree. I'd do a lot of hiding too. :p
 

Live4Him3

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Well you spend time in BDF. No wonder you hide in a suit, behind a tree. I'd do a lot of hiding too. :p
I have spent considerable time there, and I'm not sure if "BDF" stands for "Bible Discussion Forum" or "Bear Detesting Forum"...lol.

In either case, God's grace is sufficient.

I also have pretty thick fur...