I prefer the word Reformed/Reformed theology over Calvinist/Calvinism.
If you insist on using Calvinist to refer to me, though, I can think of worse terms than free-willer.
Additionally, my claims regarding Wesley are accurate. Check them out. Her name was Sophy Hopkey. He was actually dismissed from his position due to his bad attitude.
The account is fuzzy, as the Methodists will tell you. My position is that he felt jilted and decided to take it out on her by denying her communion.
http://www.umc.org/what-we-believe/need-love-advice-dont-ask-john-wesley
Sophy Hopkey
On his missionary journey to Georgia, Wesley met and fell in love with Sophy Hopkey, whom the anonymous Methodist preacher describes as “the attractive niece of the chief magistrate of Savannah.”
According to
Reasonable Enthusiast: John Wesley and the Rise of Methodism by Henry D. Rack, “Wesley was in love and would have liked to marry Sophy, but was torn by conflicts between love, duty, notions of the value of celibacy, and more…which led him to blow alternately hot and cold until the bewildered girl married elsewhere.” From there, the story gets a little fuzzy.
In his role as Hopkey’s pastor, it appears Wesley advised her not to marry for the sake of her spiritual growth. When she did, Wesley felt it his duty to rebuke her and refused to serve her communion. Her new husband pressed charges, and Wesley’s reputation was tarnished. Before things escalated too far, Wesley boarded a boat back home to England.
So, there you have it from the mouths of the Methodists. Of course, I can't tell you exactly what was going through John's mind, but I believe it was because he was jilted and wanted to exact revenge.