what if your spouse died tomorrow?

[Goodnewsman]

a little over 15 years ago it felt like my world had come to an abrupt stop. My wife had been complaining the week before while we was in Florida preaching a revival, that she felt so weak, it was all my wife could do to get dressed and go, but she did every night. we came home and immediately took her to the doctor. they told her she was very anemic and needed to give her blood, after she received the blood she perked up and was back to her old self again. as I'm gathering her things together and getting our 3 & 4 yr old ready to go home (I thought) the doctor came in and said "MRS.........YOU CANT GO HOME YOU HAVE CANCER, AND YOU MUST START TREATMENT NOW"

instead of going home my brother took me back to my house to pack the hardest suit case I've ever packed in my life. with every article of clothing I put in her suit case it screamed at me "your wife is going to die"

my reason for this thread is this:
I stood there as the nurse came and pushed my wife away in a wheelchair to do surgery and put in a portacath in her. I was so overwhelmed that when she was out of sight, I feel to my knees right there and tried to pray but I couldn't. like a movie going over & over in my head all I could see was the days I had came home from work aggravated and never told her "I love you" I saw the times when I was selfish and to self center to admit I was wrong. times I should've said "I'm sorry" but didn't. times I went to bed angry

INSTEAD OF PRAYING FOR MY WIFE I BEGAN TO REPENT, AND LATER, ASKED HER FORGIVNESS.

today my wife is cancer free, God has miraculously healed her and even given us another son that the doctor's said would never happen. (we could write a book about his goodness)

my question is this:

• do you take your spouse for granted?
• husbands are you to "manly" to say "I'm sorry?"
• wives are you to stubborn to say "I'm sorry"
• do you miss great opportunities to say "I love you"
• do you go to bed angry?

James 4:14 (KJV)
[SUP]14 [/SUP] Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away

considering how fragile life is:
IF YOUR SPOUOSE (GOD FORBIDE) DIED TOMORROW, WOULD YOU HAVE ANY REGRETS AS FAR AS THE LOVE YOU HAVE SHOWED?

 

[oldthennew]

a great witness...

no doubt we all have room for improvement...improvement, this is the crux of a Christian's walk....

treating our spouses as Christ has commanded should be a daily work-of-love and privilege...
the challenges this presents to us is mighty in character building and pure witness of our love or Him...

 

[Depleted]

a little over 15 years ago it felt like my world had come to an abrupt stop. My wife had been complaining the week before while we was in Florida preaching a revival, that she felt so weak, it was all my wife could do to get dressed and go, but she did every night. we came home and immediately took her to the doctor. they told her she was very anemic and needed to give her blood, after she received the blood she perked up and was back to her old self again. as I'm gathering her things together and getting our 3 & 4 yr old ready to go home (I thought) the doctor came in and said "MRS.........YOU CANT GO HOME YOU HAVE CANCER, AND YOU MUST START TREATMENT NOW"

instead of going home my brother took me back to my house to pack the hardest suit case I've ever packed in my life. with every article of clothing I put in her suit case it screamed at me "your wife is going to die"

my reason for this thread is this:
I stood there as the nurse came and pushed my wife away in a wheelchair to do surgery and put in a portacath in her. I was so overwhelmed that when she was out of sight, I feel to my knees right there and tried to pray but I couldn't. like a movie going over & over in my head all I could see was the days I had came home from work aggravated and never told her "I love you" I saw the times when I was selfish and to self center to admit I was wrong. times I should've said "I'm sorry" but didn't. times I went to bed angry

INSTEAD OF PRAYING FOR MY WIFE I BEGAN TO REPENT, AND LATER, ASKED HER FORGIVNESS.

today my wife is cancer free, God has miraculously healed her and even given us another son that the doctor's said would never happen. (we could write a book about his goodness)

my question is this:

• do you take your spouse for granted?
• husbands are you to "manly" to say "I'm sorry?"
• wives are you to stubborn to say "I'm sorry"
• do you miss great opportunities to say "I love you"
• do you go to bed angry?

