I don't know if it was as bad in past generations, but I think dating nowadays is basically just people writing out a checklist and trying to find someone who ticks all the boxes, both for men and for women.
And I've said many times that I think Christians are actually worse that secular dates, because every Christian is told God only wants "the best" for them -- which they assume is synonymous with what THEY think is best for them.
I have a guy friend who has told me for over 20 years, "God may not send you what you want, but He'll send you what you need."
Thanks for the well-wishes.
Funny that you added in "a well-off Christian guy."
I don't need one who's well-off -- I just need one who can stick to a budget and pay for his own things. In the relationships I had, I always had to pay because they spend their money on things like clothes, games, booze, and smokes, and so I always wound up paying their actual bills.
Never. again.
If I can help it, at least. And he doesn't have to worry about paying for me. I've heard of some communities who don't want women to work -- but then how is she supposed to be able to support herself if her husband isn't good with money, and what if he runs off with someone else?
I never had much money either. The only difference is that my parents taught me to hang on to a good majority of it, because life is expensive -- and unpredictable.
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