Are there single Christian girls in Finland ?

[Encouragement]

Or just highlight the important points. Please. Im really desperate.

There are many single Christian's in Finland..forget those biast statistics.
You are cutting off your nose to spite your own face by refusing online dating by using someone else bad experience as an excuse not to try...You are just scared of getting hurt and rather than face you fear like a manin jesus name you would rather run..

There are Christian singles from finland and ther is absolutely NO harm in joining one and just get to interact with then and eventually meet in person..even if romance doesn't evolve at least you would of made new female friends and this could lead to getting to know more of them.As you are from.the same country the focus is to meeting real life and not be just confined to online interactions.

 

[cinder]

I dont want to get drunk again please help !!!

You going to pull this line on your Christian dream girl once you find her? Is it going to be her job to stop you from getting drunk when life gets tough and you're struggling?

Maybe you should join a local chapter of alcoholics anonymous in Finland if you really want to stop getting drunk. (Because if you don't want to keep doing something but can't stop yourself from doing it, that's pretty much the definition of an addiction).

 

[cinder]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣...my bad...I ment meths addiction.. ..luckily I has just enough time to amend the spelling error..
Just use a calculator.it saves you brain a lot of hassle trying to work it all out👍🏻😊.

I knew what you meant, but some typos are too good to pass up.

 

[Godsgirl83]

Nobody has given me ideas about finding a marriage material girl. Do you have some ?

Well, I was thinking of going back and reading this thread from the start, but just skimming a few pages tells me maybe I shouldn't waste time. This seems like a good place to put my 2 cents in:

STOP looking for the "perfect woman" (trust me, we don't exist anymore than "the perfect" man does)


It's time to focus your sight 100% on Jesus Christ and on becoming the man He has called you to be.
Everything else after that just sort of falls into place.

And if you want a good book on the subject then might I suggest:

you can even search this title/speaker on youtube. I would post some links directly, but if you are really serious about this then you'll do the work.

 

[seoulsearch]

I dont want to get drunk again please help !!!

I am very sorry for your struggle with this and hope you get some real life support, not just online strangers.

I will certainly pray for you.

But I must also ask, why are you so, so severely judgemental of others, especially based on appearance and what you see as ungodliness, when you aren't seemingly able to deal with your own plank?

I spent almost 3 years with an alcoholic, and it was pure hell. I'll never do it again.

I would much rather deal with tattoos and blue/purple/green hair (I actually find it cool) than alcohol.

Why do you judge every woman's heart o sight when you can't deal with your own?

Capturing a Christian will not save you. My ex thought that too.

The more I worked and put into our relationship, the drunker he became. He stopped working altogether and made me carry both our weight.

You are in no shape to meet a Christian woman. You would kill her, like my ex was doing to me.

You are completely self-interested and have not once shown any concern about anyone but yourself.

Rather than consider all the time and effort people here, you then tell expect them to reread and summarize the posts for you! Wow.

You have expressed nothing in your posts but expectations for everything to be done for you, within your own demands and perimeters, with little to no effort in your own part.

A Christian woman will not suddenly inspire you to be or give characteristics you neither possess nor have any concept of. You have to work at developing those things first, often on others God puts in your life.

And nothing in life is certain. I tried my hardest to have a Christian marriage, but he left for another anyway. My biggest fear was forever being alone.

I have earnestly pleaded with God for a second chance at marriage for 20 years, but so far, God's answer is still apparently no.

What do you do when you throw yourself on the floor, demanding you get your own way, and yet God doesn't magically send you an answer?

You pick yourself up, you ask for the strength to change your own diaper, and you force yourself to keep going where God leads you.

I know you won't listen to anything I have to say, nor care about the half hour I'm taking to write this, so this post isn't for you - it's for the people out there who ARE listening:

Please consider the value you might find on this forum. Get to know us - participate in discussions, tell us about you, join us in caring and praying for each other.

Many of us here keep an eye out for caring, compassionate souls for friendship and company, and sometimes suggest someone another member might have a lot in common with.

This site has been an amazing blessing to me, and I have spent much of my lonely time talking to and even meeting some outstanding people here.

If I had thrown myself on the floor and said, it must be someone who meets all my demands and is in a certain parameter and I refuse to work to meet anyone else who might fit outside my little dinner-plate style circle, I would have missed out immensely.

And I pray that many others here might also be blessed here the way I have, and even beyond. ❤️

 

[Lynx]

For some reason every time I catch up on this thread the Smallville theme keeps running through my head.

