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I got married young. After 9 years, I divorced her. I was being selfish.
Years later, I married again. After 8 years, she divorced me. Technically, she was being selfish. Kinda evens out, I guess.
I now look back on my first marriage and realize what I had. I might try to get her back, and she might take me, except for one inconvenient fact...she's dead!
I'd really like to get married again, but to be honest, I don't need a wife...more like a personal support worker!
Any takers...none? I'm surprised!
Years later, I married again. After 8 years, she divorced me. Technically, she was being selfish. Kinda evens out, I guess.
I now look back on my first marriage and realize what I had. I might try to get her back, and she might take me, except for one inconvenient fact...she's dead!
I'd really like to get married again, but to be honest, I don't need a wife...more like a personal support worker!
Any takers...none? I'm surprised!
First marriage: 6 years / 6 months - she initiated the divorce. Actually it was a blessing in disguise. Horrible wife.
Second marriage: 11 years / 2 months - she died prematurely at age of 59. Good wife but was in declining health for most of the marriage. God asked me if I wanted to take care of her and I said 'yes'.
Third marriage: 7 years / 5 months - still married. Wonderful wife, very spiritual, smart, and often amusing.
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Well, I'm normally one to lace up my boxing gloves and duke it out on this forum (for the truth's sake), but I'm going to give refereeing a go...
Hey, Gojira.
I have no beef with you, and I actually relate to a lot of what you say because there are apparently a lot of similarities in our lives.
That said, I really think that you should apologize to @anne03.
Although there was no quote in her post, if you hadn't responded so hastily, then you might have noticed this:
She obviously said that in response to this:
Look, I know that this is a sensitive topic for you, and I don't just know that in my head. Again, there are apparently a lot of similarities in our lives, and I fully understand the type of heartache that you're feeling.
Even then, you did jump the gun on this one, and you basically insulted someone who wasn't even talking to you.
I'd recommend an apology.
The choice, of course, is yours.
Hey, Gojira.
I have no beef with you, and I actually relate to a lot of what you say because there are apparently a lot of similarities in our lives.
That said, I really think that you should apologize to @anne03.
Although there was no quote in her post, if you hadn't responded so hastily, then you might have noticed this:
She obviously said that in response to this:
Look, I know that this is a sensitive topic for you, and I don't just know that in my head. Again, there are apparently a lot of similarities in our lives, and I fully understand the type of heartache that you're feeling.
Even then, you did jump the gun on this one, and you basically insulted someone who wasn't even talking to you.
I'd recommend an apology.
The choice, of course, is yours.
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I heard that.
I heard that, too.
Calvin was an arch-heretic, and you have plenty of worth.
How can I be so sure?
Because we can easily determine something's worth by the price someone is willing to pay for it.
What price was God willing to pay for you?
The precious blood of Jesus Christ.
Don't fall into the condemnation and self-pity trap.
I lived in that trap for many years until it finally dawned on me that it was the voice of Satan/demons that I was listening to, and not the voice of God.
Whether or not you're ever married in this life, God has invited you to the marriage of his Son, and that relationship can truly last forever whereas natural marriage is only for this side of eternity.
Focus on making that marriage work, and leave the rest in the hands of God.
It's not easy, but it's doable by the grace of God.
This I know, firsthand.
I heard that, too.
Calvin was an arch-heretic, and you have plenty of worth.
How can I be so sure?
Because we can easily determine something's worth by the price someone is willing to pay for it.
What price was God willing to pay for you?
The precious blood of Jesus Christ.
Don't fall into the condemnation and self-pity trap.
I lived in that trap for many years until it finally dawned on me that it was the voice of Satan/demons that I was listening to, and not the voice of God.
Whether or not you're ever married in this life, God has invited you to the marriage of his Son, and that relationship can truly last forever whereas natural marriage is only for this side of eternity.
Focus on making that marriage work, and leave the rest in the hands of God.
It's not easy, but it's doable by the grace of God.
This I know, firsthand.
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Hi @Seeking-Christ and I'll offer my viewpoint re your Thread. To me, the #1 trait in a male I admire is someone who lives as a beloved secure child of God, joint heirs w/Jesus. Good looks don't guarantee success in a marriage, being equally yoked is the starting point. 'As a man thinks in his heart so is he' so we need to study exactly who God says we are and He never says we're hopeless.
