Age in Dating

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GaryA

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Utah said:
Its not about age, its about fruitfully yoked compatibility. Some folks like Milky Ways while others like Skittles; whatever works for you and your possible spouse is all that matters provided you keep God in your relationship.
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Are you sure that you didn't really mean Almond Joy and Mounds...??? ;)

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melita916

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looks like i'm following the rule! hehe
 
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Tintin

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I haven't really thought about it much. But I don't see myself dating a woman older than me, simply because they generally mature quicker than men and if the man is meant to lead later on (in marriage) then that presents other issues. Same age or younger would be the way to go (for me).
 
TriviaGirl86

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PoetMary said:
I didn't claim that all men are the same. Remember, as I stated, this is based on MY experience (which is clearly a limited, non-random sampling). The experience of other women, will likely be vastly different.

But I'll explain what I mean. In my experience dating younger men, I didn't find them to be particularly "immature" in comparison to the older men I've dated. In fact, some of the younger men I've dated were more mature than the older men. Therefore, in MY view of it, if a woman is wanting to "date someone more mature" dating an older man is no guarantee that will happen. In other words, it's important to approach people as individuals (men are basically men) than to generalize with unprovable statements like, "older men are more mature," or "younger men are more adventurous and fun."

Ultimately, I can speculate on "what makes a man," but I'm not sure my speculations would be useful. Shouldn't MEN determine what makes a man?

I can only speak with certainty regarding what I seek and prefer when I'm desiring to build a relationship with a man.
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PoetMary I love your comments because they are so deeply thought out and well-written. I agree with you on the analyses you have made, even though I know it comes from personal experience, because I find this to be true with other people I've spoken with. As I get older I also fear not being able to bear children, especially if I'm with a younger man. However, adoption is always on the table. That being said, I'm not interested in having children right now so older men are generally more of a turn off because they want children more immediate than younger men, on average.

Also, I find myself being more insecure in many ways around older men. I like feeling intelligent and don't like being patronized so I tend to be reserved around men with more life experience. Also, I prefer a vulnerable man and I've found that those who are still finding out what they want are more comforting and less off-putting to be around, in my personal opinion.

I have stated that I prefer men my own age or younger and the reasons for that are (for the most part) similar interests, feelings of mutual growth, carefree attitude, etc. This doesn't reflect everyone but I find myself attracted to those guys who embody the attributes I'm looking for.
 
BaxterBack

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Save yourself heart ache and don't date! #LifeHack101 #ForeverAlone
 
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HappyGuy

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what matters is that Jesus is the center of the relationship and that the 2 people in the relationship work together and are equally yoked. As a Born Again Christian that has accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior I would want a woman that is Born Again also and has put the Lord Jesus first in her life so that her and I would be equally yoked.
 
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OrionsBelt43

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I like older guys. 36/37 is the limit. Alas, there was a guy I liked but he kept making it clear that he thought I was a kid. And yet a 40 yr old was hitting on me. Sigh. Hurts but so be it, Father God.
 
shineyourlight

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MollyConnor said:
Guys, would you date a woman who is older than you? By how much?

Girls, would you date a guy younger than you and by how much?

My mom and I were talking about this today and she said that she was happy with my dad being 11 years older than her. I like older guys too. Not a guy who could be my dad, but maybe a guy who is 10 or less years older than me would be nice. I don't know if I could go out with someone younger than me though. I feel like that would be uncomfortable because he's the leader of the household and I would be older? It just wouldn't make much sense hehe.

I mean sure if I fell in love with a guy 1-3 years younger than me then right on, but I would prefer not to. ;)

What are your thoughts?
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I have only dated one guy who was three years younger. This was my last relationship. All the rest have been a few years older or my age.

However, I typically keep close to my age. I feel weird when I date a guy who is younger than me. But, it happened and it was fine with me. I think because we got along pretty well and his maturity level was more of a late 20s kind of guy.

I think it really depends on who I click with. If the chemistry isn't there, I can't do anything to ignite it. And that's fine.
 
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CarolSampaio

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I have no problem with age... I had a boyfriend who was 12 years older than me... and my ex-husband was 4 years younger...

I guess it all comes down to compatibility... if you can make it work, and you are both in the same moment in life, I don't see why age should be a problem... :)

And I have a strong feeling we've discussed this subject before... not sure... oh well... hehehehehe :D
 
maxwel

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I try to be modern and open-minded.

I don't care about the age difference...
as long as the girl stays mostly in the kitchen, and doesn't speak too much.
 
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CarolSampaio

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maxwel said:
I try to be modern and open-minded.

I don't care about the age difference...
as long as the girl stays mostly in the kitchen, and doesn't speak too much.
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Then you need a mute cook... ;)
 
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MollyConnor

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maxwel said:
A mute girl...

for most men that's just an empty fantasy.

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I don't think that's what men really want. They constantly need to be reassured of how great they are. LOL :rolleyes:
 
FallenHearts

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TriviaGirl86 said:
I feel the same way about the height thing. I'm 5'10'' and I don't generally like it when a man is shorter than me. My younger bf was 6'2'' so I was excited about that. It seems short women are usually more attractive to really tall men for some reason.
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So true.. I would consider myself a rather petite person and my husband is a whole 12" taller than me. :D
 
jsr1221

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CarolSampaio said:
I have no problem with age... I had a boyfriend who was 12 years older than me... and my ex-husband was 4 years younger...

I guess it all comes down to compatibility... if you can make it work, and you are both in the same moment in life, I don't see why age should be a problem... :)

And I have a strong feeling we've discussed this subject before... not sure... oh well... hehehehehe :D
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When don't singles talk about dating? :rolleyes:
 
jsr1221

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GhostWolf said:
older women, yes. a lot older, no.
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I feel people who date members of the opposite sex that are significantly older are trying to fulfil a parental need tht wasn't met. This isn't true sometimes, but mostly yes it's a mother/father thing.
 
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