Do You Find Being Around People Exhausting? How Do You Cope?

[seoulsearch]

I think it should be outrovert. We don't call it endovert. It should be either introvert and outrovert or endovert and extrovert.

The reason I keep wanting to say "outrovert" is because of belly buttons.

I mean, we have innies and outies --

NOT "innies" and "exxies", so it just seems like the terms should be "Introvert" and "Outrovert" as well.

 

[ATSTD]

We have a great community here...

Sometimes we just have to turn over a few rocks to find it.

Back in the day, when there wasn't as much competition from other sites and apps, we'd regularly have a group of people in Singles posting all kinds of threads. It was hard to keep up, but a lot of fun! It seemed like every 15 minutes, there was a new set of threads and posts to answer.

And with so many regulars answering, we all got to know each other a bit and were able to tease each other like siblings. One time we played a game where we each switched to someone else's avatar, then kind of pretended to post like that person in a round of "Guess Which CC Member I Am!"

One person wrote an entire page of nothing but Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah, neatly arranged into paragraphs, because he was poking fun at how I write such long posts! I still laugh out loud when I think about it!

It was hilarious and such a great time -- I'm always hoping to bring back a sense of playfulness like that into the threads. I had a church mentor tell me once that I should start a Singles group, and this is my way of doing so, but on a larger scale that hopefully includes a little of everyone.

I know things have changed a lot over the years, but we can keep trying!

That sounds really fun and funny.

I might sound like a nut sometimes.

You might be one of the easiest people to emulate, just cause you are a natural servant leader here and your character is very unique.

 

[cinder]

I'm so introverted I no longer care what other people say about it. I find that being anywhere else with anyone else is at least somewhat tiring. Familar places and people with leisurely interactions aren't so bad. Large groups of people in new places or with lots of constant interaction, I'm probably not going to bother showing up. And this is why extraverts don't believe introverts exist, we make a point of avoiding their crazy energy.

As to being introverted and Christian, there was a whole book written about introverts in the church. Though there's a good chance that the book your pastor is quoting from was written by an introverted Christian.

 

[seoulsearch]

That sounds really fun and funny. I might sound like a nut sometimes.You might be one of the easiest people to emulate, just cause you are a natural servant leader here and your character is very unique.

Thank you so much.

I can be a little... feisty... just ask the people here who know me , so I'm not always the best example, but I greatly appreciate the kind words.

I'm an Asian who was adopted into and grew up in a Caucasian family. My whole life, I've always been in-between, never fitting into one side or another in almost every area in life. I often felt confused, angry, and isolated because of this. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't really fit in.

One day, God told me He had built me to be a bridge between people, and that's why I never seem to be able to fully stand on one side or the other. I'm made to try to create connections and understanding, if possible, and because of that, I usually find myself somewhere in the middle.

Once God helped me understand who I really was and why, I became very passionate about helping others find their true identities in Christ as well, and that's what I'm trying to do with these threads.

My username, Seoulsearch, represents a city from the country where I was born, my search to find out who I am, and my mission to help others find who they are in Christ, too.

We are glad you're here!

I don't think we've had anyone here in a while who's as open as you are, and that's very refreshing. We all have things we're working out, and I appreciate seeing others who share their ongoing process on different levels.

Your gift for music is amazing!

 

[NightTwister]

I'm an extrovert, but I find that people annoy me a lot more than they used to. I think most people experience that as we get older. The people in my office are exhausting. They have no respect for others around them. They talk loudly on the phone and have in-person meetings at their desk. I have to wear noise-canceling earbuds with low dB over-the-ear headphones. Even that isn't enough sometimes, so I have to play some music to completely drown them out.

 

[Karlon]

Thank You Very Much

vereee phunnneee!

 

[Magenta]

Thank you so much for the encouraging words, Lady Magenta. If you ever find an online test for introvert/extrovert (I keep wanting to say outrovert, lol) that doesn't require selling our souls, please let us know! That would be a fascinating discussion.

It seems introverts are seen as always living within their own shell, but God seems to have made me able to blast out of my shell at full force at times -- most especially online, BUT, in order to do that, I have to have lots of "in shell" time in between.

