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So I've done both. I've dated men ten years older than I am, also ten years younger, and those of a similar age. Here's what I've discovered:
Men are basically men.
Sometimes there are maturity issues at work (although age and maturity aren't necessarily the same thing, btw.) Generally speaking men older than me don't particularly like me. They find me to be too uppity and sassy and not deferential enough to their egos. Younger men have slightly different expectations, so they tend not to have issues my sassiness. However, a lot of younger men date older women for fun and not with an eye to building a serious relationship.
For me, age is a non-issue. Both sides present certain problems. For example, it would be nearly impossible for me at my age (45) to date an older man who wasn't divorced/widowed. It's possible, but not probable. So, then you're dealing with certain complications in regard to previous relationships. On the other hand, it's also nearly impossible for me to date a younger man who *doesn't* want children. Again, it's possible, but not probable. Since child-bearing is highly unlikely for me, you're basically dealing with a "deal-breaker" for a lot of younger men.
Men are basically men.
Sometimes there are maturity issues at work (although age and maturity aren't necessarily the same thing, btw.) Generally speaking men older than me don't particularly like me. They find me to be too uppity and sassy and not deferential enough to their egos. Younger men have slightly different expectations, so they tend not to have issues my sassiness. However, a lot of younger men date older women for fun and not with an eye to building a serious relationship.
For me, age is a non-issue. Both sides present certain problems. For example, it would be nearly impossible for me at my age (45) to date an older man who wasn't divorced/widowed. It's possible, but not probable. So, then you're dealing with certain complications in regard to previous relationships. On the other hand, it's also nearly impossible for me to date a younger man who *doesn't* want children. Again, it's possible, but not probable. Since child-bearing is highly unlikely for me, you're basically dealing with a "deal-breaker" for a lot of younger men.
Guys, would you date a woman who is older than you? By how much?
Girls, would you date a guy younger than you and by how much?
My mom and I were talking about this today and she said that she was happy with my dad being 11 years older than her. I like older guys too. Not a guy who could be my dad, but maybe a guy who is 10 or less years older than me would be nice. I don't know if I could go out with someone younger than me though. I feel like that would be uncomfortable because he's the leader of the household and I would be older? It just wouldn't make much sense hehe.
I mean sure if I fell in love with a guy 1-3 years younger than me then right on, but I would prefer not to.
What are your thoughts?
Girls, would you date a guy younger than you and by how much?
My mom and I were talking about this today and she said that she was happy with my dad being 11 years older than her. I like older guys too. Not a guy who could be my dad, but maybe a guy who is 10 or less years older than me would be nice. I don't know if I could go out with someone younger than me though. I feel like that would be uncomfortable because he's the leader of the household and I would be older? It just wouldn't make much sense hehe.
I mean sure if I fell in love with a guy 1-3 years younger than me then right on, but I would prefer not to.
What are your thoughts?
Not all men are bothered by a woman who is taller than they are.
And I wouldnt mind dating a woman thats older than me, as long as her heart is set on the Lord, and we both connect as two people and she makes me feel happy to be around her.
Clearly there is /some/ limit on the age, as I couldnt really fall in love with a girl who had a significantly lower life expectancy than me, for obvious reasons. But other than that, no I dont really care about how old she is
And I wouldnt mind dating a woman thats older than me, as long as her heart is set on the Lord, and we both connect as two people and she makes me feel happy to be around her.
Clearly there is /some/ limit on the age, as I couldnt really fall in love with a girl who had a significantly lower life expectancy than me, for obvious reasons. But other than that, no I dont really care about how old she is
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I was engaged to a woman 11 years older than I was, when I was about 20.
When that fell apart (and Not because of age issues) the woman I dated after that was 10 years older than I was. She also had three children. That was a long relationship that didn't last, but again, nothing to do with age.
At this point I'm no longer interested in someone older though.
When that fell apart (and Not because of age issues) the woman I dated after that was 10 years older than I was. She also had three children. That was a long relationship that didn't last, but again, nothing to do with age.
