If you decide what you want, or what you believe, and then go through the Bible trying to find support for that, you will find it. You will ignore everything that contradicts what you want to believe and find the one verse that you can take out of context and twist to fit what you want. People do it all the time, and trying to argue with them is like trying to help a person who is lost on the highway and won't take directions. "Good luck and I hope you don't wind up in a place that is too dangerous" is the best we can do.