I think the other thing God made me to do was to try to see things from another's point of view, remembering the times I've felt socially awkward, unsure of how to join in, etc., then try to ease that discomfort for other people. I'm especially concerned about helping other introverts -- lifelong or, like you, discovered over time -- build connections we all need, but sometimes find in unconventional ways (writing and online!)

I always find your story fascinating. My family is minute compared to yours and I'm always amazed at how large families, practically their own village, find ways to adjust. I don't see you as being selfish at all, rather, I think as we get older, we learn more about how to preserve ourselves, rather than let everyone else run us ragged like when we're younger.

I think life is a lot like being on an airplane -- in case of emergencies (or when we're depleted,) we're not really told to fit and adjust our own oxygen mask before trying to help others with theirs. Rather, especially in the church, we're told that the answer is to give give give, serve serve serve, pray harder, study longer, more more more... When what many of us seem to discover what we really need -- is time for just God and us, in our own unique ways.

I very much enjoy that you are able to witness to people here on a level and about things in life I can't speak on because I don't have the experience. Serious, heartbreaking things that you understand in a unique way because God brought you through them. I often see a post here and there and then see you show up, and I'm thinking, "If anyone can get through to this person, it's Lady Magenta!" Your life is exquisite proof that God uses everything we go through for His higher, divine purpose.

I love that you can stand up to some of the people who come here who are rough around the edges, not always because they're trying to cause trouble, but sometimes because they're genuinely searching -- which can involve a lot of anger -- and you understand that process.

Not to mention, of course, your colorful and uplifting artwork, which helps many of us who are greatly affected by graphics and color!

I'm sure I'm not the only one here who feels better after seeing some of your creations among the threads. Sometimes it's just the colors alone that minister to me and make me feel refreshed, even before I read the panel.

Thank you so much for all the time you spend here, sharing your stories and talents! 💖🙏💒

Thank you so much for your very kind words that share your heart and love of all that is good and show what a truly wonderful multi-faceted person you are. You made me cry! LOL. And that is a good thing also, because as I age I feel in some ways more and more jaded and cynical about certain things, and definitely more distant from the cares and concerns that drive many to seek solace here, to find answers for the questions that plague them, the quests they can neither shake nor slake, even if they are totally misguided in their seeking, for we know, do we not? We have learned so well that at the heart of everything we do and seek and desire and truly love is the ground of our being which is God... so it is interesting to me and I do remember quite well as a twenty-something, meeting an atheist for the first time... myself having been brought up in a fairly strict religious home (oy, did I rebel against all that!) to meet someone who had no religious background was... almost indescribable LOL. Fascinating, also. Because I quit the church at sixteen and a little more than sixteen years later began in earnest my spiritual seeking. And I always had some concept of God, some understanding of God being present, and pervasive, but I just could not agree with the organized religious side of it... how well I understand the natural man in that regard, and even after a profound encounter with God at the age of thirty three, I did not believe in the Biblical God, though I treasured the knowledge that was imparted to me at that time, and love to make people laugh by telling them I though it was too bad that God let me know I was loved and forgiven in a church. Haha. Well, of course He would! I had gone to see a movie on the life of Christ, after all. Anywho...

Yes, this upbringing we had, based on service to others, drained me and then some, for "No" was not a healthy part of my vocabulary and I had very poor boundaries all round, which got me into endless trouble. This online life is an interesting mix of desiring connection coupled with a need for autonomy and discretion, especially in this age of information gathering... not that we have anything to hide per se, but just as a matter of course and common sense. I remember on one of the first sites where I was doing apologetics, someone found me on another social media site, and that kind of freaked me out, because although that person was friendly toward me, not everyone is, and I know there are psychos in the world who love to do damage to people in any way they can. Does that sound paranoid? LOL.

