to be honest I don't know if I will ever speak in tongues and perhaps that is just not in my gifting and I wouldn't want to ask unless it was for a good reason anyways, if there is any reason to have it I would want it to be to testify the gospel or to worship God I wouldn't want to use it for myself. and it sounds like it is something not everyone can have anyways but I also would not want to freak anyone out by using it either I have heard some people try to speak tongues and it is like they think the louder the better and it freaked me out that is for sure I visisted this pentecostal church once and this lady behind me was trying to speak in tongues and was insanely loud she kept saying yada yada yada which I think in hebrew means my God my God but I could be wrong about that, anyways hebrew seems to be the main language people gp to when trying to speak in tongues but you would think that if one is using tongues that they would speak in more than hebrew but that is the only language I have heard people speak when trying to speak in tongues.
and they word is trying because just because you know a language doesn't mean when you speak in tongues or try to at least that you are doing so, I can tell the real thing from the fake because the real thing has actual power in it and unless one is wanting it for the betterment of the body I don't know why some want the gift to begin with unless they just want to know what it is like I suppose maybe even with the wrong motives God can still grant things like that
it is to bad I don't speak in tongues because I know many people who if I did speak in tongues would be shocked and amazed and if I told them it was from God then they would want to seek out this God that allows someone like me to speak a different language even my family would seek him more if they heard me speaking in tongues and that is the reason I would want the gift to bring others closer or to God
Frankly I won't darken the doorstep of some churches because of the way they use tongues. I don't need any spiritual conflict and
poking around in places where there is a big lack of discernment is one way to enter into deception. I have no understanding of any particular language being the 'standard' for tongues and I have not seen one in scripture either. You can find the word 'yada' in Hebrew but it does not mean 'my God'...I just looked it up.
My best advice would be to pray and receive clarity regarding all these questions of yours from God.
Now if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask from God, the
One giving generously to all and not finding fault, and it will be given to him.
James 1:5 with the caveat to ask in faith:
But let him ask in faith, doubting nothing, for the
one doubting is like a wave of
the sea, being blown and being tossed by the wind.
and there are prayers written by Paul that you can pray in the first person (in other words for yourself). For example. Ephesians 1
v. 18 I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people
you could do a search on the prayers of Paul for believers and begin to get an idea of how much God want us to know and understand Him and the love He has for us. You are not in danger believing what scripture says, but pray for discernment also.
it is to bad I don't speak in tongues because I know many people who if I did speak in tongues would be shocked and amazed and if I told them it was from God then they would want to seek out this God that allows someone like me to speak a different language even my family would seek him more if they heard me speaking in tongues and that is the reason I would want the gift to bring others closer or to God
Well I don't know who you are meaning above, but unless they understood the language or could interpret, I am not sure how that would work. Remember that those who first received the gift of tongues were taken to be drunk. Remember that Paul gave easy to
understand instructions on how gifts should be used. Decently and in order hardly seems to fit the way so much is done these days.