I'm just working from this. Self-control is a fruit of the spirit. Self-control is not God-control
But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, leniency, graciousness, goodness, belief, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23
Well I agree with you here. I don't deny any of that. What I do deny is that you, your will, your goodness, your obedience, or ANYTHING AT ALL that comes from "you", plays any part or gets any glory or credit, in any way, for your salvation. I'm NOT saying you never did anything good, I'm not suggesting at all that after we are saved the Spirit doesn't empower and leads us to do good things. What I am saying is that God drew you to Himself, you didn't "decide" that in your fallen state. God grants you repentance, so when you in your head feel like you "choose" to turn from your way and towards His, that was by His power not yours, He gets the glory, not you. Now when He resurrects your dead from birth spirit to life and reconnects it to His, that was not by your will or choice, it was by His grace by His power. Did "you" have faith? Yes. You had the exact measure of faith that He assigned you. See my point here. When Paul says salvation is of God least any man boast, that doesn't mean "we shouldn't boast", it means we have no boast, it is ALL Gods and we have nothing at all to boast about.
I usually say this, but haven't since we've been talking, but I don't believe in the osas strawman that says once I get my salvation ticket punched I can sin as much as I want. I condemn that as much as Paul did in Romans. I agree with what you are saying about the Spirit leading us to do good things, but that is also why Jesus gets ALL credit for anything I do good. I understand why you think the way you do, I really do. But you have to see that the tiny bit of credit you want for "hanging in there", "doing the right thing", and "making the right choice". That credit doesn't belong to you and you have to understand it doesn't save you either. The reason people think they can choose to walk away from God and lose salvation is because they falsely thing that their choice to "ask Jesus into their hearts" was what saved them. Neither is true.