I am so glad you enjoy my splashes of colour! Last night I was also trying to find a thread I thought you had created asking others about, where is your happy place? I even checked your profile for threads created, but it must have been somewhere else because I could not find it. Some said their happy place was bed, and I thought that a bit of a reclusive answer, I mean, I love my alone time but I would not necessarily describe myself as a true recluse, and bed is where I want to sleep. I did have to think about it a bit... even though I spend a lot of time there you might think the answer would come immediately to me, but no. And of course my happy place is when I am in the middle of designing something and there is some issue, a problem I have to figure out and fix... I have to find the perfect face, or eyes to go with the face I chose, or I need to work with a different face after spending hours and building the whole panel around some other one, or I need to choose background to go with a figure, and work out how to blend the images, and whether or not to add other things, such as flowers, and/or butterflies, or make some decision about the border, should I add a frame, what font am I going to use, what verse goes well with this, does it flow properly, how can I make this better, is it finished yet? LOL In short, my happy place really is and has been for a very long time been in the midst of the creative process, and I am tickled pink and purple to be able to use the things God has gifted me with to display His holy revealed written Word, and bring pleasure to others in the doing so.

Thank you, Seoul! I have always been appreciative of and drawn to those who can verbally express themselves well, and you seem to do so with much ease, consideration, and sensiitivity regardless of the topic (even when you are being feisty haha!!!). To me that is a real talent, and takes much skill. One of the reasons I loved my guitar playing years was because I could tap into and "release" my emotions without saying a word, and in the process of writing my poetry I really had to dig to uncover the truth of what I wanted to say using words.

 

[seoulsearch]

Thank you so much for your very kind words that share your heart and love of all that is good and show what a truly wonderful multi-faceted person you are. You made me cry! LOL. And that is a good thing also, because as I age I feel in some ways more and more jaded and cynical about certain things, and definitely more distant from the cares and concerns that drive many to seek solace here, to find answers for the questions that plague them, the quests they can neither shake nor slake, even if they are totally misguided in their seeking, for we know, do we not? We have learned so well that at the heart of everything we do and seek and desire and truly love is the ground of our being which is God... so it is interesting to me and I do remember quite well as a twenty-something, meeting an atheist for the first time... myself having been brought up in a fairly strict religious home (oy, did I rebel against all that!) to meet someone who had no religious background was... almost indescribable LOL. Fascinating, also. Because I quit the church at sixteen and a little more than sixteen years later began in earnest my spiritual seeking. And I always had some concept of God, some understanding of God being present, and pervasive, but I just could not agree with the organized religious side of it... how well I understand the natural man in that regard, and even after a profound encounter with God at the age of thirty three, I did not believe in the Biblical God, though I treasured the knowledge that was imparted to me at that time, and love to make people laugh by telling them I though it was too bad that God let me know I was loved and forgiven in a church. Haha. Well, of course He would! I had gone to see a movie on the life of Christ, after all. Anywho...

Yes, this upbringing we had, based on service to others, drained me and then some, for "No" was not a healthy part of my vocabulary and I had very poor boundaries all round, which got me into endless trouble. This online life is an interesting mix of desiring connection coupled with a need for autonomy and discretion, especially in this age of information gathering... not that we have anything to hide per se, but just as a matter of course and common sense. I remember on one of the first sites where I was doing apologetics, someone found me on another social media site, and that kind of freaked me out, because although that person was friendly toward me, not everyone is, and I know there are psychos in the world who love to do damage to people in any way they can. Does that sound paranoid? LOL.

I am so glad you enjoy my splashes of colour! Last night I was also trying to find a thread I thought you had created asking others about, where is your happy place? I even checked your profile for threads created, but it must have been somewhere else because I could not find it. Some said their happy place was bed, and I thought that a bit of a reclusive answer, I mean, I love my alone time but I would not necessarily describe myself as a true recluse, and bed is where I want to sleep. I did have to think about it a bit... even though I spend a lot of time there you might think the answer would come immediately to me, but no. And of course my happy place is when I am in the middle of designing something and there is some issue, a problem I have to figure out and fix... I have to find the perfect face, or eyes to go with the face I chose, or I need to work with a different face after spending hours and building the whole panel around some other one, or I need to choose background to go with a figure, and work out how to blend the images, and whether or not to add other things, such as flowers, and/or butterflies, or make some decision about the border, should I add a frame, what font am I going to use, what verse goes well with this, does it flow properly, how can I make this better, is it finished yet? LOL In short, my happy place really is and has been for a very long time been in the midst of the creative process, and I am tickled pink and purple to be able to use the things God has gifted me with to display His holy revealed written Word, and bring pleasure to others in the doing so.