At this point I'm no longer interested in someone older though.
S
I think it depends about the maturity, but id rather want men who are older than me, like 5 or 10 yrs max, younger maybe 1 yr max, but really its just age, i meet people who acted younger than their age, like very immature and young people who acts maturely than their age, but it's rare, though dating a man who are a bit older than you is better, when it comes to maturity, experienced wise, stableness, career wise, seems younger men doesnt know what they want yet, not all...but most.
That would be perfect for me. If she is busy with milky ways and skittles she would not be getting into my dark chocolate.
Although technically I wouldn't mind if she did like dark chocolate... As long as she lets me know when she takes the last bar so I will know to reload. I hate, I absolutely hate going to get a bite of chocolate and it being all gone and nobody told me there was no more left.
Although technically I wouldn't mind if she did like dark chocolate... As long as she lets me know when she takes the last bar so I will know to reload. I hate, I absolutely hate going to get a bite of chocolate and it being all gone and nobody told me there was no more left.
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Just to let you all know, I'm not interested in someone younger than me or older than me. LOL
I really was just curious about everyone's likes and preferences. It makes for interesting discussion. I'm a fan of Seoul's discussion threads and I wanted to create some too.
LOL that's awesome, Wise. Go for it!
I really was just curious about everyone's likes and preferences. It makes for interesting discussion. I'm a fan of Seoul's discussion threads and I wanted to create some too.
LOL that's awesome, Wise. Go for it!
One of the things not really discussed here are the two most off-pudding issues for a wide -ranged relationship to have problems with, in my opinion:. Lust, and money. Do you think a hidden thought of these issues are hidden in us when we judge people of wide ranges of age in an active relationship? Or is that just a sensitive spot with me?
Should we fight that thought in us to be cautioned like that? Or is it just the way it is? Regardless of how we have concluded this issue in our lives, in other words, how would God have us check our convictions at the door when interacting with those who have chosen such a path?
This is why, to me, it is a subject worth talking about. If the Word gives us range of conclusions here is it more a matter of how we treat and think of others then? Maybe so. Unless the concerns are real.
Should we fight that thought in us to be cautioned like that? Or is it just the way it is? Regardless of how we have concluded this issue in our lives, in other words, how would God have us check our convictions at the door when interacting with those who have chosen such a path?
This is why, to me, it is a subject worth talking about. If the Word gives us range of conclusions here is it more a matter of how we treat and think of others then? Maybe so. Unless the concerns are real.
I didn't claim that all men are the same. Remember, as I stated, this is based on MY experience (which is clearly a limited, non-random sampling). The experience of other women, will likely be vastly different.
But I'll explain what I mean. In my experience dating younger men, I didn't find them to be particularly "immature" in comparison to the older men I've dated. In fact, some of the younger men I've dated were more mature than the older men. Therefore, in MY view of it, if a woman is wanting to "date someone more mature" dating an older man is no guarantee that will happen. In other words, it's important to approach people as individuals (men are basically men) than to generalize with unprovable statements like, "older men are more mature," or "younger men are more adventurous and fun."
Ultimately, I can speculate on "what makes a man," but I'm not sure my speculations would be useful. Shouldn't MEN determine what makes a man?
I can only speak with certainty regarding what I seek and prefer when I'm desiring to build a relationship with a man.
But I'll explain what I mean. In my experience dating younger men, I didn't find them to be particularly "immature" in comparison to the older men I've dated. In fact, some of the younger men I've dated were more mature than the older men. Therefore, in MY view of it, if a woman is wanting to "date someone more mature" dating an older man is no guarantee that will happen. In other words, it's important to approach people as individuals (men are basically men) than to generalize with unprovable statements like, "older men are more mature," or "younger men are more adventurous and fun."
Ultimately, I can speculate on "what makes a man," but I'm not sure my speculations would be useful. Shouldn't MEN determine what makes a man?
I can only speak with certainty regarding what I seek and prefer when I'm desiring to build a relationship with a man.