James 4:14 (KJV)
[SUP]14 [/SUP] Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away

considering how fragile life is:
IF YOUR SPOUOSE (GOD FORBIDE) DIED TOMORROW, WOULD YOU HAVE ANY REGRETS AS FAR AS THE LOVE YOU HAVE SHOWED?

We've been married for 35 years.

November 21, 2015, after four days telling me the Internet told him it was merely a weird kind of heartburn, hubby finally let me take him to the ER. He was in the process of having a "massive" heart attack. (I do not know what a regular heart attack looks like, although I think I saw it for the preceding four days.)

January 12, 2016. He's still in ICU. The only thing that changes today is which ICU. He's being transferred back to the VA. (He had that heart attack there, but they don't do stents, so, ever since, he's been in HUP -- across the street/four blocks over. It's a huge hospital.)

Regrets? Three!
1. He has never believed me when I told him he needs to live to be 113, because I plan to die with him, and I plan to die when I'm 104. (He's nine years older than I am.)
2. I have always trusted him on his word. He is wrong only about once every ten years, (I keep count lol), and he was wrong just two years ago, so I simply wasn't expecting him to be wrong again so quickly. I regret I trusted him when he told me it was just weird heartburn.
3. I wasn't there to stop whoever transferred their Hep C into hubby's body 30 years ago. We'll never know when or how that person did it, but, had I known, I would have had that person go see a doctor so he wouldn't pass it on to hubby. That Hep C treatment back in 2002 was almost as bad as this and it caused him so many disabilities that hamper his recovery now.

 

[Romans_8]

As it happens, our 29th anniversary is the day after tomorrow.... January 14th.

Any regrets? Not at all. We've had a few uncomfortable 'moments', as every couple does. We both suffer from the same ailment: Humanity!

I loved her the first time I noticed her, 32 years ago, and love her now more than ever. I'm sure Adam would argue the point with me (as would many of you), but I am convinced God gave me the most beautiful woman he ever created!



Loosing her would be devastating, but I know we'll be together, with the LORD, for all eternity!

Love IS forever!

 

[tourist]

Love IS forever!

Diamonds are forever too. At least that is what I've been told. January 14 was the date of my first marriage in 1978 that was a horrific disaster and ended in divorce 1984. I guess the diamond that I gave her was too small. I'm glad it worked out for you.

 

[tourist]

IF YOUR SPOUOSE (GOD FORBIDE) DIED TOMORROW, WOULD YOU HAVE ANY REGRETS AS FAR AS THE LOVE YOU HAVE SHOWED?

I have first hand experience in this. I had no regrets.

 

[Yet]

Thanks for your words.

 

[Goodnewsman]

very well said. and you are right, I would have to argue the point with you because God gave me the beautiful woman he ever created.

As it happens, our 29th anniversary is the day after tomorrow.... January 14th.

Any regrets? Not at all. We've had a few uncomfortable 'moments', as every couple does. We both suffer from the same ailment: Humanity!

I loved her the first time I noticed her, 32 years ago, and love her now more than ever. I'm sure Adam would argue the point with me (as would many of you), but I am convinced God gave me the most beautiful woman he ever created!

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Loosing her would be devastating, but I know we'll be together, with the LORD, for all eternity!

Love IS forever!

 

[Goodnewsman]

HAPPY ANIVERSARY!

As it happens, our 29th anniversary is the day after tomorrow.... January 14th.

Any regrets? Not at all. We've had a few uncomfortable 'moments', as every couple does. We both suffer from the same ailment: Humanity!

I loved her the first time I noticed her, 32 years ago, and love her now more than ever. I'm sure Adam would argue the point with me (as would many of you), but I am convinced God gave me the most beautiful woman he ever created!

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Loosing her would be devastating, but I know we'll be together, with the LORD, for all eternity!

Love IS forever!

 

[Goodnewsman]

Congrats on 35 years of marriage.

I hate to hear that about your husband, I will keep him in my prayers.[

it's hard sometimes trusting God when we don't understand Him, but he is faithful

if he's wrong only once every ten years, you better keep him. LOLQUOTE=Depleted;2438538]We've been married for 35 years.