Thank you, Seoul! I have always been appreciative of and drawn to those who can verbally express themselves well, and you seem to do so with much ease, consideration, and sensiitivity regardless of the topic (even when you are being feisty haha!!!). To me that is a real talent, and takes much skill. One of the reasons I loved my guitar playing years was because I could tap into and "release" my emotions without saying a word, and in the process of writing my poetry I really had to dig to uncover the truth of what I wanted to say using words.

Heh heh...

I've had a few other people tell me I've made them cry as well, to the point where I'm wondering if I should put that on my resume:

* Successfully Makes Grown Adults I've Never Met in Person Cry!

I have often wondered who I would be if I had been raised in different situations or a different experience -- this is why I'm always interested in stories like yours, because it's very different from mine, but really shows how the thread of faith really weaves things together. The reason why I am fascinated by your story is because I truly feel that if I had made certain choices, unlike you, I don't think I would have returned. So I'm always interested in the how and why you were able to allow God to lead you back.

I can relate to meeting an atheist for the first time -- the idea was completely foreign to me, not believing in God. But I realized that my beliefs were completely foreign to them as well... resulting in the amazing opportunity we sometimes get to witness to them.

I must also give proper credit to the "Happy Place" thread you're looking for.

This awesome thread was actually started by our friend, @ThereRoseaLamb. Let me see if I can find the link:

https://christianchat.com/miscellaneous/where-is-your-happy-place.218530/

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

 

[ATSTD]

Thank you so much.

I can be a little... feisty... just ask the people here who know me , so I'm not always the best example, but I greatly appreciate the kind words.

I'm an Asian who was adopted into and grew up in a Caucasian family. My whole life, I've always been in-between, never fitting into one side or another in almost every area in life. I often felt confused, angry, and isolated because of this. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't really fit in.

One day, God told me He had built me to be a bridge between people, and that's why I never seem to be able to fully stand on one side or the other. I'm made to try to create connections and understanding, if possible, and because of that, I usually find myself somewhere in the middle.

Once God helped me understand who I really was and why, I became very passionate about helping others find their true identities in Christ as well, and that's what I'm trying to do with these threads.

My username, Seoulsearch, represents a city from the country where I was born, my search to find out who I am, and my mission to help others find who they are in Christ, too.

We are glad you're here!

I don't think we've had anyone here in a while who's as open as you are, and that's very refreshing. We all have things we're working out, and I appreciate seeing others who share their ongoing process on different levels.

Your gift for music is amazing!

Totally

People might be able to tell from my previous profile picture, that I’m mostly Irish-Italian-Scottish-Spanish, I have like 16+ different nationalities in me, 95% European with 4% African and 1% from North Africa (Egypt).

i think we can all find my ”Jesus moments” stories on my profile here on Christian Chat. @ATSTD

In high school, I some how got drawn into hanging out with the popular crowd because my best friend from elementary school was in their group and I really just wanted to hang out with my friends Michael and Travis, who Travis and I were the more introverted outcasts of the group compared to everyone else. Travis’ twin brother Riley was in the popular group because he was the best basketball player at that school, so that is why Travis hung out with them, and Michael, my best friend from elementary school was the best wrestler at that school at the time. So I guess Travis and I were considered popular based on association. Him and I did not fit in with that group at all, but we continued to hang around them, due to my brotherly love for Michael and his brotherly love to his real brother.

My church used to be Zion Christian Center and became Bridge Community Church around the time I was saved and moved to Los Angeles County. So they are kinda like a Bridge to the best part of my life in Orange County. If I were to move back, I’d like to live in Irvine, Newport Beach or Villa Park. If I’m not able to move to those three cities, I will not go back. My business phone number is just got is a Newport Beach mobile line, so I am kinda hoping for Newport Beach…specifically Balboa Peninsula, where my friend Joshua and I would drive to every weekend for like a decade, just to look at the houses and imagine living there.

We always joked that we would be those guys who wouldn’t work and would go to the bars over there every day, to pick up women; where the theme song to our miserable existence would be “Freebird” by Lynyrd Skynyrd.

i kinda have been on both sides of the political spectrum throughout my life but i actually knew where my allegiance was during Trumps first term.

