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jbrooks5912

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My life has had its ups and downs. In respects to this love has always been a rollar coaster. I always expressed my care for a lady by simply being me.

It was never abouy sex, or about money with me. It was completley about wanting to be loved for who i am and what i represent who is God.

Usually this always happens and its always gets tougher to get over it.

A lady shows interest, i take it slow and watch how she acts to see if she is genuine.

I am always genuine because when a lady likes me all other ladies are non existant.

This is how i always get hurt because my love for someone is always greater than theirs for me. Then a new guy comws long and takes her i guess mainly because i dont spoil them with money or even ask for sex.

I am respectable and i give it i just never recieve it. At times the lady comes back because the dude gets what he wants.

At times i refuse and say look no big deal because u had ur chance and im sorry but one chance is all you get due to this very situation that we are in.

All i ask if a woman to love me unconditionally as i would her and never try to make me jealous to get my attention and to mainly love God.

Jealousy anticks is a huge turn off to me because it always leads to arguments.

So my last ex she wanted alot of guys attention and money. It did not last long because i broke it off due to her only wantimg the wrong kind of attention and refused to respect me who was right there telling her she is beautiful.

But it is what it is, if i ever find my one and only ill be happy but if not oh well ya know?
 
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jbrooks5912

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To me is to love someone is to love them not make them jealous or push away so soon when another giy vomes around.

Jealousy = hurt, anger, confusion.

Pushing away: this causes people total confusiom. As slways like in ly past i always got blamed for how the ladie acyed lol do its my fault they done me wrong when i felt love for tjem lol ok let me show you my battle scars. Cuz thry not pretty my heart has more holes than filled with true love.


This kills the love you two share and causes hearts to go bitter dull and numb towards felling love and its mever fair to the next person because they get hurt over your own hurt.

You lose respect for the real love and even start to question love's true purpose.

I love goving roses weiting poetry and just being around my ladie if i ever get one. Id make her feel safe instead of abused.

Blah love is harder than understanding how to walk a straight line.
 
Lynx

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Short version: "Nice guys finish last."
 
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Sweetmorningdew78

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jbrooks5912 said:
My life has had its ups and downs. In respects to this love has always been a rollar coaster. I always expressed my care for a lady by simply being me.

It was never abouy sex, or about money with me. It was completley about wanting to be loved for who i am and what i represent who is God.

Usually this always happens and its always gets tougher to get over it.

A lady shows interest, i take it slow and watch how she acts to see if she is genuine.

I am always genuine because when a lady likes me all other ladies are non existant.

This is how i always get hurt because my love for someone is always greater than theirs for me. Then a new guy comws long and takes her i guess mainly because i dont spoil them with money or even ask for sex.

I am respectable and i give it i just never recieve it. At times the lady comes back because the dude gets what he wants.

At times i refuse and say look no big deal because u had ur chance and im sorry but one chance is all you get due to this very situation that we are in.

All i ask if a woman to love me unconditionally as i would her and never try to make me jealous to get my attention and to mainly love God.

Jealousy anticks is a huge turn off to me because it always leads to arguments.

So my last ex she wanted alot of guys attention and money. It did not last long because i broke it off due to her only wantimg the wrong kind of attention and refused to respect me who was right there telling her she is beautiful.

But it is what it is, if i ever find my one and only ill be happy but if not oh well ya know?
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Hi! Bro :)




Some people never find love I mean a love that stays forever...and in some people it never happen to them... Some people choose to never find love :) and that's ok it is their decision.

Sometimes we meet few wrong people before meeting the one :) You are still young If I can guess you seem like you are in your 20's, jbrooks ,you have still plenty of time going for you...now that you are not in a relationship focus more on improving yourself and never be bothered on what's happening around you don't rush into a new relationship but keep your eyes on improving more your better you :) but at the same time keep the door open because you never know when you might meet that person.


Good women exist :) they are just over there maybe waiting also to be found by a man like you, or maybe she is already right there in front of you all along. If that happens, don't let your past affects your present. Not everyone is like our exes . I want to believe there is someone out there for you no matter how long ... that person will come along :)

Be blessed ❤
 
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All you ask for is uncomditional love huh? You realize it's not possible for people to give that, right?
You've even deluded yourself into thinking you give it while telling us the conditions you put on love.
So it seems you don't know what unconditional love even means. It means without conditions or requirements.
You can't say you love that way then break up with women for not acting how you want them to. Why? Because those are conditions for your love.

So why can't you find love? I'm willing to bet, in part, it's because you don't even understand love.
 
