I know it’s like how God populates the world and kids raised by Christian parents are a good thing for possible future believers but...do I HAVE to have kids? Is it ok that I don’t want any?
I have a coworker who was talking about her daughter giving her grand babies and that when someone else hadn’t it was like the kid OWED them grandchildren. Like really?
I know it’s a millennial thing but am I alone here? Am I wrong in my attitude?
There's a tee shirt for sale on-line. "7 Billion plus is enough. Thank you for not breeding".
WOW! Clearly not a Catholic.
I don't think it is wrong at all to not want children. In fact it is an entirely personal decision a woman or man arrives at an it is entirely right because it is entirely for their own reasons.
Knowing what it means as pertains to me, I'll make it personal. My parents should have never set eyes on each other. Truly.
Mom hated dad to the day he died. And a year and a half later mom died too old and too sick to make a better life for herself after he was finally out of it. Her dreams of doing better for herself never arrived.
My paternal grandmother was abused by her husband all their nearly 70 years of life together. When she was diagnosed with cancer she was glad of it because it was the one way she could finally leave him.
Relationships like that, highly dysfunctional, should never have children in them so that innocent impressionable minds witness what is a role model, as bad as it is, for "relationship". Kids trust without question and believe their parents always. Never thinking they'll lie to them.
Is it any wonder kids in those type relationships end up in them ?
I don't have children. I determined a long time ago I would not have kids. And I love kids. And that's why. It was time to bring the generations of relationship dysfunction unfolding before innocent eyes to a close. And I did. Only one member of the paternal side of the family had kids. And he was so far gone from influence of the paternal side of his mom's family that he likely wasn't a repeat of that poor example.
The greatest responsibility anyone can choose to undertake in this world is that of being a parent. Influencing an innocent mind to grow into a life of their own by your example as their parent(s), is a legacy every parent sets of their own choice into the future. If they are in a toxic relationship the kid see's that even when they don't know it is anything but normal. But it is their normal. And that then progresses into that child's life and they repeat what they witnessed as relationship between two people. They become their parent(s).
Generational curses? No such thing according to scripture. The child does not inherit the sins of their parent(s). However, they can inherit by their example the dysfunctional relationship their parent(s) displayed before them.
And then they spread it forth in their own life as they move forward in relationship.
It has to stop somewhere.
That's my story and opinion.
If you don't want to have kids, don't.
And whatever you do, don't EVER let anyone guilt you into changing your mind through their opinion. They don't have to raise the kids they think you must have.