Somebody save me!
Let your warm hands break right through
And save me!
Don't care how you do it
Just save, save me!
Come on!
I've been waiting for you

 

[seoulsearch]

@Kauko - I'm just going to ask you point blank, because this was a hallmark trait with my ex.

Is your lack/refusal of reading comprehension an indication of your level of intoxication?

My ex's responses were always an indication of how drunk he was. He would argue in circles and was incapable of understanding what was being said to him or making adult responses.

In the rare times he was sober, he was much more reasonable and intelligent, but those times became few and far in between, to where he wasn't even sober after a long sleep.

Your answer is right in front of you.

You don't need to find a Christian wife. You need to find a Godly path to sobriety.

Passion is useless without proper action. Put all that passion into cleaning up your life.

I have no doubt the devil is much more passionate than you, and look where it gets you if you concentrate on things in the wrong order.

 

[Magenta]

... But dont leave me like this.

 

[Kauko]

You going to pull this line on your Christian dream girl once you find her? Is it going to be her job to stop you from getting drunk when life gets tough and you're struggling?

Maybe you should join a local chapter of alcoholics anonymous in Finland if you really want to stop getting drunk. (Because if you don't want to keep doing something but can't stop yourself from doing it, that's pretty much the definition of an addiction).

I think my alcoholism stems mainly from my loneliness and not having anyone by my side. The only people I can get support from are my parents, but I dont see them often and I cant charge my daily stresses against them either because they are too old for that. Its most probably this because I dont have lacks in other life aspects (money, job etc). My job is not my favourite but I have accepted it and been on it for years. So this is most likely not a motivation for my drinking, atleast I dont see it this way. The problem is loneliness. This is where I have trouble. I cant stand loneliness. Sometimes when Im really bored I start to cuddle a cushion affectionately out of desperation to give and feel loved. Singledom is not for me. I need a girlfriend. Nevertheless Im fighting alcoholism and trying hard not to get drunk and sometimes win over it. God doesnt want me to get drunk and I know it so I have to stop or atleast resist.

 

[cinder]

I think my alcoholism stems mainly from my loneliness and not having anyone by my side. The only people I can get support from are my parents,

If you think that finding a significant other will make you not want to drink anymore, you're fooling yourself, and no intelligent woman is going to bet her future happiness on her ability to be your savior from alcohol. And if alcoholism is as big an issue in Finland as you portray, then I bet there are many support resources out there to help you quit alcohol. You just don't want to quit badly enough to go out and look for them.

If you don't try doing something anything different, then nothing is going to change. It really is up to you how long you want to sit around and be drunkenly mopey and miserable. So how long are you going to choose to prolong this?

 

[Kauko]

If you think that finding a significant other will make you not want to drink anymore, you're fooling yourself, and no intelligent woman is going to bet her future happiness on her ability to be your savior from alcohol. And if alcoholism is as big an issue in Finland as you portray, then I bet there are many support resources out there to help you quit alcohol. You just don't want to quit badly enough to go out and look for them.

If you don't try doing something anything different, then nothing is going to change. It really is up to you how long you want to sit around and be drunkenly mopey and miserable. So how long are you going to choose to prolong this?

Please read my entire post. Atleast the last part.

 

[seoulsearch]

Please read my entire post. Atleast the last part.

* Why do you repeatedly demand that others reread your posts when you never bother to read, acknowledge, or consider the time, effort, and heart so many people are pouring into answering you?

* When people answer you, why do you always then demand that they reread and summarize everyone else's posts back to you, FOR you, instead of YOU actually reading, studying, and showing in your posts that you've actually read and considered what they have said?

* Does anyone else in the world matter to you besides you, or the darling female savior you think is going to turn your life around?

* Throughout this ENTIRE thread, you've shown absolutely no care pr concern for anyone who's taken their spare time here to answer you.

* Is it laziness, conceitedness, or just plain apathy that makes you concentrate on nothing else and no one but yourself?

And yet, you think a woman will magically inspire you to care about someone else and take the focus off yourself, when you have no life experience or practice in caring for other people.

 

[Kauko]

STOP looking for the "perfect woman" (trust me, we don't exist anymore than "the perfect" man does)


It's time to focus your sight 100% on Jesus Christ and on becoming the man He has called you to be.
Everything else after that just sort of falls into place.

So are you telling me to accept the tattooed green haired unbeliever with ears full of piercings ?