November 21, 2015, after four days telling me the Internet told him it was merely a weird kind of heartburn, hubby finally let me take him to the ER. He was in the process of having a "massive" heart attack. (I do not know what a regular heart attack looks like, although I think I saw it for the preceding four days.)

January 12, 2016. He's still in ICU. The only thing that changes today is which ICU. He's being transferred back to the VA. (He had that heart attack there, but they don't do stents, so, ever since, he's been in HUP -- across the street/four blocks over. It's a huge hospital.)

Regrets? Three!
1. He has never believed me when I told him he needs to live to be 113, because I plan to die with him, and I plan to die when I'm 104. (He's nine years older than I am.)
2. I have always trusted him on his word. He is wrong only about once every ten years, (I keep count lol), and he was wrong just two years ago, so I simply wasn't expecting him to be wrong again so quickly. I regret I trusted him when he told me it was just weird heartburn.
3. I wasn't there to stop whoever transferred their Hep C into hubby's body 30 years ago. We'll never know when or how that person did it, but, had I known, I would have had that person go see a doctor so he wouldn't pass it on to hubby. That Hep C treatment back in 2002 was almost as bad as this and it caused him so many disabilities that hamper his recovery now.[/QUOTE]

 

[Goodnewsman]

Let me give us MEN something to ponder on:

when there is an "argument" between you and your spouse, who should apologize FIRST?

I know a lot of men who feel like they are to macho to say i'm sorry, but if you have a desire to be a "Godly" man and not just a "good" man (there is a difference) please here me out.

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
[SUP]25 [/SUP] Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

when humanity needed reconciliation to God, who made the first step to reconcile us? of course Jesus

now with Jesus being our example, should we as men swallow our pride and make the first step? even if your right and she's wrong? that's exactly what Jesus did for us

just a thought to ponder

 

[iwant2serve]

After 27 years of marriage I make it a point to tell my wife everyday I love her and give her a hug. God has done the miraculous in our marriage so no regrets there. My only regret if it is really one is that up to this day I have not been able to give her financially what I desire to give her. Even though she never complains or ask for things its what I believe she deserves for being such a loving caring person to everyone.

 

[Goodnewsman]

sounds like your giving her what money cannot buy though and that's LOVE! sounds like you are married to a great woman. thanks for the post, it really touched my heart

After 27 years of marriage I make it a point to tell my wife everyday I love her and give her a hug. God has done the miraculous in our marriage so no regrets there. My only regret if it is really one is that up to this day I have not been able to give her financially what I desire to give her. Even though she never complains or ask for things its what I believe she deserves for being such a loving caring person to everyone.

 

[Depleted]

Let me give us MEN something to ponder on:

when there is an "argument" between you and your spouse, who should apologize FIRST?

I know a lot of men who feel like they are to macho to say i'm sorry, but if you have a desire to be a "Godly" man and not just a "good" man (there is a difference) please here me out.

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
[SUP]25 [/SUP] Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

when humanity needed reconciliation to God, who made the first step to reconcile us? of course Jesus

now with Jesus being our example, should we as men swallow our pride and make the first step? even if your right and she's wrong? that's exactly what Jesus did for us

just a thought to ponder

I honestly think the first person who gets to the point of realizing what went wrong ought to ask for forgiveness first. (AKA the first one who gets over being angry.) I don't think it's a gender question. Both male and female are to be like Christ.

 

[Goodnewsman]

I understand your point and I totally agree, neither should be to stubborn to ask for forgiveness. but my point was to Men who God called to be the spiritual leader of the home, when there is a stalemate and neither is talking, I think he should be the one to take the first step to try to reconcile things.

remember when Eve sinned and ate the fruit first and then gave it to Adam and he did eat? but when God came into the garden he didn't call for sister Eve he called for? ADAM[

QUOTE=Depleted;2439212]I honestly think the first person who gets to the point of realizing what went wrong ought to ask for forgiveness first. (AKA the first one who gets over being angry.) I don't think it's a gender question. Both male and female are to be like Christ.[/QUOTE]