This new term, even though I would rather have Trump than Kamala, I voted Independent this time, just so I can slowly just exit out of the political world completely.

A person truly discovering their identity in Christ, is the greatest reward I’d say. Knowing that Jesus is in you and that God loves you; how content can a person get? When all of your original ideas are His and they were saved, just for you to discover them. I think that is pretty cool.

i am familiar with Seoul, as I think it is the capital of South Korea if I were to guess, based on a country capitals test I took in elementary school.

Thank you for enjoying the music! I am hoping that more life and pain will happen, so more song ideas will spring forth but we’ll see.

 

[Lynx]

Hooray! At last! We've finally found a long-lost extrovert! We were beginning to think they were mythical creatures we had yet to see! 🦄

Wait... I don't count as an outrovert? I got home from the auction house last night at a quarter to midnight because I wanted to watch the show. I was sure that qualified...

 

[HopeinHim98]

Wait... I don't count as an outrovert? I got home from the auction house last night at a quarter to midnight because I wanted to watch the show. I was sure that qualified...

Did you buy anything? Lol. Auctions are so fun.

 

[Lynx]

Did you buy anything? Lol. Auctions are so fun.

Yeah but I've been popping down there for more than half a year, every Saturday night. Mostly because there's nothing else to do in a small town on Saturday night. So I have pretty much everything I need now, at very low prices. Everything from an ax and shovel to a Bluetooth speaker big enough to broadcast the preacher's voice to the whole congregation.

All I got last night was a 31-bit screwdriver set for an electric screwdriver, some shredded cheese, a backpack with a lot of slots inside for tools, but it will fit my laptop perfectly, and some Oreo cakesters.

So from now on I don't need a screwdriver bit set or a backpack. The list of things I might possibly buy at the auction keeps getting smaller.

 

[seoulsearch]

Wait... I don't count as an outrovert? I got home from the auction house last night at a quarter to midnight because I wanted to watch the show. I was sure that qualified...

I just went back and checked the thread about introverts, outroverts, and everything in between:


https://christianchat.com/christian...ferent-things-in-different-situations.217268/

Not. a. Single. Person. checked the outrovert box in that poll.

If you didn't check the box, no, you don't count!

(For the record, yes, I think Lynx is very much an outrovert, with a few introverted tendencies. But does his opinion count here? NO!)

 

[Lynx]

I just went back and checked the thread about introverts, outroverts, and everything in between:


https://christianchat.com/christian...ferent-things-in-different-situations.217268/

Not. a. Single. Person. checked the outrovert box in that poll.

If you didn't check the box, no, you don't count!

(For the record, yes, I think Lynx is very much an outrovert, with a few introverted tendencies. But does his opinion count here? NO!)

I'm an outrovert but I'm also a rebel. I don't check your boxes just because you put them up there to be checked.

 

[seoulsearch]

I'm an outrovert but I'm also a rebel. I don't check your boxes just because you put them up there to be checked.

Still. Doesn't. Count.

 

[Kainos]

I can only draw one inference from this topic. Seoul, is an undercover ambivert, and she's been evaluating unsuspecting introverts and extroverts for longer than I've been following the way.

 

[seoulsearch]

I can only draw one inference from this topic. Seoul, is an undercover ambivert, and she's been evaluating unsuspecting introverts and extroverts for longer than I've been following the way.

What?!

ME?!

Sneaking up on poor, unsuspecting people?!!

Why, I...

Uh...

Yeah.

Actually, it's one of my greatest joys in life!

But actually getting caught?

Not so much.

 

[Lynx]

I can only draw one inference from this topic. Seoul, is an undercover ambivert, and she's been evaluating unsuspecting introverts and extroverts for longer than I've been following the way.

That obvious huh?

I mean it was obvious to me, but I couldn't decide if that meant it was blatantly obvious or I was just very perceptive. But if you noticed it too...

 

[seoulsearch]

That obvious huh?

I mean it was obvious to me, but I couldn't decide if that meant it was blatantly obvious or I was just very perceptive. But if you noticed it too...

Still. Doesn't. Count.

 

[Lynx]

Still. Doesn't. Count.

And yet life goes on.