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jsr1221

jsr1221

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LittleBit1987 said:
Plenty if he isn't telling me what's bugging him and hiding stuff from me. :(
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To be fair, some women are the same way. And some will even self destroy relationships while pulling away or bottling everything inside. It's a people problem. Not a man problem or a woman problem.
 
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jennymae

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Well, men wont tell, thats fer sure...sometimes one just have to accept that, theyve got their ways.
 
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jsr1221 said:
To be fair, some women are the same way. And some will even self destroy relationships while pulling away or bottling everything inside. It's a people problem. Not a man problem or a woman problem.
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You are most likely right.
 
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jennymae

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jsr1221 said:
I'm one that's all about honesty. So not all men "got their ways".
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You're aware the fact that we haven't been in relationships with women and have no experience whatsoever regarding females bottling everything inside?:p Men themselves has to shed light on female behavior in relationsships, you know:)
 
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LittleBit1987 said:
Plenty if he isn't telling me what's bugging him and hiding stuff from me. :(
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Sometimes men are fearful and don't even know it....and sometimes they are jerks and try to hide it....haha lots of help right?
 
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Mitspa said:
Sometimes men are fearful and don't even know it....and sometimes they are jerks and try to hide it....haha lots of help right?
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I think it is the other way around...lol
 
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jsr1221

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jennymae said:
You're aware the fact that we haven't been in relationships with women and have no experience whatsoever regarding females bottling everything inside?:p Men themselves has to shed light on female behavior in relationsships, you know:)
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Doesn't change the fact more often than not, I come across the bottling everything inside, let me pull away because I've been hurt too many times in the past type females.
 
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i don't know what yous is talking about...

cuz i'm a flippin' delight!

haha :D
 
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LittleBit1987 said:
Good morning everyone, stress is bad mmmmkay? It can kill you; it can make you do some crazy stuff and you have to keep reminding yourself 'God is in control of this situation' do you know how unbelievably hard this is for one to do??

My goodness, at least I'm not making myself sick over it.. But I'm not all 'being cool and chill' about it either. Sigh.... Oh well. Just taking it one day at a time, that's all we can do..
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jsr1221 said:
To be fair, some women are the same way. And some will even self destroy relationships while pulling away or bottling everything inside. It's a people problem. Not a man problem or a woman problem.
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^ This. In fact, I've met some guys that would drop their feelings out of a hat while I'm the one who had to 'wear the pants' while listening to them. LOL!
 
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JustAnotherUser said:
^ This. In fact, I've met some guys that would drop their feelings out of a hat while I'm the one who had to 'wear the pants' while listening to them. LOL!
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Relationships seem to end, though, when I seem to give more than I get. *Shrugs* I don't think I'll ever truly understand. Maybe I should fully accept that and move on.
 
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LittleBit1987 said:
Plenty if he isn't telling me what's bugging him and hiding stuff from me. :(
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I know some guys have no trouble helping us ladies with our problems but they don't want to burden us with theirs because after all women are more emotional and take things more personal. I also believe that if women see a man in our life talk about their problems they wouldn't appear as a man is supposed to be according to society's standards, but at least for me I don't feel that way at all, we all need help every now and then. Some more than others but hey we are not perfect
 
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i'm very private about my emotions/problems. i don't like people worrying about me, so i keep stuff to myself. i know this isn't the best thing to do. sharing stuff with others takes time for me. i guess i'm trying to see if this person will stick around before i open my heart.

i also have this crazy idea that i need to be strong all the time. gah.
 
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melita916 said:
i'm very private about my emotions/problems. i don't like people worrying about me, so i keep stuff to myself. i know this isn't the best thing to do. sharing stuff with others takes time for me. i guess i'm trying to see if this person will stick around before i open my heart.

i also have this crazy idea that i need to be strong all the time. gah.
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I've spent most of my life bottling everything in to the point where I was in college, and my resident director (the guy in charge of the dorms) forced me into counseling, because he was scared for my well-being.. I try to be that support for others, and it really bothers me when it seems I come as coming on too strong, when I just try to be there for support and as a good friend in general. I need to ask God a way how I can balance both, so that I don't get hurt, because this whole investing only to see it blow up thing has gotten old.
 
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