How to identify the right partner for love among your female friends?

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trofimus

trofimus

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jameen said:
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Any Christian here give me an advice about this issue especially according to their good experience thanks.
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List all verses from the Bible you can find about good women. Then compare it to your female friends :)

But you should also consider what you personaly prefer (type of look, temper...), their families, which one you like, which one is the closest in faith to you, backgrounds, cultural traditions etc. Its a complex issue.
 
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I hope you realize that if you were to ask 200 happily married couples how they met, etc. you would probably get 150 different answers.

My parents met through mutual friends, Jesuslives and Tourist met here on CC, an old friend of mine and his wife met when he worked at a feed store where her parents were customers, My sister and her husband met on a christian chat room, some meet at church or other ministry related activities, others meet at bible college, the list could go on forever.
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what made them convince that their love partners are the ones who were given by God to them? please share your story if you know.
 
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jameen said:
How will you identify that she is the one given to you by the Lord?
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God is not a cosmic Santa Claus or a genie. He is not going to “give” you a wife. There is a thing called free will. Who is to say any of the women in your friend club would even consider dating you, much less marry you? Every single one of them may say “no thanks” to your magnanimity in dating the one you think is the most likely to be “given” to you. You presume these women may be interested in you, at all.
 
Tommy379

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LaVieEnRose said:
God is not a cosmic Santa Claus or a genie. He is not going to “give” you a wife. There is a thing called free will. Who is to say any of the women in your friend club would even consider dating you, much less marry you? Every single one of them may say “no thanks” to your magnanimity in dating the one you think is the most likely to be “given” to you. You presume these women may be interested in you, at all.
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Well, we agree on something.
 
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Tommy379 said:
Well, we agree on something.
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His OP smacks of arrogance, like “Which one of you LUCKY LADIES should I choose?” He is totally ignoring the fact that they may not be in the least bit interested in him.
 
trofimus

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LaVieEnRose said:
His OP smacks of arrogance, like “Which one of you LUCKY LADIES should I choose?” He is totally ignoring the fact that they may not be in the least bit interested in him.
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Have you considered cultural differences? He is from Manila, you are from the USA.
 
Tommy379

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I want to further state, that marriage is a complete gamble.

You don't know what is really going on in your spouse's mind. You could match them up to everything the bible says a woman should be, and tomorrow they change their mind. God makes no one do anything. They could be the most Godly woman on earth, and still take off on you. If everyone did what God says to do, there wouldn't be any sin.

Think about this people.

My best advice; find someone you can somewhat get along with, and do everything YOU can to make it work. The rest of it is on the other person.

Good luck.
 
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trofimus said:
Have you considered cultural differences? He is from Manila, you are from the USA.
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People do the same things for the same motivation, regardless of where they are from, who they are from, and when they are from.
 
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trofimus said:
Have you considered cultural differences? He is from Manila, you are from the USA.
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Wow, so the women in the Philippines just say “Yes, I’ll date you” to any man that asks? Thank God I live in the US of A. I am not compelled to date a man if I don’t like him.
 
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LaVieEnRose said:
Wow, so the women in the Philippines just say “Yes, I’ll date you” to any man that asks? Thank God I live in the US of A. I am not compelled to date a man if I don’t like him.
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Typical american ignorance.

Nobody said they MUST date him if they do not like him.
 
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LaVieEnRose

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trofimus said:
Typical american ignorance.

Nobody said they MUST date him if they do not like him.
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He stated “Which one should I choose”, so he is presuming any of them want to be his chosen!

If I said, “Which one of these guys should I date who are in my clique?” Posters would say “Wow, she is full of herself, the guys in her group may not even be attracted to her. She is so conceited.” They’d be absolutely right in this scenario.
 
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LaVieEnRose said:
He stated “Which one should I choose”, so he is presuming any of them want to be his chosen!

If I said, “Which one of these guys should I date who are in my clique?” Posters would say “Wow, she is full of herself, the guys in her group may not even be attracted to her. She is so conceited.” They’d be absolutely right in this scenario.
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I think the guy just got confused, and thought he was Tommy for a moment. Every woman does want some steaming hot Tommy.
 
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Tommy379 said:
I think the guy just got confused, and thought he was Tommy for a moment. Every woman does want some steaming hot Tommy.
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Except for the ones who are annoyed by people who refer to themselves in the third person.

According to Hameen, the women in the Philippines are easy pickins’, that’s some knowledge to keep under your hat.
 
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Tommy379 said:
You know you came back to cc for Tommy. Just admit it.
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You know how it is with ugly chicks, we are desperate for male attention. Heck, I make traffic violations on purpose just so a man will be compelled to talk to me for a few minutes.
 
Tommy379

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LaVieEnRose said:
You know how it is with ugly chicks, we are desperate for male attention. Heck, I make traffic violations on purpose just so a man will be compelled to talk to me for a few minutes.
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Why you think you're ugly?
 
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LaVieEnRose

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Tommy379 said:
Why you think you're ugly?
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I never get tickets- and here I was, thinking it was due to my white privilege! I had no idea police officers give ugly chicks a pass on traffic violations to give us a break, I thought all white women got out of getting tickets regardless of looks.
 
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