Lynx

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Careful Sub. He'll block you like he blocked me. :eek:
 
Lynx

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Well he said (multiple times, over and over) that he blocked me. All I did was try out a few theories about what his other thread means, because we were all puzzled about what he was going for with that thread. He took it as criticism or an insult or something and blocked me, then mentioned repeatedly that he had blocked me.
 
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Lynx said:
Well he said (multiple times, over and over) that he blocked me. All I did was try out a few theories about what his other thread means, because we were all puzzled about what he was going for with that thread. He took it as criticism or an insult or something and blocked me, then mentioned repeatedly that he had blocked me.
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Hm ok interesting haha
 
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jbrooks5912

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Subhumanoidal said:
All you ask for is uncomditional love huh? You realize it's not possible for people to give that, right?
You've even deluded yourself into thinking you give it while telling us the conditions you put on love.
So it seems you don't know what unconditional love even means. It means without conditions or requirements.
You can't say you love that way then break up with women for not acting how you want them to. Why? Because those are conditions for your love.

So why can't you find love? I'm willing to bet, in part, it's because you don't even understand love.
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Lol it had nothing to do with me wantimg her to act a certain way lol when you are with someome and all they focus on others and not you for attention its clearly not meant to be. Becauwe if a real love happens then trust me no other person matters except the teo hearts combined.

Lol i know someone would say what you said thats why i laugh at it. Its not no stipulation its what i live by plainly because friend love is hard.

Also its not really tules because the thing is the perfect match for any Christian is someone who is not out to hurt the person but simply to love their heart and not that so called love which is in the world today.

And that kind of love is roughly about greed and sex. At least where i live, but drugs is also a factor. You got me all wrong and to come off as defensive? Lol

I thaught this was a Christian based forum?? And if so why judge when someone expeesses themselves because wait i know ots different thts why.

A unconditional love is indeed without conditions. But i set certain barriers in my own heart after my ex fiance destroid my heart. You do not know everything about me.

I dont put every single thing about me here. But believe just by how you reacted theres no reason to accociate with you because its negative energy. Ill let this up for a little bit then ill place you on ignore.

Lol when a person gets hurt so much u dag on right they going to place walls up and those barriers are just that its a self protecting mechanism people have to prevebt more problems. That is all
 
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jbrooks5912

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One more note friend if the teo hearts combined are meant to be then it would NOT be so easy for one heart to stray away because of someone else.

A big stipulation people put on love is the way a person looks. Lol God never ever said to find love you must look handsom. For God said it is the HEART that defiles a man. He never said his looks make him after my own heart.

SO maybe youre the one who has LOVE all wrong.
 
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jbrooks5912

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Sweetmorningdew78 said:
Hi! Bro :)




Some people never find love I mean a love that stays forever...and in some people it never happen to them... Some people choose to never find love :) and that's ok it is their decision.

Sometimes we meet few wrong people before meeting the one :) You are still young If I can guess you seem like you are in your 20's, jbrooks ,you have still plenty of time going for you...now that you are not in a relationship focus more on improving yourself and never be bothered on what's happening around you don't rush into a new relationship but keep your eyes on improving more your better you :) but at the same time keep the door open because you never know when you might meet that person.


Good women exist :) they are just over there maybe waiting also to be found by a man like you, or maybe she is already right there in front of you all along. If that happens, don't let your past affects your present. Not everyone is like our exes . I want to believe there is someone out there for you no matter how long ... that person will come along :)

Be blessed ❤
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🙃thanks
 
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jbrooks5912

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The world has gone from easy street to fast moving. Everything faster, newer, more advanced.

I may have certain views on love, it may be unagreeable to some people. It really is what it is.

In respects to this statment, as brothers and sisters are should always show and encourage love and respect towards one another.

Just because you do not agree it never entails to be off the wall. Meaning this, I write what is on my heart.

I am who I am and I am who God made me out to be. I lived through alot more than my roommates ans they sont understand but its cool we never talk about it much we just talk normal and no hard feelings expressed until one starts drinking. That is another story within itself.

I am the only Christian in my house. But i get it the whole yoke idea. However, God does put you in peoples lives for a reason, instead of worrying about equaly yoked, maybe you should realize you are there to lead them to Christ!

Same with love, yes i hold certain things as i stated on a level. Because one for how my life alqays been. And for two i am very old fashioned.

I do not believe in spoiling for love money cant buy happyness. If you think so then you are fooling yourself.

I am unique, I am one of a kind. I will not change who God designed me to be to satisfy anyone.

Where the world tells me to be a player to get as many girls i can, God tells me to be a man after His own heart and not worry about the world, it worries about itself.