I see many husbands who one would not consider handsome, but they win you over by their Spirit-filled presence. 'There is life and death in the power of the tongue' so start confessing Scriptures over yourself like;
7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 2 Tim 1:7
7 “But blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him. Jer 17:7
May the Holy Spirit guide you into His truth which stems from God's unconditional love🙏
(also Scriptures on renewing the mind is something we all should be doing daily😊)
I see many husbands who one would not consider handsome, but they win you over by their Spirit-filled presence. 'There is life and death in the power of the tongue' so start confessing Scriptures over yourself like;
7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 2 Tim 1:7
7 “But blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him. Jer 17:7
May the Holy Spirit guide you into His truth which stems from God's unconditional love🙏
(also Scriptures on renewing the mind is something we all should be doing daily😊)
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And why was he rejected?
Because there was something wrong with him?
Nope.
Instead, there was, and still is, something terribly wrong with this world.
My own life has been one of constant rejection in many different forms, and, to a very large degree, I've learned to embrace it as a good thing.
We're supposed to be in this world and not of it.
My heart and the world's heart have nothing in common.
Anyhow, the good news is that God has made Christians "ACCEPTED in the beloved" (Eph. 1:6).
I'll take that over this world's acceptance any day of the week.
Because there was something wrong with him?
Nope.
Instead, there was, and still is, something terribly wrong with this world.
My own life has been one of constant rejection in many different forms, and, to a very large degree, I've learned to embrace it as a good thing.
We're supposed to be in this world and not of it.
My heart and the world's heart have nothing in common.
Anyhow, the good news is that God has made Christians "ACCEPTED in the beloved" (Eph. 1:6).
I'll take that over this world's acceptance any day of the week.
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^^^THIS^^^
If our eyes are truly open and not blinded by Satan, then we come to realize that marriage is probably the scariest thing imaginable.
Why?
Well, because God ordained it to be a natural representation of the spiritual union between Christ and the church.
How many husbands are truly prepared to love their wives as Christ loved the church?
To nourish and cherish her as their own flesh?
To wash her with the water of the word or to help her to be sanctified unto the Lord by rightly sharing God's word with her?
Similarly, how many wives are truly prepared to reverence their husbands as the church reverences (does it really?) Christ?
I'd say that the percentages are STAGGERINGLY LOW, and yet this is what God has called married couples to, and they will give an account for how they either truly represented Christ and the church to the world or how they truly misrepresented the same on Judgment Day.
In all your plans/desires to be married, THIS had better be the thing that you're most focused on.
If our eyes are truly open and not blinded by Satan, then we come to realize that marriage is probably the scariest thing imaginable.
Why?
Well, because God ordained it to be a natural representation of the spiritual union between Christ and the church.
How many husbands are truly prepared to love their wives as Christ loved the church?
To nourish and cherish her as their own flesh?
To wash her with the water of the word or to help her to be sanctified unto the Lord by rightly sharing God's word with her?
Similarly, how many wives are truly prepared to reverence their husbands as the church reverences (does it really?) Christ?
I'd say that the percentages are STAGGERINGLY LOW, and yet this is what God has called married couples to, and they will give an account for how they either truly represented Christ and the church to the world or how they truly misrepresented the same on Judgment Day.
In all your plans/desires to be married, THIS had better be the thing that you're most focused on.
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Broooooooo...
I'm sorry, but your ex will have to settle for the silver medal.
Trust me on this one.
P.S.
My ex and I are quite amicable now. However, that's not due to any remorse or repentance on her part whatsoever. Instead, she knows that I could literally have her arrested, so she's begrudgingly stopped her relentless pursuit of destroying me. Anyhow, believe it or not, I have no malice towards her (it took some time to get that out of my heart), but only pity. She once truly walked with God. Saw many real miracles along the way, too. Now, she's renounced Christ/Christianity and has since dabbled in all sorts of false religions. It's horrifying to watch.
I'm sorry, but your ex will have to settle for the silver medal.
Trust me on this one.
P.S.
My ex and I are quite amicable now. However, that's not due to any remorse or repentance on her part whatsoever. Instead, she knows that I could literally have her arrested, so she's begrudgingly stopped her relentless pursuit of destroying me. Anyhow, believe it or not, I have no malice towards her (it took some time to get that out of my heart), but only pity. She once truly walked with God. Saw many real miracles along the way, too. Now, she's renounced Christ/Christianity and has since dabbled in all sorts of false religions. It's horrifying to watch.
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