 

[seoulsearch]

So are you telling me to accept the tattooed green haired unbeliever with ears full of piercings ?

I would take a pierced, tattooed, green haired man with at least an understanding heart and willingness to be open to God over a believer who won't address or work on his alcoholism any day of the week, plus overtime.

It's astonishing how much you judge people by their appearance, but won't deal honestly with the bottles filling your hands.

I went to a Lutheran high school. I'm a small gal, about 5 feet tall. My best friend was a guy who was about 6 foot four, who always wore black from head to toe, with a cross around his neck and eventually sported long hair.

People always whispered that he was a Satanist, when they knew nothing about him. They wanted to talk ABOUT him, but not TO him, which is so very typical, even in Christian circles.

One of the reasons I liked being friends with him is that he knew the Bible forward and backward, and was one of the few boys (you know, all the clean-cut ones who, by appearance, looked like perfect young Christian guys) in the school who wasn't bragging about going to the local strip club every weekend (because unlike them, he wasn't going.)

I understand that many people are corrupt -- Christian or non-Christian, believer or unbeliever -- but with the way you are constantly judging others and not dealing with the person you see in your own mirror, I can assure you that you are most likely missing out on some people who could have been, or could be, wonderful blessings in your life.

 

[Godsgirl83]

So are you telling me to accept the tattooed green haired unbeliever with ears full of piercings ?

Well, I can tell you DID NOT do your homework searching the information I left you or you would NOT be asking this

 

[Kauko]

* Why do you repeatedly demand that others reread your posts when you never bother to read, acknowledge, or consider the time, effort, and heart so many people are pouring into answering you?

Because I CLEARLY STATED in my post I was fighting alcoholism, yet they keep shouting I dont:

Nevertheless Im fighting alcoholism and trying hard not to get drunk and sometimes win over it. God doesnt want me to get drunk and I know it so I have to stop or atleast resist.

* When people answer you, why do you always then demand that they reread and summarize everyone else's posts back to you, FOR you, instead of YOU actually reading, studying, and showing in your posts that you've actually read and considered what they have said?

Because my original question remains unanswered as far as I can remember.

* Does anyone else in the world matter to you besides you, or the darling female savior you think is going to turn your life around?

Yes, my family. Aside from it I dont know much other people so I cant say.

* Is it laziness, conceitedness, or just plain apathy that makes you concentrate on nothing else and no one but yourself?

Yes, I may be selfish sometimes, but on the end everybody is atleast somewhat selfish. Not to say too much selfishness is good, either.

And yet, you think a woman will magically inspire you to care about someone else and take the focus off yourself, when you have no life experience or practice in caring for other people.

Are you telling me Im a lost case or what ?

 

[Kauko]

Well, I can tell you DID NOT do your homework searching the information I left you or you would NOT be asking this

What information ?

 

[Tinkerbell725]

How do you attract women? Do you tell women that you are lonely? I guess it did'nt work. Why don't you find your purpose first? Other things that will make your life worthwhile other than finding a woman or alcohol so that your mind will not be idle and you will not be under spiritual attack.

 

[seoulsearch]

Because I CLEARLY STATED in my post I was fighting alcoholism, yet they keep shouting I dont:




Because my original question remains unanswered as far as I can remember.

Yes, my family. Aside from it I dont know much other people so I cant say.

Yes, I may be selfish sometimes, but on the end everybody is atleast somewhat selfish. Not to say too much selfishness is good, either.

Are you telling me Im a lost case or what ?

You keep saying your original question is not being answered.

IT IS.

STEP #1 TO FINDING A GOOD CHRISTIAN WIFE -- DRY UP, AND BE SOBER ENOUGH TO HAVE A TWO-WAY CONVERSATION WITH HER THAT DOESN'T COMPLETELY REVOLVE 300% AROUND YOU OR YOUR DEMANDS.

So now that you have step 1, what's it going to be?

 

[Godsgirl83]

What information ?

THIS: (part of what I left in reply to you earlier, I don't intend for this to sound mean, so please don't take it as such. I know cultural differences and understandings can sometimes cause us to misunderstand what others are trying to tell us.........


do you not understand what I am saying below and have already said?
Because if I have to re word it for you to understand then I'll try to.
But I won't play games, and I wont tell somebody something useless just because it is what they WANT to hear.



if you want a good book on the subject then might I suggest:

you can even search this title/speaker on youtube. I would post some links directly, but if you are really serious about this then you'll do the work.