So there is NO contest here, God wins every single time because He is right. The way that love is expressed in this world is very very wrong because too many guys tell women to be perfect look a certain way.

But me? I dont care if she wears makeup even on her worst of hair days. Because to me she is beautiful bo matter what the world says. It is always about the heart, not apperences. The only way the apperence works i a relatuonship is the heart. If you can look beyond the apperences as I try to do, then the heart is all you need.
 
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LadyInWaiting

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Maybe there is something wrong with you that you are not seeing. Here are some helpful examples that you could take and see if you need to work on them...

As much as we all would like to think that only the heart matters, it's not so. I am a Christian lady...I care about a man's heart. But I would never date a man that doesn't shower, take care of his hair/beard, or washes his clothes. A man needs good grooming habits. Do you have them?

Now ask yourself where are you meeting these women? If it's the way you say...they make you jealous on purpose, maybe these women are not really Christians. Try to find a woman at church, volunteering for an organization, or through friends. Something wholesome.

How is your emotional/mental health? Are you really healthy and at a point to provide for a woman emotionally? Or are you going to leech off of her and depend on constant validation from her? If you need to boost your self-esteem often, then maybe you are too needy. Woman dislike super needy men. Why? Because we want a man to take control and be sure of himself. He's the head of the household and he needs to be strong. You can be needy a few times...but not all the time!

You say you don't have any money...or much money to spoil them. Well if you could spoil them just a little, why wouldn't you? This is another thing women don't like...men who don't treat them ever just to save a few bucks. I'm not talking about diamond jewelry...but maybe some flowers or some popcorn at the theater. And if you really don't have any money...then you shouldn't be looking for a wife you can't afford.

Finally, there is NO unconditional love in human form. Only Jesus loves us unconditionally. You cannot love a woman unconditionally. What if you got married to the "love of your life," you have children with her and then she has a breakdown and kills your kids? Gosh that's very grim but it has happened. Would you still love this woman? The woman who killed your children? What if she cheats on you? What if you trust her to take care of your dying mother while you work and your mother says she mistreats/beats her? What then? There are conditions to that type of love. I think we as humans always have these conditions. We are not perfect like our brother, Jesus.
I think the only exception would be your own kids. I think even if they become the worst of the worst (murderer, rapist, etc.)...parents would still love their kids.

What you should do is work on yourself. Look within and ask yourself "am I the person who I am looking for is looking for?" Learn to be content whether married or not. True love comes from God who loves us all unconditionally. That is great news because you don't have to look for love from a woman to find it!
 
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I have a very calm character, I am kind and well-mannered woman. I love people with a kind soul. I know how to give warmth, care and affection to my man. In relationship I am very caring and faithful. I love to pamper and surprise my man to hold the fire and interest to each other.
 
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oliviapearson2 said:
I have a very calm character, I am kind and well-mannered woman. I love people with a kind soul. I know how to give warmth, care and affection to my man. In relationship I am very caring and faithful. I love to pamper and surprise my man to hold the fire and interest to each other.
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You come across queationable. Either shady or desperate. Bouncing around random profiles asking to chat, posting your phone number in a public thread, as well as your avatar. As well as the copy/pasted post here.
And going into random threads, such as the Flat Earth thread to advertise yourself.
In my experience people who do such things are fake profiles.
So anyone considering just know things seem off.
 
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Beloved132

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Sweetmorningdew78 said:
Hi! Bro :)




Some people never find love I mean a love that stays forever...and in some people it never happen to them... Some people choose to never find love :) and that's ok it is their decision.

Sometimes we meet few wrong people before meeting the one :) You are still young If I can guess you seem like you are in your 20's, jbrooks ,you have still plenty of time going for you...now that you are not in a relationship focus more on improving yourself and never be bothered on what's happening around you don't rush into a new relationship but keep your eyes on improving more your better you :) but at the same time keep the door open because you never know when you might meet that person.


Good women exist :) they are just over there maybe waiting also to be found by a man like you, or maybe she is already right there in front of you all along. If that happens, don't let your past affects your present. Not everyone is like our exes . I want to believe there is someone out there for you no matter how long ... that person will come along :)

Be blessed ❤
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I hope you're right about not everyone being like our exes...haha. I have just one ex....ex-husband. He....yeah, it was bad. I'm so traumatized it has been 3 years since I left and I still can't even sit alone in a room with a man. No dating here. Just surviving the world with Jesus haha.
 
Lighthearted

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Lynx said:
Short version: "Nice guys finish last."
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This isn't entirely true...
Past experiences shift priorities in the woman who is open to God, His wisdom, and His purposes. I would say age has something to do with it as well, but that's just not true for some ladies.
 
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